Munchies:
TIL that Enas does not understand the difference between discrimination and consequences for bad behavior.

Learning things. Well, I suppose English is not your native language.

Enas:
I made a distinction between the two. You ignored that?

Im always open to criticism, but i would like to be criticised for the things i actually do, not for the illusions other people might have about me...

The***teen:
My knee hurts so bad now when i walk, and they make terrible noises when i walk up stairs and im only just under 300 pounds 😅

Otherday99:
OMG same lol
Each time I take a step up the stairs, the knee 'pops'. I was advised to get it checked, since I'm just 24 and people usually starts getting some serious knee issues at their forties. And I'm just under my 200lbs so it is actually concerning.

I think is also related to the fact that my feet are inward, so maybe the position?

The***teen:
Yes excatly mine also makes the "pop" 😅
Its really uncomfortable, i dont think there is anything to do about it really 😅

Kitsune:
As a woman I actually set my sexual orientation settings to "other." Since from my previous experience on an old account I used to often get unsolicited DM's from male users.

By the way in response to Michaeltoko, I think the original poster deleted his account or got banned.

Munchies:
Just so you know, you aren't supposed to have multiple accounts.

Curiousv:
I don't understand your point. If you lose access to your account (forgot the password, e-mail account where you registered no longer exists), then you should never ever be allowed to take part in this community again, never ever in your life?

Not having multiple accounts is supposed to mean using them actively at the same time, or alternately, pretending to be two different persons.

Munchies:
It makes no sense for you to arrive at this conclusion. I am choosing to chalk this up to English not being your first language and you simply misunderstood me.

When I said you are not supposed to have more than one account, I am going off of what admin as told me. They give you grace if you lost access to your old account, but you will ultimately have to choose an account.

If you don't like that, take it up with admin, not me. I don't make the rules.

Curiousv:
I understood clearly what you said.
Notdjorki wrote about not being able to access an old account, and I gave the benefit of the doubt that this new account might have been created because the old was lost, so we don't have to assume that someone uses two accounts.
It was you who replied about the ban on having multiple accounts, this is why it was you who I replied to, and not to the admins.

Maybe one of us misunderstood Notdjorki. But it's no longer relevant, as it is clear now that the old account has been lost. So there will be no concurrent accounts for the same user.

Munchies:
Just so you know, you aren't supposed to have multiple accounts.

Curiousv:
I don't understand your point. If you lose access to your account (forgot the password, e-mail account where you registered no longer exists), then you should never ever be allowed to take part in this community again, never ever in your life?

Not having multiple accounts is supposed to mean using them actively at the same time, or alternately, pretending to be two different persons.

ThickNewLook:
Why so many more people on now? Do people not get logged out

Viktoshka:
I asked specifically for feedee. Are you feedee?

I didn't say that feedees and feeders necessarily break up. My question was addressed specifically to feedees, because I'm interested in their opinion and experience. But since you answered, tell me how you see the supportive role of the feeder in a long-term relationship?

Munchies:
I'm an FA and feeder. My partner is my feedee. Got him up to 500 lbs as of 2023. That was his limit, and he lost weight for health and comfort reasons. Currently sitting at 430 last I checked.

Only a piece of shit leaves their partner because they are no longer gaining. And on top of that, gaining and maintaining doesn't mean you have to give up being a feedist. You just have to change your approach.

My partner and I do a lot of roleplay and fantasy about how big I'd make him and how. I also stuff him from time to time. You won't gain weight from the occasional.

I also do a lot of FA stuff, but that's outside of your feeder question.

Regardless, most feedist relationships are not transactional. People don't leave the relationship just because the journey ended. And when I say relationship, I do not mean only romantic. I've seen platonic and sexual feedists relationships too.

Viktoshka:
Thank you for such a detailed answer! It would be interesting to hear how you adapted after it reached its limit. You say that the approach simply changes - can you give an example of how exactly? What does such interaction give when there is no active recruitment?

Munchies:
We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Viktoshka:
It's interesting how the perception of the process itself changes. When growth was the main focus, it gave more excitement and drive, and now it gives more comfort and pleasure? What was the most enjoyable thing for you in this new stage?

Munchies:
Honestly? Holding each other. He his big, warm, soft, and fuzzy - like a giant teddy bear. And he smells really nice too. If I'm frustrated, upset, or overstimulated (I'm autistic), feeling the weight of his body wrapped around me instantly soothes me.

