I can't even imagine the mess.

One of the easiest ways is to joke around. While you are eating, say something like "if I keep eating like this I am going to weigh 500 pounds." Get his reaction. If it is bad, you can laugh it off. You may have to tell him eventually, but at least you'll know how he feels about it.

I don't know. Between the fakes and the people who are here just to make money on their weight gain, it sort of ruins everything. You get into an interesting conversation, then you wonder if they are really who they say they are, or if they are going to ask for money.

I think that may be the difference between a feedee and a foodee. A feedee cares about numbers, a foodee does not.

It's one thing to delete an account here, but another thing to become close to another member, and just disappear.

Chat on AOL last night:

strike 1: She had a male screen name ("my ex's"

strike 2: She didn't know her clothing size.

strike 3: I Googled her pictures and they were from a dating site from a woman in another state.

strike 4: She can gain because she inherited a lot of money (fantasy for sure)

I am thinking it may be that there are a lot of thin people around, and a lot of somewhat chubby people around. But there are fewer really big people around, and when someone with that preference sees someone who is really big, they want to make a connection, look, etc. It may be a while before they see someone that size again (who is their age, etc.)

If you are friends with someone and they disappear, it is probably for good reason, unfortunately. Either they were not honest about their marital status, age, gender, gaining intentions, etc. They probably got scared and left.

Why is there a picture of a toilet seat for any profile that doesn't have a picture?

I think you may either have to go for it, or stop. If you try to please everyone, it will be too hard. You don't need to tell your roommate you are gaining on purpose, but you may just want to say that you've stopped counting calories for a while.