More thoughts...
When you bring this up you should frame it as a fantasy that's part of sex play. DON'T ask her to gain. DO ask her to work the fantasy into sex play. She can stuff occasionally without gaining. Or she could even pretend she's gained without actually gaining...wear too-tight clothes and complain about how fat she's getting (when actually she hasn't gained an ounce).
Of course if she accidentally gains a pound or two you should make a big fuss over it and praise her to the skies.
Eventually she'll fill in the blanks and figure out you'd like it if she gained, but the next step will be up to her. She should feel less pressured than if you asked her to gain up front.
It is also possible you'll like the "play" feeding so much that actual feeding won't be so important.
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johnxyz wrote:
You can't change a non-feedee into a feedee. You have to decide if you want a feedee or you want a 130 pound girlfriend.
Not always true. Some people don't realize they're feedees until 1) they have an accidental gain and realized they like it; 2) they gain a little for a lover and realize they like it.
One example is Cherries on Big Cuties. She was quite slim until she gained a few pounds for her boyfriend and realized she liked it as much as he did.
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Wannabe Princess wrote:
If it isn't cheating then you can just tell your husband/wife/partner what you are up to and who with - they'll know all about it and there will be no problems/sneaking around etc.
If you feel that you have to hide it from them, then you probably already consider it cheating, even if you wont admit it to yourself.
This.
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HectorForce wrote:
In April-May 2012 I gained 15lbs but because I was underweight to begin with anyway it made little difference at all.
Interesting point. So if you're quite thin to begin with a 10% gain won't be enough.
Perhaps it's necessary to gain to at least 10% more than the "normal weight" for your size to do a proper experimental gain.
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xsweetcherryxl wrote:
Can you guys please give me advice on this like maybe someone on here also had to deal with parents and stuff?
Here's some advice on how to talk to your parents if/when you do gain (either before or after moving out):
Letter from Amanda. Can't guarantee it'll work for you, but it has helped a few!
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ShakesSphere wrote:
It seems that some people in this thread think that gainer fantasy fiction is the real deal and feedees eat a dozen donuts with every meal.
Everybody's different, but some feedees really do eat a lot.
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AnneMarie wrote:
how could I develop a 'fat' mindset, carrying less about what society thinks and just focus on weight gain.
The Glutton's Pledge might help.
Also see
Letter from Amanda for advice about how to talk (and how not to talk) to others about the new you.
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Netherwulff wrote:If you guys could encase the URL in the member's name or some other text that might help a bit. When you post the long URLs, it cuts into the sidebar on the right. ---->
You can name your URLs to shorten them by putting [url=insertlink]textdisplayed. Then, just close off the URL like you normally would.
Good catch!
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