Fantasy Feeder

What should i be prepared for, when dating a extremely obese woman?

Curiousv:
Is this degrading, patronizing, and accusatory tone really necessary? All I asked for was some personal experience about what to expect, and what someone who did not experience being with someone of that size might not realize, and it was hypothetical anyway. And of course I'm not 5 years old and I know that a date is not a pet and I should be communicating with her, duuuh.

And all I got was accusations, personal attacks, and wild assumptions. This community is really getting toxic by the day

I'm curious how you arrived at this conclusion, especially since we have had exchanges in which I've been exponentially more harsh than I was here.

If anything, I've been fair and nuanced here.

There isn't any generalized advice anyone can give you besides what LettersAndNumbers has, and I have already said.

I'm straight, so I don't have experience dating women, but I've dated men of varying sizes. I've dated men who are average, chubby, and properly fat. My current partner is about 400 lbs. He was about 500 lbs at his heaviest.

There isn't a major difference in dating a 160, 200, or even 500 lb person. The most I've had to accommodate is his width and weight. And I'm confident you are smart enough to have already thought of that, so I won't insult your intelligence.

Outside of that, all I had to do was communicate and listen to him. He knows he can talk to me about anything, and I'll take it seriously. I regularly check in and ask him how I can make him feel more loved and supported.

In other words, everything I advised you to do is what I do, and I know how to work 100% of the time.

6 months

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Celebration (of sorts!)

Thejokerff:
No pun intended but the scene seems to getting smaller and smaller, far less people into the scene than they used to be

Munchies:
It's something of a snake eating it's tail. I talk about this a lot, but the current feedist ecosystem is toxic AF.

Mind you, this isn't an FF specific thing. I've heard things about the other site - most of it far worse than anything on FF.

Still, things have gotten better. It's easier to find safe, effective tips and tricks. There's a lot more visible minorities too. I also found out that Curvage axed their Candid section, so that's amazing.

Ngl, having that section was dumb and dangerous af. Morality of posting pictures of non-consenting private people to a fetish board aside, that was a lawsuit waiting to happen. Especially as governments are tightening up the laws around these things.

Oddball454:
There was a candid section on Curvage? Oh wow, i never realised.Glad to hear its gone though.

Honestly, I hadn't heard either of it until another user posted a link to a candid post he made ages ago. It was ... horrifying. And he couldn't understand why people were upset about it either.

It's a thing of the past now. May it remain. This is why you'll never find pictures of me online.

6 months

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Best fattening way to use remote control vibrator?

Finickyfeedee:
I recently got a remote control wearable vibrator and would like to use it to try to condition myself to eat more. Has anyone got experience with this? What’s the best way to do it - every time you eat (within the bounds of appropriate settings, of course), or only when eating a specific fattening food to try to form a strong connection? Or is it more effective to do it only when stuffed to your limit?

It depends on what you're trying to achieve. Keep in mind, you are tying sexual pleasure to an act to achieve a desired outcome.

If you tie sexual pleasure to a specific food or beverage, then you'll get horny whenever you encounter it. If you tie the act of eating (in an appropriate context) to sexual pleasure, then you'll tie your specific flavor of feedism to sexual pleasure.

There is a flip side to this. If you enhance your desire to eat with sexual pleasure, you tie your sexual pleasure to your desire to eat. This can form addictive behaviors. I highly discourage doing this solo because it is very easy to go off the deep-end.

I've done this with a number of feedees, and it's always a good time. But when I do, I have to monitor their behaviors closely and intervene if they start going off the deep end. Also, if you decided to stop or cut back for one reason or another, it's exceptionally hard to stop.

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What should i be prepared for, when dating a extremely obese woman?

Curiousv:
As a guy who prefers "moderately large" ladies the most (by FA standards at least), in the range of 200-300 pounds, I still can find very thin and much larger women attractive, as style and personality matters me more than just raw weight. However, my dating experience is only with thin, or with at most about 300 pounds girls.

Lately I've been fascinated with the thought of dating a woman who is much larger than the size range I've been used to, even 500 lbs or more. I've never met someone this big in real life, there aren't really many 300+ lbs in my area, but from online photos and videos I learned that it is possible for me to find even a woman above 500 lbs super attractive.

However, due to my lack of experience with sizes this big, I'm interested in some advice. How should I prepare, what should I look out for, if it so happens that I find someone in the 450-500 lbs or higher category, so I don't cause embarrassment for myself or for her? The more obscure and unexpected the advice, the better. I'm not a complete idiot, so of course I know not to invite her to a difficult hike, or to any activity which would be tiring for her or too difficult for her to navigate. So I'm looking for advice from those who are of that size or have dated someone of that size, and know what people inexperienced with such sizes don't expect.

Letters And Numbers:
I think you’re going to get a bunch of responses which are different variations on “talk to and especially *listen to* the person you’re dating”. I can’t imagine there’s much more to say, but if there is, please be respectful on both sides.

