Plushie:
Are you only interested in feeder/feedee for getting off or do you try creating an actual relationships with these individuals?
Like, when talking to a feedee or a feeder is it only to talk with them to like get off or do you try and pursue an actual long lasting romantic relationship with them?
Is it just for the fetish or is the fetish a lifestyle?
I've seen many feedees talk about their feeder as just a feeder and not so much as a committed romantic partner... and it sort of puts me off. Like I completely understand having an agreement but agreements is all I seem to see. Like, don't get me wrong I love me a good arrangement... but there doesn't seem to be like any romantic aspect to these agreements and its all sexual.
I don't really see many willing to go out and about with these... I guess I will call "play" partners for the lack of a better word.
It seems to me like a lot of feeders seem too embarrassed to ever actually be seen with a fat partner, in case like friends or family see them out or something.
(sorry if all jumbled and incoherent. or like misspelling and poor grammar. the dyslexia is asking up today lol lol)
Arame:
No, this is an excellent question in my opinion.
The only thing I respectfully disagree with is that the feeders are only in it for an arrangement. Is see waaaay more feedies/gainers, usually the females trying to use feeders, usually the males as tricks and simps. But I can see it from your perspective too. Yes, there’s still a lot feeders, particularly males that still lie about liking big women let alone feederism cause of the way society views big women.
Now, to answer your question, I’m absolutely here to find my bride. Everyone that knows me, knows that I like big women. All the women my area on this website seem to be taken though haha.
Female feeder here. Idk about your take on the whole gender dynamic dicotomy. I'm not even a feedee, but I see a fair amount of male trickery (feedees and feeders). Sure, it's usually not money (although it does happen) but it's usually in the form of getting nudes or trying to force non-feedees into being their feeders.
Oh, the things I've seen in my inbox and DMs ...
This is not to say that men do this more than women trying to scam men. (Although a lot of times, those are men catfishing other men). I'd think it's fair to say they happen about equally.
It is funny when the two collide. Happens fairly regularly. Never ends well.