Enas:
This is a place for discussion, among other things, specialized for and friendly towards feedism. That does not exlude debating worldviews, since you put it like that.

Each person has a theory. And how they subjectivise (how they personally choose to "read".) and then describe their experiences matters a lot. Thats just to point out the relevance of what i like to talk about, with peoples' experiences. Im really interested in these theories / philosophies.

I dont know if you suffer from that, id need to have a conversation about controversial topics with you, to find out.

JN_TumLover56:
Mmm! I was actually going to say something like that. And yes you are not wrong that I may have made some bad posts in the past that I shouldn’t have, but I do learn from the criticism and do better if I have learned something from it. Assuming that it wasn’t just plain old white noise.

Meanwhile here’s you who likes to think that you’re untouchable like some Greek philosopher or Jordan Peterson that everyone thinks is right. But this is not the discussion for that anyways. 🤷‍♂️

However, I did in fact made some GOOD posts and take on certain topics. I even had people messaging me about how they appreciated me for having a solid point and being brave to discuss my opinion on the said-topic, so I am grateful to know that there are people who do appreciate me. Maybe you don’t see that in me, but I (and other people) have. It’s like that saying: “to each their own”.

Also perhaps that I am just some guy, but I am a guy who has been told that I may have a solid point. I can’t care if people don’t like me… I’m not seeking validation of any sorts, but it’s the message that I am trying to convey. That’s what’s most important to me.

Enas:
Do i appreciate the community?

Yes, i do. But at the same time, i know this community doesnt exist in a vacuum. Its prone to most of the problems the larger society currently has. I would like to be able to debate, especially about so called sensitive topics, but people here (as people everywhere!!) seem to suffer from cognitive dishonesty. On top of that, if this place has an ideology its propably a liberal one and thats sometimes problematic in a bunch of technical ways (In moderation for example - the rules are too simplistic, etc).

What do you think?

C00kie:
Unfortunately, being fat is something visible to everyone you encounter, and you can’t control how they feel about it. Even if people aren’t romantically or sexually interested in you, many still have something to say about fat bodies and not all of it is positive.

The reality is - as a fat person you’re likely to get looks and comments, whether from strangers, friends, or even family. Some may express concern about health, while others use it as an easy way to make a joke at your expense. Sadly, fat people remain easy targets, and in many circles, commenting on larger bodies is still seen as acceptable.

The real question is... how much do you actually care about what random people say or do? Do you really want to let others dictate your existence or your happiness?

TheUltimate323:
Well, I don't really care much about the opinions of random people. I'm mainly referring to the opinions of people close to me, like family and friends.
You know, I've always been at a normal weight, but I have a desire to have a very obese body. Making that change makes me uncomfortable when my family makes comments like, "You need to lose weight," "That's not good," etc.

If a person who has always been overweight gains more weight, it is not surprising, however, if a person who has always been in a normal body weight gains a lot of weight, then yes.

Arame:
Your metabolism or BMR(Basal metabolic rate) is directly influenced by your lean body mass index(how much you weigh minus the body fat). The leaner you are, meaning less body fat you have, the higher your metabolism will be. To slow it down, you need to increase your body fat percentage. One pound of fat is 3,500 calories. So, to gain one pound of fat a week, you need to consume 500 calories above your TDEE (total daily energy expenditure) aka maintenance calories per day to reach 3,500 calories in a 7 day span. Because 3,500 divided by 7 is 500.

By my calculations, you being a male at 5’11, 128lbs. Your BMR should be around 1,593. Assuming that you want to live a sedentary lifestyle, then your TDEE should be around 1,911 calories per day. So, to gain, you should be consuming 2,411 calories a day. Hopefully this helps

SumoSized:
It's called a TDEE calculator and they're invaluable to gaining weight when you have a fast metabolism. I used to think it was impossible because I was just thinking I needed to eat over 2,000 calories a day for the longest time. When in reality I needed to eat another 1,000 calories on top of that to gain weight. It's definitely possible to gain with a fast metabolism if just might take a bit longer and take quite a bit more food