This is one of the many reasons I dislike the terms 'feeder' and 'feedee'. I can't change the community's practices, but I don't use them. When I was actively gaining, with or without help, I thought of myself as a 'gainer'. It gave me much more control, instead of having something done to me by someone else, or imagining my sexual identity only in relation to someone else (and theirs in relation to me).

I know there are some people who agree with me, and some who don't. Makes us a diverse community, which is pretty cool...

I'm sorry, loveto. I'll try it with the recipe again--long time since I measured while making it. If I figure out what's wrong, I'll post. Apologies!