Both people have to want the relationship, and be happy in it. It's not a male thing or a female thing.
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bulletvalentina wrote:
Tbh you can't really trust anyone ....or at least i don't people will tell you anything to get a personal gain or even to play games. It's messed up what happened to you but you do have to be careful and take everything with a grain of salt .Especially guys or girls on the web they can do or say anything and be totally different and or bad people....kinda creepy really.
You have to keep it in the middle. You can't be too cynical, or you may end up rejecting someone who is your sould mate. On the other hand, if you believe everything you hear and fall in love based on that, you are going to get hurt.
It's easy enough to weed out most of the bad ones. If you can't call him, or if you can't visit him, he probably is married or has a girl friend. If the stories are inconsistent, or if he is always making up excuses, then he is not telling the truth.
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LOL. I am 64 years old and married. So I am honest. Now, not many people want to chat with me. So, unfortunately, I think that is why people are not honest. For the record, I have met dishonest women too online. Not just men.
11 years
To me, it isn't real until you meet somone (and even then there is no guarantee.) I have had people who I was very friendly with (not romantic) just disappear after chatting with them every night for months. Many people are not honest. Even basic things like age, gender, martial status, etc.
11 years
Many sites (including CL) will throw the ad out if you mention feederism. So, you sometimes have to use phrases that only someone else in the community would understand. Use a phrase like, looking for for a BBW for a "growing relationship." Be sure to mention that you are looking for someone who likes to dine out.
11 years
This kind of reminds me of a relatioship I had many years ago. The woman was a lesbian, but wanted to put up "straight front" in front of her parents, priest, friends and family. She was not honest with herself or me. Nothing seemed to work out.
Obviously your boyfriend wants to put up a front of dating thin women. If one gets fat, then it wasn't his choice, "it just happened," and it's OK. But he has a fetish for fat women.
You can dump him and blame him, or you can mutually decide to break up. It really doesn't matter because you two just don't belong together.
11 years
I doubt if she would ever understand or appreciate your fetish, and after the newness wears off, you probably won't be happy if you can't keep gaining.
11 years
If you are not sure of the reaction, you can always kid around and see her reaction. Say something like, "If I order dessert, I'll gain ten more pounds (or 4 more kg)." See if she wants you to, doesn't want you to, or doesn't care either way.
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