Why is it so hard for people to respond to honesty with compassion and curiosity?

Not everyone deserves that level of vulnerability… because they can’t be trusted with it…

For the OP I would say filter for people who are trustworthy and approach life with curiosity and skills to have nuanced conversations. Those who are sex positive are also more likely to be fetish friendly.

They might not share your fetish but they’re more likely to be kind when you do share with them.

And I’d really self reflect if you can live without exploring it and whether that’s a deal breaker for you or not.

Something else that could be an option is ethical nonmonogomy…

Darkest not just in general to do with feeding and fattening...?

I’d say my darkest would have to do with things like coercion and exploitation. Having someone manipulate me into getting fatter than I actually want to and then deriding me for being such a pig then forcing me to eat more...

And then there’s also being manipulated into drinking too much alcohol and then being taken advantage of when I’m sloppy drunk.

Free use is hot! Being fed is even hotter!

There’s something inside me that says it’s silly for really fat women to wear a bra... it’s better to just let everything hang.

And I was curious how you all feel about it?

Would you rather wear one?

Would you rather see women not wearing one?

BTW I do enjoy a man with moobs wearing one tho! So sexy!

I noticed the other day how w i d e my boobs are getting. Like they start underneath my armpit now...

I also haven’t been wearing a bra at all during quarantine. Funny coincidence.

I’m 9 pounds away from 250 pounds! (5’4) That’s fucking FAT!

So I have probably gained at least 50 pounds in the year we’ve been staying home because of the pandemic....

Now that I’m fully immunized and thinking about socializing again I find myself feel self conscious about how my old hook ups and friends and even kids will perceive my new morbidly obese weight.

I’ve bought some new clothes to motivate and excite me... help me feel confident...

And even tho I really love and feel good being fat and soft a part of me is anxious about how others will perceive the drastic change. I mean it’s not just that I’ve gotten heavier it’s that I have crossed that threshold into morbidly obese, I’m now officially in plus sizes, I can’t shop in the regular women’s department anymore... I’m fat FAT now... I’ve gotten SO wide and thick.

Is anyone else dealing with something similar? Feeling like I could use some reassurance and encouragement.

Love for me is where I connect on a personal level in multiple categories... shared values and sense of humor, creativity, EQ, interests etc. The more connections the more love...

Lust is more primal and for me can have nothing to do with love... this is usually a simple matter of shared kinks and mutual attraction or me just wanting to fuck.

Now when there is lust and love I don’t think one necessarily comes before the other in as much they develop together feeding one another.

There is a book called The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin that you mind find interesting. It’s main idea is how we can examine the main themes of our kinks and why they manifest the way they do.

I really liked it, would definitely recommend.

A lot of Doja Cat- Juicy and Moo would kinda be another

Also Lizzo- Tempo and I’m sure she has others.