Fantasy Feeder

Help! my girlfriend is not a feedee. what should i do?

Munchies:
You mention all these sacrifices she is making for you. What are you doing for her?

Dazedandveryconfused:
I know I’m not the perfect boyfriend, so I don’t expect her to be my perfect girlfriend. I understand you have to compromise in relationships but sexual pleasure is very important to me in a relationship and that’s why I’m trying to find ways to strengthen my relationship with the cards I have at hand rather than try to burry a part of me that is deeply ingrained into who I am. that will only make things worse for the both of. I know I may have seemed pessimistic in my original post. This is whole struggle has just been an emotional roller coaster[/quote]

So ... you aren't doing anything for her? She's doing all the sacrifice with nothing in return?

6 months

Munchies

Help! my girlfriend is not a feedee. what should i do?

Dazedandveryconfused:
I would never force her or go behind her back to make her gain weight. I’d also never want to leave her feeling like it’s because of this kink but the issue is that our relationship is struggling because of this kink. I want to be able to work with what I have. I have a great girlfriend that is willing to roleplay feederism with me. It’s also not necessarily the weight gain that’s even the issue. I like her body the way it is but it’s the fact that she doesn’t see this kink in the same way I do. I just want to be able to have the fun of feeding her and enjoying it without her gaining weight. Maybe it’s because we haven’t practiced it enough but it just feels full because it’s not her fantasy as well. I’m really looking for ways to strengthen the sexual bond with my vanilla partner because I like to believe there is hope instead of giving up for a kink. And yes therapy is on the way but I’m looking for people that may have experienced similar things

You mention all these sacrifices she is making for you. What are you doing for her?

6 months

Munchies

Increasing stretch marks and belly hang

Faaaat:
Ever since I started gaining so rapidly my stomach is full of bright red stretchmarks and my belly has started to hang considerably. Somehow now I am obsessed. Weight has become secondary. All I want right now is a belly full of red stretchmarks that reach the top of the belly and more overhang. Is there any way to increase the likelihood of that? I am so desperate.

Karenjenk:
I really think that the fillings sessions that Chris did caused mine to be as extreme as they are.
As my capacity increased so did the tightness of my stomach and there was a time where He kept me filled to the point of difficulty for days and days. he liked seeing me struggle to move or groan when i was so full it hurt to move. Keeping your skin stretched tight ... over stretchedd is key.
No lotion either. You dont want dry skin per se but you dont want it so elestic that it has a chance to adjust and stretch.
AND
give your skin time to heal.

Please use lotion. Don't be out here ashy with all your skin flaking off everywhere.

If you suffer from allergies, this will make them worse - if not from the dust mites, then from the increased dust levels in your house. And to my eczema girlies, we both know she was not talking to you.

Lotion will not prevent you from getting stretch marks. Ask anyone who has been pregnant or any melanated gainers/feedists. Out here using lotion every day and still covered in stretchmarks.

It is winter. You cannot afford to be out here without lotion.

6 months

Munchies

Death/dark feederism chat

Enas:
First of all, lets not forget that death feederism is not a thing, its a category of fetishes, because everyone has it different! And those fetishes share a common quality, usually puting the fetish above even your life. And it can get really weird and complex.

For example, i am a death feedee. I want to be fattened up to death, but that in itself wouldn't be enough to... bribe me into going down that path. What really turns me on are other things that can only exist if im being fattened up to death. For example, i wanna be incredibly weak (as in both physical weakness, and no self control) and absolutely dependent on a feeder woman who's on one hand really sweet (like, she constantly feeds and f*cks me, etc) but on the other hand a manipulative abuser who feeds my eating and cumming addictions in order to make it impossible for me to refuse to give consent, even as she feeds me through heart attacks. Being fed to death turns me on because its proof of how extremely weak and dependent i am to someone who plans to fatten me up to that point, thats what turns me on about it, not death!

In fact i kind of wish to find such a feeder, one to which i can consent to be handled in such a way that i loose the ability to ever retrieve my consent again. Trapped for ever with her feeding and fucking me mercilessly! O.o

And this, Bellyempire, is why feedism isn't inherently death feedism. Enas is a death feedee, and this is what gets him going. Your average feedist won't be into this.

Death feedism is a niche within a niche.

7 months

Munchies

Death/dark feederism chat

Bellyempire:
in my opinion all feedism is death feedism. Being a FA you have to balance the reality that what you prefer your partner to look like comes with grave health implications. As much as we argue otherwise as much as try to paint a rosy romantic picture of feederism at the end of the day if successful it will shorten your partners lives.

at a point its realist feederism.

That makes not a lick of sense.

Feedism comes in many forms. And while they all come with certain levels of risk (except for non-gaining feedism), they are not death feedism.

When it comes to death feedism, death is the point. They want to gain as much as possible until their body gives out. And for some death feedists, dying of obesity related complications is erotic.

