I lost my best friend because of feedism. thoughts?

Freddii:
So I’ve been bestfiends with this girl for 3 years and she knew about my kink (I’m a feedee). Recently I told her that I have feelings for her and she said that it makes her uncomfortable and stopped being friends with me. What should I do now? Is she in the right? I feel awful.

Munchies:
From what you described, I don't think your kink was the issue. It seems more that you confessed to her than anything.

That being said, the fact that you said you guys were best friends implies there's much more to the story.

Freddii:
She said it is the issue


With that in mind, did you bring feederism up in conjunction with your confession, or was it something she attached to it herself?

Regardless, I'm sorry. It's hard losing your friend in the best of circumstances. For it to be tied to something as personal as feederism, which many people already have to be in the closet about, adds to the agony.

I would hope that your friendship was strong enough to recover after some time. But that won't happen on its own. Unless she's gone no contact with you, there is still a possibility to find some sort of understanding that you value her friendship more than you would ever value kink.
1 year

What is the category or name of the situations which arouse me?

Exhibitionism, in a way? I suppose it's more akin to voyeurism since you aren't the one physically exposed to the public's attention, but kink muddies the distinction when you've helped contribute to that which is being exhibited.
1 year

Help me make a grocery list for gf

If her goal is to gain weight, anything she can snack on between meals will go a long way, and anything that she can add onto those snacks will be even better. Pita chips are good. Chips with hummus or bean dips are better. Pretzels are good. Peanut butter on pretzels are better.

Really though, more of anything she seems to enjoy a lot and can never seem to restrain herself around is a good choice.
1 year

Polygon's critique of the whale

PolyPinoyPuppy:
Quite a scathing review of the movie. Things like this make me wonder if we'll ever see fat celebrated or even just accepted in our culture.

www.polygon.com/reviews/23351261/the-whale-review-brendan-fraser

Reflection Of Perfection:
I can answer that. No, and it never will be accepted.

Fat people in Hollywood are supposed to be the comic relief. Jackie Gleason, Kevin Smith and Chris Farley are supposed to fall down and fart. Dale The Whale from Monk and Aunt Marge from Harry Potter are supposed to be laughed at. Roseanne, Pam Ferris and Dawn French are supposed to get stuck in chairs and have their shirt buttons fly off and knock people out with them. I've already ranted in the past about how sitcom fat guys are married to smoking hot wives but you never see the fat lead actress married to Chris Momoa or Chris Evans.

The only movie that ever came close to acceptance was The Heat. Why? Melissa McCarthy's weight was never mentioned once, that's about as good as its gonna get. Otherwise show me a movie or TV show where Chrissy Metz is making out with Bill Skaarsgard....you can't because it ain't happening. So when it comes to Brendan Frasier in a fat suit as "Whale" I totally expected the "ew fat ppl" motif from reviewers.

I'll review it myself for my own site. At least I'll judge it for the story, not the size of Frasier's character.


I need to clarify that the reviewer from Polygon isn't saying "ew fat ppl", she's saying that the movie itself is flawed for peddling the "ew fat ppl" motif.
2 years

Polygon's critique of the whale

PolyPinoyPuppy:
Quite a scathing review of the movie. Things like this make me wonder if we'll ever see fat celebrated or even just accepted in our culture.

www.polygon.com/reviews/23351261/the-whale-review-brendan-fraser

Munchies:
This isn't even a good review. The whole thing is "movie bad because fat people are gross and stupid". That's it. There's nothing of substance at all.


Did we read the same thing? That isn't at all how I read the review at all. If anything, the reviewer levies against the movie the same criticisms you have for her review:

In The Whale, Aronofsky posits his sadism as an intellectual experiment, challenging viewers to find the humanity buried under Charlie’s thick layers of fat. That’s not as benevolent of a premise as he seems to think it is. It proceeds from the assumption that a 600-pound man is inherently unlovable. It’s like walking up to a stranger on the street and saying, “You’re an abomination, but I love you anyway,” in keeping with the strong strain of self-satisfied Christianity that the film purports to critique. Audience members get to walk away proud of themselves that they shed a few tears for this disgusting whale, while gaining no new insight into what it’s actually like to be that whale. That’s not empathy. That’s pity, buried under a thick, smothering layer of contempt.


The reviewer's tone is one of absolute disdain for the movie's "fable" and for all of its premises, such as the idea that fat people are disgusting--that they are people *despite* being fat, rather than fat being just one part of their lives:
For a movie that, in the most generous reading possible, encourages viewers to consider that maybe there’s a painful backstory behind bodies they consider “disgusting” (the movie’s word), The Whale seems to have little interest in the point of view of its protagonist, Charlie (Brendan Fraser.


The reviewer came across as nothing but critical of the movie's reinforcement of the status quo perception of fat people as less than human--as whales.
2 years

Polygon's critique of the whale

Quite a scathing review of the movie. Things like this make me wonder if we'll ever see fat celebrated or even just accepted in our culture.

www.polygon.com/reviews/23351261/the-whale-review-brendan-fraser

EDIT: To clarify, the review is critical of the movie because the movie is fatphobic.
2 years

Word processors

stevita:
I do everything on Google docs, and--y'all are gonna think I'm crazy when I tell you this--but if you're ever having writers block, change the font to Comic Sans. Every time I use this trick I suddenly get super productive.

Tentacles:
Do you have any idea why?


It's just like any hack; YMMV. But it seems to work for a lot of people. If you look it up, you'll find a lot of people making this claim for years.

The common explanation is that it's just easy to read, with every letter having a distinct, unconventional, but legible form; it even helps people with dyslexia. Conversely, some people argue that its benefits come from its strangeness, even illegibility; you pay attention to it more easily because it's unfamiliar.
2 years

Betty boop laughs her way into obesity

Clips from this were randomly recommended to me on YouTube. Skip to about 4:15 for the relevant bit.
2 years

Betty boop laughs her way into obesity

If you're thin,

Don't worry over that!

Just begin to laugh

And you'll grow fat!

2 years

Message characters / words

I will say I find it a bit strange that there is a subject line at all, as if these were emails. Wouldn't most people be using these in a similar capacity to DMs/texts? The subject line is pertinent only for the opening few messages, from my experience; no one starts a new DM thread with someone once they've moved to a different subject.
2 years