"i put you on a diet"
SilverRider wrote:
Firstly, this wouldn't happen because my boyfriend is an FA. But if it DID, I would totally just completely go against him and eat wayyy more than normal really obviously to do the exact opposite and show him he can't tell me what to do.
Firstly, this wouldn't happen because my boyfriend is an FA. But if it DID, I would totally just completely go against him and eat wayyy more than normal really obviously to do the exact opposite and show him he can't tell me what to do.
Interesting reaction! Obviously very sexy from a weight gain perspective!
10 years
Secret gluttony?
billedmeup wrote:
Awesome story, voluptuouslover. You have some of the greatest posts. I love the detail.
Awesome story, voluptuouslover. You have some of the greatest posts. I love the detail.
Thanks!
10 years
Question about gaining
metroidnerd wrote:
Thank you for being sane and getting the thread back on track.
I agree with you, and would only like to add one thing: Maybe she is just happy with herself and happy eating whatever the heck she wants, and does not wanna put up with the BS.
Thank you for being sane and getting the thread back on track.
I agree with you, and would only like to add one thing: Maybe she is just happy with herself and happy eating whatever the heck she wants, and does not wanna put up with the BS.
Thanks for your quality input! I agree that this above is most likely the reason, coupled with she doesn't want to be told what to do. Not to mention once you gain a lot of weight and get used to eating so much more, it isn't really fun to make a change and not eat the same and try and get the weight off.
10 years
Question about gaining
sensualdistender wrote:
It is a very difficult situation for men also. For myself anyway, I find it impossible to bring myself to ask a woman if she has a desire to grow fatter. As you say, there is a very good chance that she would be disgusted and repulsed. Unless of course we met on web site that celebrates fat.
LilRascl wrote:
However, I struggle with wanting to tell any man I'm with, FA or not, and now more than ever since the 75 lbs I put on last year. The primary reason for my nerves? I just know how likely it is that they're not of the same mind, and don't think it's worth the risk of making things weird, or worse, bad.
However, I struggle with wanting to tell any man I'm with, FA or not, and now more than ever since the 75 lbs I put on last year. The primary reason for my nerves? I just know how likely it is that they're not of the same mind, and don't think it's worth the risk of making things weird, or worse, bad.
It is a very difficult situation for men also. For myself anyway, I find it impossible to bring myself to ask a woman if she has a desire to grow fatter. As you say, there is a very good chance that she would be disgusted and repulsed. Unless of course we met on web site that celebrates fat.

All very valid points, Thanks for the input>
10 years
Question about gaining
LilRascl wrote:
I'm going to try and get this thread back on track by responding to OP's questions and thoughts (I'll consider this my "be the solution" moment for the day
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As interesting and, dare I say, fun as this may be to consider, just the statistical odds that she's a closeted feedee are a lot smaller than any other possibility mentioned above. Personally, if I were her and my husband issued an ultimatum about my weight (or any similar characteristic), it would seriously affect my desire to please them. Kind of a jerk move if you ask me.
I've been lucky to never have a partner who expressed their desire for me to lose weight, whether I'd gained some or not (dating FA's almost exclusively saves a lot of hassle!). However, I struggle with wanting to tell any man I'm with, FA or not, and now more than ever since the 75 lbs I put on last year. The primary reason for my nerves? I just know how likely it is that they're not of the same mind, and don't think it's worth the risk of making things weird, or worse, bad.
I'm probably not the best person to reply since I'm not married or in a serious relationship. Perhaps someone else can give you a better answer, but I thought you deserved an answer after the angry nonsense some responded with before!
I'm going to try and get this thread back on track by responding to OP's questions and thoughts (I'll consider this my "be the solution" moment for the day

As interesting and, dare I say, fun as this may be to consider, just the statistical odds that she's a closeted feedee are a lot smaller than any other possibility mentioned above. Personally, if I were her and my husband issued an ultimatum about my weight (or any similar characteristic), it would seriously affect my desire to please them. Kind of a jerk move if you ask me.
I've been lucky to never have a partner who expressed their desire for me to lose weight, whether I'd gained some or not (dating FA's almost exclusively saves a lot of hassle!). However, I struggle with wanting to tell any man I'm with, FA or not, and now more than ever since the 75 lbs I put on last year. The primary reason for my nerves? I just know how likely it is that they're not of the same mind, and don't think it's worth the risk of making things weird, or worse, bad.