Now compare this with other forms of feedism. Non-gaining feedism, the purest form of feedism, is all about erotic eating. The feedee never gains due to the process. Vanilla feedists usually manage their risks just fine - ask the 60+ crowd. The extreme and immobility feedists engage in the riskiest behavior, but most take steps to mitigate the risks. And those who don't still do not want to die perse.

Don't lump us all together just because you are feeling weird about your kink.

7 months

Munchies

Feminized by fat

Enas:
If im well versed on this specific matter...

The direct assosiation between estosterone and agression is an, oftentimes false, oversimplification. What it actually does is to reinforce pre-existing social patterns and behavior. That's where agression comes from in the first place, and not testosterone, by itself.

My source for believing this is this guy:

youtube.com/shorts/sbgmUvV_qpE

Is this helpfull? Do you disagree with it? What do you think?

Munchies:
Yes! This is correct! Social stressors like poverty, unaddressed and underaddressed mental health, and gender roles are better indicators of aggression than hormones.

Fat isn't inherently feminine. It doesn't strip you of your manhood and make you more feminine. Sure, you are more likely to have lower testosterone and higher estrogen levels. But it is not enough to make you not aggressive.

Enas:
Well, it can certainly bury mens' genitals, which is something ive noticed some stories name "manhood", and many people and i certainly find this incredibly hot...

My point is that in our fantasies it often does strip male feedees of our manhoods in some sense!

Especially in my own fantasies, wanting to be weak and dependent, to an evil woman etc.

Okay, but that is something entirely unrelated.

7 months

Munchies

Sedantary jobs

Morbidly A Beast:
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, but people severally overestimate how many calories they burn doing their jobs for reference intense cardio workouts burn like as much as a Big Mac worth of calories ain’t no way your burning that much doing a fraction of the intensity. All this to say I work in a pretty demanding physical job and managed to gain weight just fine, the work is more exhausting now no doubt but putting on weight was a matter of calories in and I didn’t need to switch my job.

I also want to stress again that you should never switch jobs just to gain weight. If you like your job, it pays well, and you don't have a reason to switch jobs otherwise, stay where you are.

One of the reasons people get fat with sedentary jobs is stress. And the pay and benefits aren't always worth it.

7 months

Munchies

Feminized by fat

Arame:
For example, Fitness YouTuber, Brandon Carter opened up about using TRT after his test results showed he had low testosterone levels. And when he posted his results, his doctor was in the video with him and showed that Brandon’s testosterone levels showed zero signs of ever using PEDs meaning he was a lifetime natty.

Morbidly A Beast:
Refutes your own argument do you not see the contradiction

TRT, or testosterone replacement therapy, is a type of hormone replacement therapy (HRT).

There are people in this world who either think HRT is for estrogen or trans people only. It is not. It encompasses a wide range of treatments - of which gender-affirming care and testosterone replacement therapy are subsets.

I mentioned I have PCOS. I take the minipill to manage my hormone levels. That's a type of HRT.

But yeah. Homeboy out here with a 50 - 75% understanding of these topics.

7 months

Munchies

Feminized by fat

Enas:
If im well versed on this specific matter...

The direct assosiation between estosterone and agression is an, oftentimes false, oversimplification. What it actually does is to reinforce pre-existing social patterns and behavior. That's where agression comes from in the first place, and not testosterone, by itself.

My source for believing this is this guy:

youtube.com/shorts/sbgmUvV_qpE

Is this helpfull? Do you disagree with it? What do you think?

Yes! This is correct! Social stressors like poverty, unaddressed and underaddressed mental health, and gender roles are better indicators of aggression than hormones.

Fat isn't inherently feminine. It doesn't strip you of your manhood and make you more feminine. Sure, you are more likely to have lower testosterone and higher estrogen levels. But it is not enough to make you not aggressive.

7 months

Munchies

Feminized by fat

Arame:
Munchies: genuinely do not understand the idea that estrogen is this magical chill pill juice. Ask any woman with PCOS or endometriosis. High estrogen levels make you wanna throw hands with everyone you meet.

www.contemporaryobgyn.net/view/hormone-levels-and-pcos

“All women have testosterone in their bodies. There are two methods to measure testosterone levels:

Total Testosterone
Free Testosterone
Total testosterone refers to the total amount of all testosterone, including the free testosterone, in your body. The range for this is 6.0-86 ng/dl. Free testosterone refers to the amount of testosterone that is unbound and actually active in your body. This amount usually ranges from 0.7-3.6 pg/ml. Women with PCOS often have an increased level of both total testosterone and free testosterone. Furthermore, even a slight increase in testosterone in a woman’s body can suppress normal menstruation and ovulation.“

Smh like I said, I’m done talking to you smh. 🤦🏾‍♂️

Hun, PCOS does not mean you have high testosterone. Yeah, some do, but you are just as likely to have high estrogen or progesterone.

I have PCOS - an official diagnosis with labwork, medication, and everything. I don't have high testosterone. I have high progesterone. My testosterone is fine.

There are different flavors of PCOS, with different treatments depending on the specific flavor. I can see you know what Google is, and that is good. But you need to learn how to use it properly.

7 months

Munchies