I love to lay on top of him after a romp on bed, and I love it when we pull each other close during cuddle time.


There are many other things I enjoy, but this is my favorite.

Glitter Jelly:
OMG! I'm on the spectrum too! Maybe that's why I relate to your posts the most.

I love your answer, it makes so much sense... Ad you know I'm not into gaining myself but I 100% agree with you about how simply being held can be so enjoyable / soothing.

I noticed yesterday that my boyfriend seems to have gained a bit of weight for the way his body felt against mine while we hugged.

Probably this is a combination of me having gained some weight too, but the upper part of his body felt closer and the bottom part farther, as if he's grown a little potbelly.

He expresses more often that he feels fat, and I used to answer that he isn't because I know how self he feels conscious about it.

I'm not sure how to go from there to saying it's OK and he doesn't have to worry about it. I've seen pictures from when he was fat and find him just as, if not even more attractive with more weight on.

I've already told him that, but I don't know if he believed me. Years of being bullied means we both have a lot of internalized fat phobia to work through.

I was obese until a few years ago and he's seen my pictures of me when I was obese. Unlike my previous boyfriend who once admitted he wouldn't have been attracted to me back then, he says I was just as pretty and he doesn't care about my weight.

In bed, when he's laying on his side, it's hard to resist the temptation to feel his new curves and press my fingers into his fat... When I wake up during the night and he's sound asleep, I gently touch his belly, careful not to wake him up. It's so soft...

I noticed his body temperature is higher too, when we cuddle up. I find it very comforting and sleeping in a spoon with him feels almost as good as sex itself.

Malvineous:
So what do you think about all this? And are there any other foods you're curious about?

JN_TumLover56:
This is definitely an interesting read, but I am a little confused about the CPD.

Let’s say that something that has a CPD of 50, does that mean I gotta pay $50 or maybe $0.50 on a certain grocery?? If that’s the case no wonder why people are so concerned about shopping for groceries on the news. 😅

Either way I’d like an explanation for that. Thanks!

ILuvChubbyChix:
CPD - Calories Per Dollar.

If a cookie has 150 calories and costs $3 from somewhere, the math is 150 / $3 -> 50 / $1, or 50 CPD. Most would consider this very expensive.

Imagine a box of cheese sandwich crackers, that contains 16 packages. Each package is considered a serving, 200 calories each. That means the entire package supposedly has 3,200 calories, because 16 * 200 = 3,200. Then suppose the package costs $6. 3,200 / $6 -> ~533.33 / $1, or ~533 CPD.

I hope this helps.

Malvineous:
The upshot of this is that let's say you have a budget of $18 for a snack. If you spend it all on cookies, you'd get a total of 900 calories. But if you spend it on the crackers instead, you'd get 9,600 calories and a much better stuffing for the same money.

Notdjorki:
Hey I lost my account zacandcheese and I wrote a bunch of stories around The Gluttony Chronicles but can’t find them on here. If I search zacandcheese fantasyfeeder they still pop up on google but if you click it says item not found. When I try to redo my email it says the account doesn’t exist, just trying to understand what happened?

Morbidly A Beast:
So you accept that it’s unacceptable for women to be harassed, good. My contention is that it is different but not dissimilar to someone being discriminated against, thus it to being bigoted is an unacceptable behavior do you follow?

Enas:
Here, problems begin. Specifically, what does "discrimination" means? I think the argument you make here is problematic because "discrimination" might include too much stuff. Reporting someone for racist behavior is, by definition, discrimination against racist behavior. Or excluding narcissistic people from positions of power (this never happens btw, but it would be very good) is discrimination against narcissism. You dont need to wait for harm to be done in order to act to prevent it.

Im not saying that discrimination is good, im saying that it depends on context. Is it done rationally? Is it done ethically, to make peoples lives generally better? Can you justify it?

What we usually call discrimination (i.e. Against gender, race, ethnicity and so on) is bad because its unreasonable, unethical and cannot be justified without logical fallacies. Not *merely* because its discrimination.

To conclude with this, yes i get what you (propably?) mean, but its extremely importand how exactly you choose to word it.


About the second thing you said... Nobody needs to justify how they feel. However usually what happens is people confuse what their feelings are with what might have caused it,and they often times talk about the second one. And that might manifest in an offense (accusing someone of their behavior). When someone makes an offense they should also justify it. That already happens to some degree, for example if you report someone, the mods ask you for proof. Thats justification!

(btw wanna continue this conversation, elsewhere? )