How does someone whith feeding urges end up with a 130 pound girlfriend? You can't change a non-feedee into a feedee. You have to decide if you want a feedee or you want a 130 pound girlfriend.

Divine from Hairspray

The Extreme Obesity section used to deal only with people who were over 500 or immobile. Now many of the posts are just about gaining. There were few posts here, but all were related to the largest of the large.

I sometimes get messages from men on this and other sites. I used to try to answer them, but they got too pushy and too annoying. So, I stopped replying to men

They fall under two categories: 1)Men who want me to be into men. I don't care if anyone is gay, but I am not gay, and I don't want to have to try to defend myself for being straight, and being told I should change.

2)Men who want me to discuss my wife (a BBW but not into gaining and a very private person) or someone who wants me to send them picture of women who sent me pictures in private.

I don't think she has met a higher energy. I think she is just plain high.

I don't see how a relationship can last without other things in common. It just seems that if two people are together, and don't like the same music, don't like doing the same things, don't have similar political views, don't have the same goals, it would be miserable for both people.

Dieting slows the metabolism. Green tea doesn't work anyway. It is very likely she will regain more than she loses.

I disagree about discussing it with her. Let nature take its course.

That happened to me on POF. I am banned for life because I wrote something pro-feedee, and enough people clicked the report button.

I remember years ago, we had a chat room on AOL called "fat and gaining," When trols came in, we talked about eating them. That grossed them out, and they left.

I think you should procede with caution. It would be great if you could accept yourself at your weight. However, if you are not into weight gain, being with someone who wants to feed you could be a problem. If he is a hard core feeder, and can't be happy unless you keep gaining until you are over 500 pounds, there are going to be problems. If he likes your weight now, and likes that you gain weight, but does not put pressure on you to gain, that is good.

If you go from guys who don't like your weight because they think you are too big, to guys who don't like your weight because you are too small, you are not solving any problems. You may need to find a happy medium.