Lillyraesmith49:
I’ve known I liked fat guys for a really long time but every time I get with one I always feel the need to keep it on the dl because my friends always make fun of the guy or tease me about it. For example a few years ago I was really into this bigger guy and ngl he wasnt even that big but I was so scared to bring him around my friends and parents because I was scared of how they would react and that it would hurt his feelings and stuff even tho I thought he was literally perfect. so I only hung out at his house and I kept it secret even tho I was hanging out with him nearly everyday because I loved spending time with him. not only was he insanely hot imo but when we ran into eachother at a party and my friends were with me and they asked who he was and I explained he was the guy I really liked and they all started making fun of me and him so I ended up ghosting him which I still regret to this day. Since I have a very large social circle and alot of connections and friends, its really hard to keep things quiet. I just recently started being more open with my friends about my preferences but I feel like most of them dont really care but some of them especially my conventionally attractive guy friends like to make fun of me for it. Another issue is finding a guy who’s my age, tall, and both overweight, and attractive facially. I am into fat guys, not ugly guys but finding someone who checks all of the boxes and also isn’t actively trying to lose weight is nearly impossible and whenever I do find someone and build up the courage to talk to them they think I’m pranking them or something even tho I’m not.

Enas:
Im curious, why is the statistic higher for men? O.o

Curiousv:
If it's just fat fetish and it counts both enjoying being fat and being attracted to fat partners, then the explanation is relatively easy.

Usually the fetish in men is being a FA, and the fetish in women is being a feedee. Of course there are exceptions, but this does indeed seem to be a general trend, we can even notice this by a casual glance on profiles and forums on this very site.

So the question might as well be why are there more FAs than feedees. I have many guesses for this, one of them is that it's easier to be attracted to someone who is very fat, than to actually take the health and mobility and social risks of becoming extremely fat.

Enas:
Im curious, why is the statistic higher for men? O.o

Getobese:
4% of Americans have a fat fetish – making it one of the most common fetishes in the US.

*** 1 in 14 men has a fat fetish Thats (7%) ***

Nutmeg:
What are your tips for virtual feeding when weight gain is not the goal? They want the experience of feeding from a distance.

Ceepert:
Almost noone adds the country they are from in the title of posts in the Personal ads section, especially dating and meetups.
There already is the "current status" circle on everyone showing if they are "online" "afk" or "offline" in the bottom right of their profile picture.
Would it be possible to add the country flag of the user to the bottom left?
I assume this isnt a problem for people form the US as most users are from there, but especially for pretty much everyone else its quite anoying cause you have to open each post to see where the user is from.

Hun, are you safe right now?

Because the more of your posts I read, the more concerned for your safety I become.

Karenjenk:
Im safe.
its not liek soneone is tying me up and feeding me.... not for over a year anyway. i loved those sessions.
if only there was a way to stuff and feel full and not gain so much.
we talked this morning and he said he was committed ot helping my by buying better food. lean mean and salads and the like.

i still want, need?, to make him happy though. but what happens to me of smething happens to him?

Munchies:
Have y'all discussed that? Because every couple needs to have a plan about what they'd do if the other was no longer around - especially if one person is reliant on the other.

Seen what happens when those plans aren't in place. Not just got divorce or abandonment. But other things too like job loss, illness, or death.

It's an uncomfy conversation, but one you need to have - especially for your sake.

Karenjenk:
We have, i have. he wont take it seriously. some of you haveb een sending me messages abotu the fatnasy part of this and yes it is exciting. a total rush. but the reality is exactly what you say. my fear is not that he will run off and leave me but that he will be in a car accident and i will have to be a burden to someone else. its one thing to have him help me get up. it would be a totally different thing if my sister had to move back in or have my BFF take care of me until im on my own again.
425 this morning.
i have hand weights ive been using to build up stregnth.
and ive been walking for 4-5 minutes at a time. several times a day. i'll do mare as im able.

Cattastrophe:
First I would get really active and work out regularly. Not in the way I do now but strength training mixed in with cardio. And I would need a feeder that is on board with this. I have them meal prep and keep track of goals. After a few month when my body has adjusted to the changes that when we'd start the gaining part. But for that there are multiple options/ideas.

Option 1
I stop working out but my feeder still feeds me as if I am. This means the high calorie high protein meals that would have fuelled a work our and training to lift weights goes to a body that sits down all day and lounges. And see how fast i loose muscle and gain fat from lounging but eating as if I still work out.
Option 2
This one works best for cardio but also works for weight lifting. I have my feeder stop the diet made for working out the first few weeks. This means that the diet that mostly likely was only high protein high calorie health meals turns into normal tasty but fatening meals. And the Feeder starts buying snacks to graze on during the day. Then see how long before the weight piles on as non nutrional and fatty foods are introduced into my life. This one works best if my feeder doesn't tell me we are switching and still gaslights me that we are in the part of just working out. And gaslights me into thinking that I'm not gaining weight and they aren't trying to fatten me up.
Option 3
I got this idea from a fanfic but I take a break for 2 months where I let my feeder stuff me. No work outs just stuffing for 2 months like on their birthday or something. Then after the two months see how it affects the working out and the diet. The feeder would stop regulating and just prepare meals. Do I start snacking more often and loose motivation to continue working out. How does the weight gained in those 2 months affect the work out.
Option 4
I continue to work out, but my feeder stuffs me regularly. Then, the feeders goal is to outback the working out. Like a dirty bulk, but the goal is to get me to stop working out. Seeing as the fat added to my body makes me lose motivation and makes working out harder.
Option 5
I stop working out, and my feeder stuffs me regularly and sees how fast i lose the muscles and gain fat. See how fast they can reverse my progress and plump me up.

Theres a few more of these ideas, but they are pretty much just different variations of these 5.

Hun, are you safe right now?

Because the more of your posts I read, the more concerned for your safety I become.

Karenjenk:
Im safe.
its not liek soneone is tying me up and feeding me.... not for over a year anyway. i loved those sessions.
if only there was a way to stuff and feel full and not gain so much.
we talked this morning and he said he was committed ot helping my by buying better food. lean mean and salads and the like.

i still want, need?, to make him happy though. but what happens to me of smething happens to him?

Karenjenk:
For three weeks now I have needed help getting out of bed. The first time i was in shock. I've tied a rope to the bedframe and door to use to help me up and that worked for a while but now I cant do it by myself.

I never intended to be like this. trapped in so many ways. Most of the time is is embarrassing and degrading. I just don't understand how this also is exciting sometimes. I should be ashamed only