For the people who struggle with this: I know how you feel. To make it even worse, before I got together with my first girlfriend, some of my friends were even commenting on how big she was, which made it even more difficult to take the jump. But I am happy that I did (even though things did not last forever), and none of my friends commented on my choice.

There is only one good advice to give: TAKE THE JUMP! It's like jumping in cold water: you're affraid to do it, but when you do, it feels really cold for a few seconds, and that it feels so good.

Your preference will not go away, it will only grow stronger unless you admitt to it. When you truly love a big woman, all your friends will see is how much you love her, not how big she is.

@ItsMeGod: I find your comment quite cynical taking into account that you have such a hard time loving yourself as a big woman. If it is so difficult for you to love even your own body, can't you at least understand that for other people admitting they love a larger woman is a learning process as well?

A calorie is an old unit of energy. It is the amount of energy required to heat up 1 mL of water with 1° Celsius. A Kcal is the amount of energy needed to heat up one liter of water with 1° C. So far the exact science.

When it comes to calories, food intake and gaining or losing weight, it is not an exact science anymore. Experiments have been done in controlled environments where people were put on high calorie diets, and it was clear that not all people gained the same amount of weight, as they should according to the theory that "calories consumed" - "calories burnt" = weight loss/gain.
It is much more complex than that and scientists have not yet been able to understand all of it.

I think both go hand in hand.

Because some men on here lack basic social skills and are only guided by their little brain.


This is not specific to this site, I hear it from women on all kind of sites. I think it is a male ego thing.

It really annoys me that plus sized cloths are being modeled by models normal sized women that happen to be 1-2 size too large for being a "normal" model.
But apparently one of the reasons for this is that most plus sized women don't see fat as beautiful. Clothes being modeled by real plus sized remind them too much about their self hate...

Even I - as a normal-sized person - get these feelings from time to time. My belly is quite big in comparison to the rest of my body. Occasionally I like to stuff myself and admire my own belly, and at other moments I would like to loose a few kg. But then I feel a bit hypocrite for wanting to loose myself, yet liking big women.

When I visited the Chateau Frontenac in Québec, the guide showed us a padding that men in that era used to wear under their skirts to look fatter and wealthier. Times have changed indeed...

I have noticed that feederism very often seems to be linked with BDSM. When I read profiles on here, in most cases when someone identifies as a feedee, they also say they are a sub (or sometimes dom).

Out of curiosity, I am just wondering whether there are also people who are into feederism (either as a feeder or feedee) who are not into the submissive/dominant scene?

As long as they're soft, I like them both, especially if there is a hang :-)

And also congratulations for speaking up for her!

I couldn't have said it better!