loopytheone wrote:
I have only ever been nagged by my family, my friends wouldn't dream of it because they know I wouldn't stand for it and would just walk away and not come back if they tried to tell me what to do with my body. But here are my answers.
1. How much did you weigh when you started gaining?
Kinda difficult this one. Growing up I was a chubby kid, I managed to starve myself almost anorexic-ly thin by the time I was 12 and then slowly gained weight until I was up to 155 lbs (I am 5'2). When I was 21 I starved myself down to about 110 lbs then in these last three years I have gone up to around 185 lbs. I guess I would consider the last three years or so as my 'gaining experience' as that is when the fastest growth happened.
2. How much did you weigh when people began to nag or criticize your weight or eating habits?
I was always nagged and harassed even as a little kid. But as for being told that I had put on weight and was unhealthy and 'should care' and do something about etc etc I was about 160 lbs.
3. How much did you weigh when the nagging/criticism diminished?
The nagging has basically stopped now but that is because I actually sat my family down and explained in very simple terms that even they can understand that harassing and nagging somebody who has recovered from an eating disorder is not a great idea. It comes off more like 'hey, remember that time when you were so self-hating and miserable and nearly starved yourself to death? Why don't you be more like that again?'. They finally got it so they leave me alone now.
4. How much did you weigh when the nagging/criticism ceased?
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5. How much do you weigh now?
Around 185 lbs.
Great answers! Thanks.
11 years
mrman1980uk wrote:
The concept of a person being "in the closet" about her or his sexual preferences is a rather odd one, since t is very rare for anyone to discuss these things in public. What exactly would a non-closeted feedee do that a closeted one would not - wear a t-short with "I am a feedee" written on it?
Yeah, that was my initial point. I think mostly there's no difference between in and out of the closet. Exceptions:
1. If you're out, you make no attempt to hide your eating habits or your gain.
2. If you're out, and someone asks you about feedism or whether you're intentionally gaining, you admit it.
3. If you're in, you may lie about these things. Maybe you'll promise to diet even though you have no intention of doing so.
11 years
Of course, it's pretty hard to be 100% in the closet. Even if you overeat in secret, which is not always easy, you can't keep your expanding body in the closet!
Naturally, you don't have to tell people why you're gaining. But they might be suspicious. Especially when you are unapologetic about your gain and express zero interest in dieting!
11 years
Yes. I mean it's pretty awkward to be 100% open about it. What is she going to do, say "I find eating and gaining to be extraordinarily erotic" to every person she passes?
11 years
Some people have told me that family and friends nagged them about their weight and eating habits when they first gained; but after they reached a certain size, others accepted that they were fat and unlikely to change, and quit nagging.
Has this happened to you? Or not? Please answer any of the following questions that apply to you:
1. How much did you weigh when you started gaining?
2. How much did you weigh when people began to nag or criticize your weight or eating habits?
3. How much did you weigh when the nagging/criticism diminished?
4. How much did you weigh when the nagging/criticism ceased?
5. How much do you weigh now?
Obviously, these questions will oversimply some situations--feel free to add details.
11 years
vpvpvp44 wrote:
So i'm getting fatter and i'm loving it and how it feels, how do I get used to myself looking way different
Go to lots of social events. In this age of facebook and instagram etc. you will end up seeing lots of pics of your new, fatter self and will get used to it much more quickly than otherwise.
11 years
"Deciding to Get Fat" on my website may help.
11 years
From chatting with feedees in this situation, it seems that they either:
1. Eat what they want in front of their kids and say "no, the doughnuts are for Mommy" and make the kids eat healthy;
2. Hide their overeating;
3. Share the fattening goodies with the kids and let them eat all they want. They usually have very fat kids.
I personally disapprove of #3.
11 years
