Mattachu wrote:
Speaking of Japan, I'm curious - are there any Japanese members here on FF? I've not seen any, but it would be pretty cool to learn some of the FA community lingo from a native (my Japanese isn't good enough yet to seek out any Japanese-language equivalents of FF, sadly >_< )
There are a few. I actually talked to one of them. Although I actually lived in Japan for 2 1/2 years and yes big girls DO exist there, but they are a rarity. The few though that there though, wow. The Japanese are actually really nice people though, and one the things that struck me the whole time I was there was how clean and well kept everything is. Japan truly is a trip for anyone whose never been there.As for other places like the OP posted I can't think of any other cultures off the top of my head that haven't already been mentioned that are immensely fat-positive. In the Philippines the locals seemed pretty nice to everyone including their own when I was on deployment.
13 years
Kid A wrote:Layla wrote:
I was part of that 10%
That is SICK!
Actually if you do make another survey I very very strongly urge you to have others help edit it. While I like the idea of the survey there were MANY flaws that limit the conclusions you can make.
How is it sick? Masturbation is a normal part of life/ It's a normal biological function that helps people cope. Look...
at 3:20, and again at approx 5:15
although ya Layla I wouldn't go telling that to just anybody lol.
But that's not something to shame others for.
13 years
You know in some cultures it's considered the polite thing to burp. It means you appreciated and liked the meal (it was tasty). As far as is it cool, in our group of friends we burp and think nothing of it (including the girls), but more than anything I'd probably be weirded out if a stranger did it.
13 years
I think Onigumo and Eatingwelsh nailed it on the head. I think it's a combination of genetic and epigenetic factors that cause a psychological dispostion. Although I have no doubt that changes during different developmental stages of life influence it as well. Both my Mom and Grandma were big women, and they were very loving and caring, even if not perfect. During high school I also had a lot of friends of both genders who were big soo that probably printed itself on my subconscious as well.
13 years
I suppose this method COULD work but there are a lot of unknowns man. There's no guarantee that every big girl you'll ever meet will be a slice of heaven. Body size doesn't preclude somebody from being an (#&!#!) or not really attractive! Personally I don't prescribe to the wingman theory because I've seen too many friends depend on the emergency wingman and get screwed by being forced to "placate" someone that isn't actually desirable. Too risky if you ask me. Whenever someone brings up the wingman tactic I think of the Stephen Lynch song "She's Gotta Smile", which is about the same dilemma but it isn't good for either bbws or FA's mainly cause of the patronizing tone.
13 years
I like reading the banter in the forums because of the interesting discussions people come up with. I also come here in the hope that possibly, just possibly someday I'll meet someone from the New England area.
When I was stuck in Okinawa surrounded by the military it was nice to come on and find people that you can relate to...
13 years
hmmm, turn offs:
1) Girls who are in any way physically fit at all
2) A Squeaky laughter or voice
3) Those with a superiority complex
4) Safety nuts
5) people who try to change others against their will, whether it's a significant other, parents, or friends, etc
6) I know it might sound odd; Blondes
I'm sure there's more but it's late..
13 years
THIS. I have to concur with the16th6toothson. Having a shy personality in general sucks (especially at school, work, or in public when your having a group presentation) but even more so when trying to meet girls in public whether thin or fat. I think part of my problem is I don't get out enough to begin with anyways. When your a big computer nerd who spends most of his time indoors working on his system or fixing something or other it doesn't leave that much time for socializing. Even worse most of my friends are computer nerds as well so it becomes real difficult to meet many new people. By the time the end of the day rolls around and your tired from work, school, etc, as your on the way home the last thing your thinking about is interacting with others; it's kind of a "let me stay in my bubble mentality". I suggest to my friends that we go out and do more but most of them never want to.
the16th6toothson wrote:
too many variables and x factors here to give a solid study answer.
i will say though, that i am the type that if someone is lookin' EXTRA spectacular, if its remarkable hair, impeccable fashion sense, a sweet swagger, an obvious abundance of confidence or sometimes maybe even just a rockin' handbag i will tell them.
someone deserves to be told if they look totally KILLER - even if they get told often anyway!
but it's taken me all of these years to be comfortable in my own skin to be that forward.
think of your average (key word-AVERAGE) early 20's FA who maybe at most has kissed a girl who's "not skinny", who has ALWAYS had a group of friends who made fun of the fat girls who and who still can't even be Mr Cool...Dr Martini Von PerfectTeeth around a gal who's 160, let alone one who might be what he desires at *shrug* i dunno 320
Now say Miss 320 AllAboutLookingFANTASTICBEYONDCOMPREHENSION walks past him at the local mall.
he ain't gonna ask for her number
he's going to stare in disbelief and WISH he knew what to even say.
i was that guy 10 years ago.
we/they are out there. but unfortunately most of them are still in a stage of shellshock and will be for a little while still.
13 years
BBWLover2010 wrote:
Despite this man being an obvious chauvanist, and the fact that many of his points aren't put forward particularly well, there are some points that do make sense.
I'm a lover of the larger lady, that much is obvious from my being on this site. However, from an biological point of view there are some aspects of his argument that hold elements of truth. These do not govern all aspects of human attraction however, as we are a highly diverse species with regards to sexual tastes. An extremely obese person with a high body fat % is, in essence, physically weaker than other individuals within the population. This is why you do not see fat wild animals, because if they possessed genes which caused increased fat deposition, they would be eliminated from the population through predation.
As much as being shallow is seen as a poor quality trait when openly expressed in humans, it is not a bad thing from an evolutionary point of view. If you procreate with the physically fit, beautiful individual then you're more likely to produce genetically stronger offspring, hence increasing the chance for propagating your genes. Humans tend to forget very quickly that we're still animals at the base ends of things, we're still governed by the same needs, desires, instincts that govern all other aspects of life. We are not exempt from the rules, we're simply good at covering them up in the social aspects of modern life. The ability to communicate verbally has given us a new dimension to finding a partner, because personality allows a true relationship to develop. However, do not tell me that if you saw a hot man/woman walking down the street, you wouldn't at least take a look. There is a reason for that, and if you say you don't, then you're lying.
As I said, this isn't a rant against fat people, far from it. But, I'm a biologist first and foremost, hence my explanation. So yeah, in short, this guy is a douche, but there are aspects of truth in a few of his points. Although some of them are absurd (the noises one in particular made me laugh).
I tend to disagree with your thesis bbwlover. From a purely evolutionist standpoint I can think of a lot of animals off the top of my head with a high body fat percentage that could easily destroy smaller predators with ease. Also bodyfat percentage doesn't always ultimately determine strength. I'm smaller and more muscular visually than my friend Charlie. He's a big dude, maybe some would consider him fat. He is still easily 3x stronger and could destroy me, hah. It goes back to the idea that body composition is indeterminant, but this is kinda off topic.
14 years