I'm probably not the best person to reply since I'm not married or in a serious relationship. Perhaps someone else can give you a better answer, but I thought you deserved an answer after the angry nonsense some responded with before!
Thanks for your input! agreed with the point of someone telling you what to do would actually change things to spite them if you will.
Valid points and I think most who desire their significant others to gain and or share their gaining fantasies with their significant others definitely leave themselves open to being a bit strange and not close to the norm.
Thanks again for your personal take on this.
10 years
Question about gaining
metroidnerd wrote:
Why do all the good threads degenerate into flame wars? I miss the days of constructive conversation, where people could say what they wanted nicely and not take offense at other people's statements. Makes me not want to post on the forums anymore ... and i am pretty active on here.
Why do all the good threads degenerate into flame wars? I miss the days of constructive conversation, where people could say what they wanted nicely and not take offense at other people's statements. Makes me not want to post on the forums anymore ... and i am pretty active on here.
I agree with this and have seen this happen a lot.
As far as discussing another's situation I felt as though the anonymity was there....and I was only wondering what others may think of the situation possibly relating it to their own. I don't plan on being involved in this question any further but merely thought it would be interesting.
Once again I remain with my original thought's as the comment's seemed rather aggressive....and it is clearly not the first time I thought this about other post's i have read.
I also agree that I come here for like minded talk and thought's and don't really try and approach thing's in an derogatory or aggressive manner......with that said this kind of banter isn't what I come here for. Everyone is different OBVIOUSLY and if they want to have a Bitch session, a condescending scolding or a reprimand/lecture so be it......I don't have the time for it.
10 years
Why do guys like ssbbw?
Interesting post ....I had to respond!
For me ....I have always been attracted to chunkier girls when I was younger and years later my desire for more weight on women has increased.
I have always been into weight gain on women and watching the changes as they became bigger. I appreciate weight gain on all women but am most interested in the one I am with to gain weight. I really like everything about my wife as she gains weight....first and foremost her care free and more sexual attitude, definitely her bigger appetite......her bigger belly, fatter sexy thighs, her softer and wider love handles, her big wide bubble butt, her breasts that seem to get enormous, her fat pillowy upper arms with just a hint of cellulite on them and even her heart shaped face as it softens and looks puffier with an ever so slight double chin.
With all this said everyone has a preference and I think there are a lot of guy's that like heavier women other than the ones who actually admit it. I myself as previously mentioned used to like girls on the shorter side and who were chunkier than normal, then I began to like women who were clearly overweight by most peoples standards, as time went on I liked women 200 Lbs., then 250 Lbs. and now I find myself loving the look of a shorter woman that is 350+ Lbs. My wife is 5' 3" and around 175 Lbs. with a fairly small frame/bone structure.....she was at 200 Lbs. after several kids and she looked amazing....I can't help but wonder how she would look at say 250 Lbs. and I even wish I had a crystal ball to see her at 300 Lbs......oh heck I would think she was mouth watering babealicious at that weight....I already know......I guess it is the saying you can never have to much of a good thing.
For me ....I have always been attracted to chunkier girls when I was younger and years later my desire for more weight on women has increased.
I have always been into weight gain on women and watching the changes as they became bigger. I appreciate weight gain on all women but am most interested in the one I am with to gain weight. I really like everything about my wife as she gains weight....first and foremost her care free and more sexual attitude, definitely her bigger appetite......her bigger belly, fatter sexy thighs, her softer and wider love handles, her big wide bubble butt, her breasts that seem to get enormous, her fat pillowy upper arms with just a hint of cellulite on them and even her heart shaped face as it softens and looks puffier with an ever so slight double chin.
With all this said everyone has a preference and I think there are a lot of guy's that like heavier women other than the ones who actually admit it. I myself as previously mentioned used to like girls on the shorter side and who were chunkier than normal, then I began to like women who were clearly overweight by most peoples standards, as time went on I liked women 200 Lbs., then 250 Lbs. and now I find myself loving the look of a shorter woman that is 350+ Lbs. My wife is 5' 3" and around 175 Lbs. with a fairly small frame/bone structure.....she was at 200 Lbs. after several kids and she looked amazing....I can't help but wonder how she would look at say 250 Lbs. and I even wish I had a crystal ball to see her at 300 Lbs......oh heck I would think she was mouth watering babealicious at that weight....I already know......I guess it is the saying you can never have to much of a good thing.
