PearLover:
Just before I started this thread, I had sent a respectful message to someone telling them that they might have better luck finding a feeder if they changed their profile to state that they were a feedee as the text of their profile clearly indicated that's what they were. And as I proceeded through my search results, I found another profile with the same issue.

I agree that there should be an option for undecided (or maybe "curious" ) and I also think that should be the default. Or maybe instead of a single selection, use check boxes because some people will be into more than one fetish. That's a design issue beyond my control.

But for those who are are looking to connect with others having a complementary fetish, you're not going to get the results you want if you mislabel yourself.

In addition to that, it would be good to put some description of yourself beyond just the basics. I have seen profiles here and elsewhere with the person explicitly saying that they don't want generic responses and not revealing anything else about themselves that could be used to open a conversation.

Maybe it is laziness. If that is the case, you should expect to get responses in kind and proportion to your efforts. That's how the universe works.

Canuck:
munchies, if laziness is really the biggest issue here, it could be solved just by changing the volume to "blank" or "undecided."

your comments around people learning about a community before diving head-first into it are a good observation... back when i first discovered the world of feedism, probably the late 90s, it was such a tiny online community (because most of the world was still offline at that point), this wasn't an issue because everything was so basic. there was dimensions online and maybe one or two other destinations, and the "glossary" was pretty up-front. now there are a lot of spaces with slightly different angles - ff isn't the same as curvage, which isn't the same as feabie, etc. etc... plus the plus-size, body acceptance, (etc. etc.) movements have all added layers of complexity and different lenses...

(it's not a bad thing at all, it's really blossomed in fact... but with that blossoming come opportunists, too...)

Canuck:
keep in mind, this isn't a dating site. how someone shows up in a search is not a concern for a lot of members, because they're not "seeking" another person. we're here for the discussion, the chat (for the chat itself), the stories, etc.

it you want to select potential partners based on a set of filters, try a dayting app like wooplus. it's how my partner found me.

Munchies:
I don't think that's what OP is talking about.

There's a specific user flavor on here that I come across a lot. It's not gender-specific, either. These people will put in just enough effort in their profile to fill it out partially, but then, despite being strictly feedees, not take the two seconds to update their kink from feeder (the default) to feedee.

Then, when interacting with others on the site, they get confused as to why others are treating them like a feedee.

There are a couple of reasons for this.

1. Non-native English speakers that mixed feedee and feeder up.

2. Being lazy.

The first group gets a pass, but the second?

Oy very.

Istg, they are annoying. And they always act so entitled too. Like you feeding them is a gift to mankind when you just wanted to make conversation.

PearLover:
Munchies, I am in complete agreement with you. Thank you.

Bigwideland:
I have a idea, for a restaurant. It is.for gainer and feeders. The concept is to have fat friend feeding booths, and you can just walk in by a meal for a complete stranger and watch them eat it. The person identifying as the feedie and select a style of feeding, and is indicated. So the buyer may only watch, watch and ask question, and last level encourages. How awesome would that be. Clearly some security to protect people’s ideanty would be required.

How cool would that be. What do you think could it work or just become weird?

Slender:
Hi, I have a question. a few years ago I saw a feederism compilation of girls on pornhub that was about an hour long and various pop music was playing there, I really liked that compilation but I can't find it anymore, so I'd like to ask if you know any feederism compilations from po*nhub for a long time😅 ? thanks a lot in advance🙂

PearLover:
... I see a lot of people who label themselves as a feeder, but when you read their profile, they describe themselves as a feedee. I don't see how that's going to help them come up in the search results for those seeking a feedee.

Canuck:
keep in mind, this isn't a dating site. how someone shows up in a search is not a concern for a lot of members, because they're not "seeking" another person. we're here for the discussion, the chat (for the chat itself), the stories, etc.

it you want to select potential partners based on a set of filters, try a dayting app like wooplus. it's how my partner found me.

Southernfeeeder90:
My wife has always been a skinny person, so I hid my FA/feedism kink from her until about a year ago. I was shocked 10 weeks ago when she agreed to attempt to gain weight, but she didn’t think it would work.
I’ve been making her shakes every morning with weight gainer, whole milk, and heavy cream (around 1700 calories in the current version) and the results are finally beginning to manifest. Her ass and boobs have gotten larger and she has a cute little pooch belly.
The issue I’m having is I’m afraid I may give her diabetes if we continue these shakes long term. The original thought was as she gained, she would eventually start being able to get her calories the old fashioned way, but that doesn’t seem to be happening so far. Any advice?

PearLover:
... I see a lot of people who label themselves as a feeder, but when you read their profile, they describe themselves as a feedee. I don't see how that's going to help them come up in the search results for those seeking a feedee. In a nutshell, if you are seeking a feeder, label yourself as a feedee. If you want to feed someone else, label yourself as a feeder.

StoryEnjoyer:
Not really sure what I would be in as a feedee, I am not sure if I would be dominant or submissive, in my minds eye I think it is somewhat neutral a bit of both.

Munchies:
Not all feedists are dominant or submissive. In fact, a good chunk exist outside of power play.

Letters And Numbers:
I feel like I notice a trend, maybe it’s younger people, or more online people, or just life in post 50-Shades world, of folks trying to shoehorn every relationship into a dom/sub power dynamic, which is just kinda funny to me.