Fantasy Feeder

Beer or wine for a feedee

585Foodie:
1 blunt

Not sure how you've lived without knowing this, but a blunt is neither wine nor beer.

6 months

Partner doesn’t like my kink (rant?)

Dorkula15:
My partner and I have been together for almost a decade now; we’re high school sweethearts and we’re getting married this summer. I’m so excited for this and I love her so much. However, she’s never liked this kink and actually calls it triggering. She grew up a fat kid and was subject to ridicule and constant scrutiny from adults all around her. When I met her in high school, she had tried every diet you can think of and was still a pretty chubby teen.

When I introduced the concept of feedism, I was the feeder and she was the feedee. At first, she was all about it, but then she had a health scare and wanted to quit cold turkey. She’s gone to therapy for her binge eating and has resulted in sticking to a diet and strict exercise regiment in order to lose the weight.

We’re both in our mid 20’s and are now finally going to live together after being long distance for years (Covid, I moved for work and school, it was rough but we made it through). Overtime, I realized that I wanted to be the one fattened up, and now that’s where I am: working on increasing my caloric intake and putting on weight. I’m 5 pounds shy of 200 and I hope to break that number by the wedding.

But as we get closer to the wedding, she’s been losing weight: almost 60 pounds in a year and a half. It’s impressive and I’m proud of her for accomplishing a goal she set forth, but now I’m kind of feeling a certain way. Truth be told I miss her when she was fatter. I liked the way she looked then more than now. And I’m proud of her accomplishment in achieving this goal of hers, but I’m hoping that once we start living together that she’ll start putting on the weight again.

Idk, maybe I’m being immature about this. All I know is that im about to marry the love of my life, and regardless of what she looks like, im sticking by her through thick and thin. Idk if I’m looking for advice or just a safe place to express my feelings. I’m so excited to share life with her, but how do I pursue my wants without hurting my partner? I’m at the point where bottling it up is becoming unbearable. And I don’t want to do anything unfaithful to my partner. I love her far too much for some kink to get in the way. But what do you do when a pillar of the healthy adult marriage is compromised by conflicting ideals?

You would benefit from therapy no matter how this turns out. Kink or not, it's not healthy to be distressed when your partner's body goals are different from your preferences.

You are not ready to get married. Point blank period. This is a recipe for resentment from both parties. Either the marriage won't last or it will be miserable. She has internalized fatphobia and you feel entitled to her body. Whether or not this is something you two can overcome depends on the both of you.

6 months

Munchies

My fellow fat ladies ?

Ditzy:
Great post munchies.
Very important topic.
Me personally I am fine.
If someone isn't and needs help don't be afraid to reach out.

Ty ty.

I love feedism, and I love being part of this community. But there are a lot of bad eggs out there.

And as much fun as it is to pile on said bad eggs, it's extremely important for the community as a whole to rally around their victims.

I think I speak for most of us when I say this community should be a safe, fun place for those to enjoy.

6 months

Munchies

Beer or wine for a feedee

Jaysonpens7:
What is the best results for weight gain after work. 3-4 beers or 2-3 glasses of wine.

If this is for your nurse feedee, go with their preference. Weight gain is easier if they consume what they prefer.

6 months

Munchies

Nurse lunches?

Jaysonpens7:
What would be a good high calorie lunch to pack a feedee who has to eat rather quickly?

Judging by the title, I assume said feedee is a nurse in one of the more hectic fields like the ER. Which means they are probably living off of energy drinks and snacks.

I'd still pack them because they are the only thing getting them through the end of those hectic days. But it's still good to pack a lunch even if they only end up eating it after they clock out.

Focus on high calorie nutritious foods so they have energy and focus. Bonus points if you cook it yourself. Stay away from fried foods because they'll just get soggy.

Do they have any preferences or restrictions?

6 months

Munchies

Force feeding

Kmf:
I am a lover of force feeding once I was able to do it but I felt I did it wrong so I would like to know your experiences with force feeding and tips to be able to do great next time

When force feeding, boundaries need to be discussed before hand. There also needs to be a safe word or gesture in case it gets too much for either partner.

There are several ways to force feed - funnel feeding, hand feeding, time limits, and verbal/text demands to name a few. No matter how you do it, you have to keep your feedee's limits in mind.

Whenever I'm breaking in a new feedee sub so to speak, I am pretty gentle during the first session. This is to gage what their hard and soft limits are. From there, I can decide how forceful I can be.

Sometimes, when dealing with a new feedee, they will insist they are capable of dealing with a lot of things. Take this with a cupful of salt. New feedees often (but not always) overestimate their capabilities. Be prepared to pump the breaks ahead of time. The two of you can discuss if this is a hard limit or a soft limit to overcome in time.

Feedees love it when you respect their capabilities while keeping their safety in mind.

6 months

Munchies

Gaining playlist

Chonkolate:
Sometimes stuffing feels like a workout and I thought wait a minute maybe there is music that matches well with that haha. Am I the only one? Drop tunes if you want

My partner likes to listen to R&B radio when he's stuffing sometimes. He likes having background noise.

6 months

Munchies

Best fattening way to use remote control vibrator?

Finickyfeedee:
I recently got a remote control wearable vibrator and would like to use it to try to condition myself to eat more. Has anyone got experience with this? What’s the best way to do it - every time you eat (within the bounds of appropriate settings, of course), or only when eating a specific fattening food to try to form a strong connection? Or is it more effective to do it only when stuffed to your limit?

Munchies:
It depends on what you're trying to achieve. Keep in mind, you are tying sexual pleasure to an act to achieve a desired outcome.

If you tie sexual pleasure to a specific food or beverage, then you'll get horny whenever you encounter it. If you tie the act of eating (in an appropriate context) to sexual pleasure, then you'll tie your specific flavor of feedism to sexual pleasure.

There is a flip side to this. If you enhance your desire to eat with sexual pleasure, you tie your sexual pleasure to your desire to eat. This can form addictive behaviors. I highly discourage doing this solo because it is very easy to go off the deep-end.

I've done this with a number of feedees, and it's always a good time. But when I do, I have to monitor their behaviors closely and intervene if they start going off the deep end. Also, if you decided to stop or cut back for one reason or another, it's exceptionally hard to stop.

Kimllyy:
Why is it easier to go off the deep end when solo?

Becuase you have no one to support you or hold you accountable. When you associate belly stuffing, an activity you enjoy, with sex, something you also enjoy, it creates a feedback loop in your brain. As such, it makes it easier to fall into addictive behaviors.

That said, if you decide to have a feeding partner, it's better to pick someone that won't enable you. You need someone that will help you to enjoy yourself without destroying your life. Kinda like safety harness.

6 months

Munchies