10 years
Question about gaining
So, I am very much into weight gain, on my wife, on other women and even on me at times.
I have a friend that keep's complaining to me about his wife and how much weight she has gained. Probably 60-70 Lbs. since they have been married for 8 years. He say's that no matter what he tell's her in a constructive manner not only about her weight but about their marriage she doesn't show any effort on any level. He has kind of given her an ultimatum and she still doesn't show much effort.
I was wondering if possibly she likes her weight gain and maybe is trying to keep gaining? I know being on this board and knowing my own kinks and fetishes with my wife and even myself I can't wonder if she maybe is a feedee and she has an online feedee relationship going. She works from home on her computer all day and a few other signs that got me thinking. My friend said she doesn't even seem like she wants to lose weight. My friend probably not even knowing about this community probably would not even think of this as something.
Question to all is, am I way off on this one?
Have any of you ladies been in a similar situation and still not opened up to your significant other or spouse, possibly because they seemed so against weight gain or them being into fitness, etc.?
I even thought maybe she might have found another guy that somehow appreciated her for her weight gain and has kind of built up a wall with my friend her husband, anyone think this might be it?
Craziest thing her weight gain is not his only issue with her but certainly is the major one that he talks about. I can't help but think every time he complains about her Fat belly bouncing and her shirt riding up when she reaches up for something how I wish my wife gained 60-70 Lbs.!!!
I have a friend that keep's complaining to me about his wife and how much weight she has gained. Probably 60-70 Lbs. since they have been married for 8 years. He say's that no matter what he tell's her in a constructive manner not only about her weight but about their marriage she doesn't show any effort on any level. He has kind of given her an ultimatum and she still doesn't show much effort.
I was wondering if possibly she likes her weight gain and maybe is trying to keep gaining? I know being on this board and knowing my own kinks and fetishes with my wife and even myself I can't wonder if she maybe is a feedee and she has an online feedee relationship going. She works from home on her computer all day and a few other signs that got me thinking. My friend said she doesn't even seem like she wants to lose weight. My friend probably not even knowing about this community probably would not even think of this as something.
Question to all is, am I way off on this one?
Have any of you ladies been in a similar situation and still not opened up to your significant other or spouse, possibly because they seemed so against weight gain or them being into fitness, etc.?
I even thought maybe she might have found another guy that somehow appreciated her for her weight gain and has kind of built up a wall with my friend her husband, anyone think this might be it?
Craziest thing her weight gain is not his only issue with her but certainly is the major one that he talks about. I can't help but think every time he complains about her Fat belly bouncing and her shirt riding up when she reaches up for something how I wish my wife gained 60-70 Lbs.!!!
10 years
Unexpected changes
So over the last several months my wife has been gaining weight and I have noticed all the Beautiful changes to her figure......which I love.
But there was one unexpected change that I didn't realize until yesterday after she got out of the shower. She was blow drying her hair only wearing a pair of panties. Now I happen to be a panty guy and really like the tiny string sides and small in the front/low and either a g string in the back or brazilian bootie coverage. My wife said those just are not comfortable for every day use.....which I get. So over the last several years she wears a type called Hanky Panky for every day use.....which have wider almost 2+" bands on the sides with lace with a wide Brazilian back and the front has plenty of coverage and goes pretty high up towards her navel leaving maybe a 1" belly exposed. Now I have never really been overly excited about these panties but I am all for her comfort in clothes. So as I saw her very sexily blow drying her hair and smelling the intoxicating aroma of bath soap and shampoo blowing through the air from her skin and hair I was in awe as I always am........as I came in and sat down by her watching her with slight arousal at this point I noticed her once loose fitting Hanky Panky Panties now looked like a tiny G string on her. The side bands 2" plus fabric and lace now rolled over making them a 1/2" or less tiny band.....and them wrapping around her lower waist because they were now very tight. Instead of the front fabric covering up a good portion and extended up just an inch below her navel they were now a very low triangle that was being swallowed up allowing a good 6-7 inches of her tan belly protruding out with a slight belly hang and of course big jiggle with every movement of her blow drying. In the back her Butt dwarfed the fabric once again mostly looking like they were being eaten up in her soft pillowy butt crack. So long story short I really like how the Panties look know. I believe if I am not wrong that these panties says one size fit all......although these happen to be a bit older ones and have probably shrunk slightly I am still excited to think that one size that fits all now look's like a tiny g string panty on my wife which barely fits and almost look's uncomfortable....which I really like. I look forward to her not wearing these "one size fits all Hanky Panky's" anymore with her gaining more weight because that will mean she can't wear them anymore because she is to big and that she goes back to L tiny g string I mean XXL panties....and maybe then XXXL!!!
