I agree with the other posters. If people use written communication more now, then it is even more important to be a good speller and good at grammar. I don't mean a mistake once in a while, but constant mistakes are bad.

And the sloppier it gets, the harder it is to decipher. You remember the thing going around the web a while ago? Where a comma could save someone's life? The difference between "Let's eat grandma," and Let's eat, grandma."

Just keep doing what you are doing. There is no need to rush anything. It sounds like you are already gaining nicely

I think you have to look at why the person is gaining. Some people have a "fetish of the week." They read about feedees and decide to become one. The problem, is that once you gain weight, it is pretty permenent.

Others have had a life long desire to be fat. These are people who have stuffed their clothes with pillows. They may not have acted on it because they did not know that people actually gain weight.

I guess these regainers are a separate group. For some reason it sounds good, but their friends or family or doctors talk them out of it. It just takes a while for them to decide the gaining is more of a priority than listening to other people.

Generally, in the US, the clothing indistry considers someone plus size at size 14. I think that is a good guage.

From what I have seen, most of the chatting is in private messages. When you are older than everyone else, like I am, no one really wants to chat with you. I do like the forums however.

There are thousands of members on FF. If a few of them are jerks, just either ignore them, or blow them off.

For the people making the comments, it's like saying that a person will never look really good, because no matter how good they look, they can always look better. This is frustrating to the person you are commenting on.

As was pointed out a while ago on another thread, there is a big difference between FA/BBW,BHM and Feeder/feedee. One is a prference/size, the other is sexual. No one needs to know your sexual preferences.

Obviously no one can hide being a BBW/BHM. As far as sn FA, I just routinely say I prefer large women.

But most people do not talk about being a feedee/feeder. You can quickly gloss over the situation by saying, "I enjoy eating," or I like a partner with a good appetite. But no need to go into details.

While I like to see face pictures, I can understand people needing privacy. If someone is a teacher, do they want their students seeing their weight gain? How about lawyers who need dignity? Or just people worrying about persepctive employers seeing them naked or into fetishes.

Not so easy being 62 either.

That might be like going to a gaming web site, and not talk about gaming. When most people go to a specific web site, they usually want to discuss the theme of the web site.