A reset warning.

FF Team:
Hi,

Thanks for your suggestion! We completely understand how frustrating message leaks can be, and really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts with us.

The good news is that we’re working on improving the chat system, and aim to fix the root cause of this issue. While adding a workaround like a message might seem like a quick solution, it’s actually a bit more complex than it appears and would slow down progress on a permanent fix.

Thanks for bearing with us while we work on this. We know this has been an ongoing issue for some time but our work schedule for this year priorities the chat system and we hope to have these issues fixed soon.

c00kie
FF Team


I know that most days, DragoRat is in chat during this time. Maybe you can have him warn people? I know he usually does a countdown to when the chat resets. He tends to leave shortly after the chat leaks happen, so I don't think this would inconvenience him.
5 months

Streching- capacity

Munchies:
Since you are capacity training with food, it's best to make the eating experience something to look forward to. Maybe a specific kind of food you enjoy, or explore foods you've never had.

Bigandbloated:
I had to think about this since its been a while since I really enjoyed a meal. Now I realised it's probably because I really enjoy mostly Asian cuisine and live in a small town where most of the local cuisine is pub food. Now I'm really craving some Korean BBQ & spicy Szechuan food, though I'll probably have to dedicate a day to it since it's a 2hr trip to the nearest big city.


Dang, that's crazy. You should probably learn to cook those things.
5 months

Extreme obesity irl

AskDrFeeder:
It seems to me that people who become extremely obese must have challenges when it comes to holding down a job.

How do they do it?

Or do they not have a job? Are they supported by their families or spouses or...? Or are they independently wealthy?

Any stories about dealing with this about yourself or others you know would be interesting.


Question. What would you classify as "extremely obese"? Because that is very subjective. For example, a lot of people consider 400 - 600 lbs as extremely obese, and most of them have regular jobs.
5 months

Coping with obesity

AskDrFeeder:
It seems to me that people who become extremely obese must have challenges when it comes to holding down a job.

How do they do it?

Or do they not have a job? Are they supported by their families or spouses or...? Or are they independently wealthy?

Any stories about how you or people you know have dealt with this would be appreciated.


Question. What do you define as "extremely obese"? That's pretty subjective. I mean, most people would consider the 400 - 600 lbs range as "extremely obese" and most of them have normal jobs.
5 months

Wanting to date a fat guy but i’m scared of peoples opinions

Lillyraesmith49:
I’ve known I liked fat guys for a really long time but every time I get with one I always feel the need to keep it on the dl because my friends always make fun of the guy or tease me about it. For example a few years ago I was really into this bigger guy and ngl he wasnt even that big but I was so scared to bring him around my friends and parents because I was scared of how they would react and that it would hurt his feelings and stuff even tho I thought he was literally perfect. so I only hung out at his house and I kept it secret even tho I was hanging out with him nearly everyday because I loved spending time with him. not only was he insanely hot imo but when we ran into eachother at a party and my friends were with me and they asked who he was and I explained he was the guy I really liked and they all started making fun of me and him so I ended up ghosting him which I still regret to this day. Since I have a very large social circle and alot of connections and friends, its really hard to keep things quiet. I just recently started being more open with my friends about my preferences but I feel like most of them dont really care but some of them especially my conventionally attractive guy friends like to make fun of me for it. Another issue is finding a guy who’s my age, tall, and both overweight, and attractive facially. I am into fat guys, not ugly guys but finding someone who checks all of the boxes and also isn’t actively trying to lose weight is nearly impossible and whenever I do find someone and build up the courage to talk to them they think I’m pranking them or something even tho I’m not.


Imma shoot it straight with you. And I say this in peace and love.

Don't date until you get your shit together. And either set boundaries with your friends or drop the altogether. They are shitty friends and shitty people. No matter who you date, they should only be worried about two things: your happiness, and if they are treating you well.

That's it. They shouldn't care about their size, race, height, hair color, or anything else that doesn't impact the quality of the person.

Right now, you are too insecure to be a good significant other. You might be the nicest, sweetest person in the world. But until you are ready to stop treating your love interests like a dirty little secret, you aren't dateable.

Have you looked into therapy? It might help you navigate your feelings and overcome what's holding you back.
5 months

Interesting fact about fat fetish

Enas:
Im curious, why is the statistic higher for men? O.o

Curiousv:
If it's just fat fetish and it counts both enjoying being fat and being attracted to fat partners, then the explanation is relatively easy.

Usually the fetish in men is being a FA, and the fetish in women is being a feedee. Of course there are exceptions, but this does indeed seem to be a general trend, we can even notice this by a casual glance on profiles and forums on this very site.

So the question might as well be why are there more FAs than feedees. I have many guesses for this, one of them is that it's easier to be attracted to someone who is very fat, than to actually take the health and mobility and social risks of becoming extremely fat.


I won't disagree with that, but that doesn't account for those who fantasize about gaining and don't.

I've also noticed this study doesn't really factor in mutual gainers.

All that said, best I can tell, this study seems to focus on the online aspect. And I get it. It's a lot easier to collect data this way. But it doesn't factor in offline feedists who are nearly impossible to survey.

I wish this was a more scientific study with a robust methodology break down and statistics. It would be easier to check for unintended variables that might influence the results.
5 months

Interesting fact about fat fetish

Enas:
Im curious, why is the statistic higher for men? O.o


Unfortunately, we'd need to get more information on how they collected the data and the participants. The article doesn't go into that, and it shockingly easily to accidentally bias data.
5 months

Interesting fact about fat fetish

Getobese:
4% of Americans have a fat fetish – making it one of the most common fetishes in the US.

*** 1 in 14 men has a fat fetish Thats (7%) ***


I'm curious as to how you found this out.
5 months

How to do a virtual feeding when weight gain isn't the goal

Nutmeg:
What are your tips for virtual feeding when weight gain is not the goal? They want the experience of feeding from a distance.


It depends on what they want out of the experience. Do they want encouragement? Dirty talk? Do they want you to order them around?
5 months

Country flag in profile picture circle

Ceepert:
Almost noone adds the country they are from in the title of posts in the Personal ads section, especially dating and meetups.
There already is the "current status" circle on everyone showing if they are "online" "afk" or "offline" in the bottom right of their profile picture.
Would it be possible to add the country flag of the user to the bottom left?
I assume this isnt a problem for people form the US as most users are from there, but especially for pretty much everyone else its quite anoying cause you have to open each post to see where the user is from.


I'm confused. Your country flag is next to your username whenever you make a post. Right now, I see the German flag next to your username.
5 months