But there was one unexpected change that I didn't realize until yesterday after she got out of the shower. She was blow drying her hair only wearing a pair of panties. Now I happen to be a panty guy and really like the tiny string sides and small in the front/low and either a g string in the back or brazilian bootie coverage. My wife said those just are not comfortable for every day use.....which I get. So over the last several years she wears a type called Hanky Panky for every day use.....which have wider almost 2+" bands on the sides with lace with a wide Brazilian back and the front has plenty of coverage and goes pretty high up towards her navel leaving maybe a 1" belly exposed. Now I have never really been overly excited about these panties but I am all for her comfort in clothes. So as I saw her very sexily blow drying her hair and smelling the intoxicating aroma of bath soap and shampoo blowing through the air from her skin and hair I was in awe as I always am........as I came in and sat down by her watching her with slight arousal at this point I noticed her once loose fitting Hanky Panky Panties now looked like a tiny G string on her. The side bands 2" plus fabric and lace now rolled over making them a 1/2" or less tiny band.....and them wrapping around her lower waist because they were now very tight. Instead of the front fabric covering up a good portion and extended up just an inch below her navel they were now a very low triangle that was being swallowed up allowing a good 6-7 inches of her tan belly protruding out with a slight belly hang and of course big jiggle with every movement of her blow drying. In the back her Butt dwarfed the fabric once again mostly looking like they were being eaten up in her soft pillowy butt crack. So long story short I really like how the Panties look know. I believe if I am not wrong that these panties says one size fit all......although these happen to be a bit older ones and have probably shrunk slightly I am still excited to think that one size that fits all now look's like a tiny g string panty on my wife which barely fits and almost look's uncomfortable....which I really like. I look forward to her not wearing these "one size fits all Hanky Panky's" anymore with her gaining more weight because that will mean she can't wear them anymore because she is to big and that she goes back to L tiny g string I mean XXL panties....and maybe then XXXL!!!
10 years
Secret gluttony?
browniebelly wrote:
One thing I find really fun/erotic is what I guess I would call "secret gluttony in public". I go to a place where I know I won't see anyone or minimal chance of seeing someone I know and I wear a tight/form fitting shirt. And I just order a big meal and it. I find it especially fun because I'm at a weight where I can somewhat hide my belly if im wearing a sweartshirt or something baggy and loose. But when Im wearing a tight shirt the whole world knows im a piggy. So I guess I enjoy being a fatty with some sense of anonymity.
One thing I find really fun/erotic is what I guess I would call "secret gluttony in public". I go to a place where I know I won't see anyone or minimal chance of seeing someone I know and I wear a tight/form fitting shirt. And I just order a big meal and it. I find it especially fun because I'm at a weight where I can somewhat hide my belly if im wearing a sweartshirt or something baggy and loose. But when Im wearing a tight shirt the whole world knows im a piggy. So I guess I enjoy being a fatty with some sense of anonymity.
Yep....I can relate to this with the anonymity! Although as I have gotten older and have had several times where I had gained many Lbs. and grown a big gut I found myself stuffing myself to the maximum and the urge to show my gain off in front of people who know me but are not extremely close.
For example a waitress that I know from a restaurant my wife and I frequent.....I went for lunch by myself already going through a drive thru and stuffing myself and then going in for a second lunch with my dress shirt buttons ready to burst and my gut hanging a good 6-8 inches out in front of me over my belt. I had easily gained 30+ Lbs. since she had seen me last. It was so exciting and erotic.....when she greeted me when I walked in she said "wow, I haven't seen you in a while" and I know what was going through her mind even though she said nothing about my huge gut and how I had gained.