I think the other thing is not to objectify or fetishize her.

Sure, it's nice to learn things to be mindful of your partner, but questions like these makes it very easy to depersonalize your partner. These are the same questions you ask when you get a pet.

Every woman is different. Every fat woman is different. The needs and desires will be different. What works for one will not work for the other.

I know some 400+ people that try to stay active and others who avoid it like the plague. I know some who are fearsly independant and others who love being doted on.

Like LettersAndNumbers says, communication is vital. But you have to keep the person inside the body in your mind first. If you get into a relationship thinking you know how to take care of a 400-500 lbs gf, you're doomed to fail. At that point, you've closed yourself off to growth.

Instead, focus on learning to be a good partner. There's nothing more attractive than when a man asks you "How can I make you feel more loved and supported?" and then follows through. Even if you are already doing everything right, the fact that you asked means you value and cherish her.

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Heavy cream vs coconut cream

Ullthrox:
Coconut cream is 230 calories per 100g while heavy cream is 190 calories per 100g.

I did some searching here and there's not much talk about its effectiveness. (I'm not lactose intolerant but it's way cheaper here.)

Is it as good as heavy cream? And does it have the same quirks like the delayed weight gain effect?

Heavy cream is probably better taste wise, but if it's equal to or better than heavy cream for gaining I plan on buying a lot of it.

Never fear, for I am here!

I did some digging and found this helpful article:

drinksupercoffee.com/blog/nutrition/coconut-cream/

The tl;dr is that the two are comprable. Coconut cream is better than heavy cream in some respects and worse than others. So, if your main reason to get it is price, go ahead.

If you are worried about the taste, you can either cook with it or drink it in something else like a weight gain shake or smoothie. There are scores of recipies in the food section of the forum if you need ideas.

6 months

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Celebration (of sorts!)

Thejokerff:
No pun intended but the scene seems to getting smaller and smaller, far less people into the scene than they used to be

It's something of a snake eating it's tail. I talk about this a lot, but the current feedist ecosystem is toxic AF.

Mind you, this isn't an FF specific thing. I've heard things about the other site - most of it far worse than anything on FF.

Still, things have gotten better. It's easier to find safe, effective tips and tricks. There's a lot more visible minorities too. I also found out that Curvage axed their Candid section, so that's amazing.

Ngl, having that section was dumb and dangerous af. Morality of posting pictures of non-consenting private people to a fetish board aside, that was a lawsuit waiting to happen. Especially as governments are tightening up the laws around these things.

6 months

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Wedge pillow

Munchies:
I can't sleep on my back because I suffer from post-nasal drip. If I try, I'll choke.

Enas:
YIKES! That sounds terrifying!

Munchies:
To someone unfamiliar with the situation, I can understand why you'd think that, but it's more inconvenient than scary.

If I fall asleep on my back and my post-nasal drip starts acting, what happens is I'll wake from my sleep coughing.

Enas:
Ooh i see. How often do you roll over in bed when you sleep? (i do it all the time i think 😅)[/quote]

It depends. Sometimes I don't move all that much. Other times, I'm practically rolling around in my sleep.

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Wedge pillow

Munchies:
I can't sleep on my back because I suffer from post-nasal drip. If I try, I'll choke.

Enas:
YIKES! That sounds terrifying![/quote]

To someone unfamiliar with the situation, I can understand why you'd think that, but it's more inconvenient than scary.

If I fall asleep on my back and my post-nasal drip starts acting, what happens is I'll wake from my sleep coughing.

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Wedge pillow

Morbidly A Beast:
I sleep with my belly stretching towards the heavens sorry yall can’t sleep like that or have a tough time falling asleep I’m out the second I touch the pillow most of the time

Munchies:
I can't sleep on my back because I suffer from post-nasal drip. If I try, I'll choke.

That said, I generally don't struggle to go to sleep. I have a bedtime routine that varies depending on the day's events. If I do the thing, I'm asleep within minutes.

NoMoYoYo:
When I had the sleep test for sleep apnea, the technician asked if sleeping on my side was regular. It is. As far as I can remember, I've slept on my side. I've tried on my back, I just can't do it.

Since starting the CPAP machine, I don't need to toss and turn all night...meaning I'm staying on the same side for 7ish hours each night.

Suffering upon suffering.

Well, the good news is with the proper support, you'll sleep better.

6 months

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Wedge pillow

Morbidly A Beast:
I sleep with my belly stretching towards the heavens sorry yall can’t sleep like that or have a tough time falling asleep I’m out the second I touch the pillow most of the time

I can't sleep on my back because I suffer from post-nasal drip. If I try, I'll choke.

That said, I generally don't struggle to go to sleep. I have a bedtime routine that varies depending on the day's events. If I do the thing, I'm asleep within minutes.

6 months

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