An episode of this show was on the channel my tv was tuned to when I sat down to watch tv this afternoon so I watched the show. I felt so bad for the man.

I don’t remember his name, but he was from Tennessee and he was close to 850 pounds at the time he and his family decided he needed help.

Obviously to get that big, he was a feedee and he had help to get food “informally “.

It was obvious throughout the show that he struggled traveling to the dr in Houston, and during the show he lost about 340 pounds in 4-5 months, eventually dying after a surgery to remove a skin flab at approximately 500 pounds due to a heart attack . They blamed his death on an opioid addiction, but it was clear his body went through a lot.

I have had talks with feedees when they are in the 850 range, bordering on immobility. I tell them they could lose weight and maybe get a normal life, but the odds are long and the road is hard.

So I offer them a choice of eating whatever they want whenever they want and I make them comfortable. Most take that option and embrace immobility knowing they will never be alone. Death at those sizes do happen, but to me it is the comfort of life that matters.

I felt that his last few months were not dignified and happy as they should have been

The people who need that level of care span all ages, sizes , race, and preference. My bother, wayTooThin, needs that level of care everyday and he is not fat at all

[quote]qqkilos:
i like the idea of taking care of someone that can’t do daily tasks but i don’t want to fatten someone up to get there. i am too scared to mess someone’s health up !

If you want to help care for someone, there are thousands of caregiver jobs where it’s common to give baths, help people get dressed, change diapers, give meds and help clients go out in the community. That may interest you

I know several feedees who need this help. I can introduce you to them

I have cared for and fed many immobile people both professionally and personally. You are right about them needing personal care 24/7. What the poster above me described sounds like hell. She should have called in from her bed. Would have been easier on you both.

My best advice that I do with a feedee that wants to be immobile, I take a week, 7 full days, 168 hours, not a minute less. And I do the following.

1) I put them in bed naked
2) I feed them in bed,
3) I bathe them in bed, being very Through
4) I toilet them in bed for pee and poop. Being sure to keep them clean.
5) I turn them every 3 hours to prevent bedsores.

After experiencing complete immobility for a week, where the feedee is not allowed to move at all without my help. I assess how it went physically, emotionally and physiology for the feedee. I would gather that experience now while you still have time to change course if needed. If you go completely immobile, you will be 100% reliant on your feeder until you die.


I have fed 42 men and women. Only 3 have passed this test and gone forward

Yes

Yes it is that one. It is long but very good

Mine is the Ritual. Well written, fun and definitely something I would love to experience

About 1/2 the us is clinically obese now and it’s increasing