Another instance was when I saw some friends of my ours who we hadn't seen for a couple of months and I definitely had on a shirt that now was quite form fitting especially in my big old belly and as I greeted the other woman I reached in for a hug and my big belly pushed into her rather aggressively .......she herself had recently gained a good amount of weight. Although she never said anything she couldn't take her eyes off of me all night especially when I stood up I saw her staring at my new big Fat Gut.
I have to say in both instances the women never looked disgusted by any means....they were actually very intrigued in there stares. I think that a lot of people really like seeing the difference weight gain has on someones figure and a lot more people definitely like it ......more than we would think......or at least are very intrigued by it.
Even my wife who never really likes weight gain on herself ....can't stop talking about someone else who has gained a noticeable amount of weight. Not in a derogatory way.....but here are a few things she has said to me about a few of her friends over the years ...."She has gotten really big, she has always had a tendency to get heavy" or "Her eating has finally caught up to her....her metabolism finally changed I guess, she will have a tough time not getting bigger now".
Another time she had a friend for a long time who we would see maybe 3 times a year who had always been much thinner than my wife and several inches taller. This friend would always comment to my wife how beautiful she thought she was....and in a slightly condescending way I assume or either just a standard opening statement she has.... just after my wife would have put on a good 10-15 Lbs. from the last time she saw her....this other woman would say "you look great have you lost some weight". It never failed...early on I overheard the conversation and my wife would usually say "No, I don't think so.....clearly knowing she had gained a good amount of weight". One time after not seeing her for a long time and my wife actually was much heavier probably an extra 20+ Lbs more than even the last time she saw her. This woman said Hi and then said you look beautiful, what is different about you? My wife said "well, I have gained 35 Lbs. and got Fat"!
I was in full erotic shock but at the same time felt kind of sad for my wife because this woman was a really good friend and I could always tell it was a slightly condescending way which she would talk to her knowing damn well my wife was Beautiful, sexy and even more sexy when she gained weight but this skinny woman would kind of always make my Beautiful wife feel fat and not as worthy even though my wife wouldn't tell me this I could kind of tell.
sorry for the long story.......years later after not seeing them for what seemed like forever we met up with this couple and to my surprise this woman always taller than my wife by 4 inches or so was now making my wife look thinner. She must have put on 80+ Lbs. in the past 2 years. I was in shock....I obviously thought the woman looked much better. On the car ride home my wife couldn't top talking about what we had just witnessed. Now as mentioned before my wife never talk's bad about other's gaining weight but this time she was slightly intentional in her delivery. She started by saying, "Wow, I can't believe how big Kim got.....I mean she is huge.....I felt skinny standing next to her, where as I always used to feel so Fat next to her." "It was kind of clear how she got so big.....I never saw her stop snacking from the time we got there....and when the cookies and desert tray came out she just sat down next to it at the table and kept grabbing more....I was scared to grab an extra one or she might slap my hand or get mad at me for taking her supply" . She then told me "she is way past the uncomfortable stage", I said what do you mean? She said "well I always hovered right around the uncomfortable stage and sometimes go slightly past.....ya know, when your clothes stop fitting comfortable and you then gain more weight and try to squeeze into the same clothes and they clearly don't fit, then you get bigger ones and eventually realize they are tight and don't fit anymore so your start wearing stretchy pants and bigger looser fitting shirts that go over your big butt and then all of a sudden you don't realize your starting to bulge out of your stretch pants and your looser top are very snug around the middle, upper arms and breasts but your kind of used to this band aid fix and say what the hell....You are know starting and going past the uncomfortable stage....knowing you don't want to get the next size up in stretchy pants or tops and search for a different brand that is clearly bigger but the same size.....so now you feel thinner all of a sudden.....and at this stage you make yourself feel better and continue eating like a pig because now it is impossible to stop or even slow down."
"So ya, Kim is way past the uncomfortable stage.....I bet she wears the same 2 or 3 outfits now ....when she used to have a new outfit on every time I saw her and her closet was full to the max.....she is more interested in what her next meal or snack is going to be then actually caring about what she is going to wear.....It will be the Black extra stretch XXXL stretchy pants along with a huge loose fitting top that is now very tight and constraining."
The funniest thing is when she greeted my wife this particular time she didn't ask if my wife lost weight!
10 years