DollGirl:
This is a very valid point, Morbidly A Beast. At this point I am fairly open about being a feedist (on both sides of it) and often have to educate people about the kink, including fat guys I have met on vanilla dating apps and other kinksters not in this community.

However. I have kept quiet about it with regard to my mother, who has been fat her whole life and grew up in an era when there was no body acceptance. She faced a lot of rejection and ridicule and hurt in her life as a result of being fat. Even from my father. I worry that she would see this kink and my interests as trivializing and insulting.

Delta9:
Why is it that even with body positivity and size acceptance becoming mainstream that feedism is still seen as bad by most, even regular fat people who don't share the fetish?
My opinion:
1. Encouraging fat gain is seen as encouraging someone to be more unhealthy. Almost like saying, "I only love you because you're an alcoholic". Substance abuse being analogous to food abuse. And most people see alcoholism as very self destructive. And many people see size acceptance as promoting the person's psychological health by ignoring the cost to their physical health.
2. It's almost the opposite of body positivity/acceptance, because it's saying we want someone to change the way their body already is to please us. It would be one thing to say someone is fat and I love them or like their body that way, but saying someone is thin and to please me they need to change their body by becoming fat is obviously not acceptance. I think to people outside this community, it feels very much like using the other person by projecting our desires onto them and expecting it to manifest in a physical way. Taking control of the feedee's own body and body image away from them.

I think the biggest disconnect in all this is not understanding or believing why someone would want to be or change to become fat. But we know that people actively go on weight loss programs all the time. They want to change their bodies. And promoting that is totally fine (in the mainstream). Yet promoting or helping someone go the opposite direction (to get fat) is bad. So it's obvious that being a healthy happy thin person is still not seen as equal to being a healthy happy fat person.

JN_TumLover56:
Hey fellas, I didn’t mean to make everyone upset. And I’m sorry for making everyone triggered about what I said. But at the same time it kinda did made be now more aware that I can’t always go with the wind. 👍

I know that I am better than this and I will try to do what I can in supporting and defending plus size people. After all I do still believe in body positivity/liberation after all.

JN_TumLover56:
Well I am a content creator myself. And if some people find out that I’m into plus size women then I might try to find a way to pretty much use my platform for saying that I am what I am attracted and find beauty towards.

But when it comes to the whole fetish thing it will more than likely ruin my reputation. Especially since the whole body positivity/liberation is no longer relevant than what it used to be, and there’s literally so much hatred (and health concern-like-talking-down) everywhere you go on social media when you find any content related to BoPo. So sadly I wouldn’t want to go through that hell of people accusing me of “destroying people’s lives/health”.

Unless if one day the modern or future culture finally gets some peace towards diversity and equality. I sadly don’t want to put myself in jeopardy when the online world (outside of this site) now thinks plus size is wrong.