It’s more of a gut feeling. When I meet in person, I am honest from the beginning and watch the reaction and let it happen. They are free to leave whenever, although all have stayed longer then most would expect.

In my experience, they are so hungry by the time they are immobile, that keeping them full and comfortable is a 24/7 job.

There is no weight limit for diapers. There is an approximate waist size limit. Anything over a waist size of 100 inches, it’s easier to go to bed pads. Most of the time when that large, the feedee will be bed bound anyways. By then, you will need a Hoyer lift to move them.

Seeing a feedee live out their deepest desires, the desires some can not admit to themselves, is a thrill. Seeing a feedee completely dependent on me and needing me in every way is a turn on much greater then sex. But that’s just me

Where I work for a day job, I care for people everyday. Bathing, feeding, diapering is common place. At work I have to follow dining plans to keep my job.

I carefully screen those who ask me to be my next live in feedee. Yes, past feedees turned over finances to allow me to care for them properly. That’s why my spare bedroom has a built in Hoyer lift I see no reason to remove.

It’s always my feedees choice. If they put the plate down and walked away, I would let them. So far none have done that and their bedroom is always unlocked

It will happen again. I have feedees eagerly wanting to get with me and become immobile blobs of bed bound fat. That’s fine if they want that, they will get it. I know how to take care of men and women who can’t move at all. Someone asked me if I love these men or women who choose to destroy themselves? Honestly, no. It’s a job to me. I enjoy it certainly, but it’s a job. If that upsets some, I don’t care.

If you want it, do it. Life is too short for regrets.

The hardest thing to go through was realizing that my feedee wanted me to keep going even though we both knew it was going to kill him soon. He begged me to feed him so I did. I was there when his heart stopped.

Yes I enjoy my feedees being helpless. I like putting them in diapers and freeing them from the need to reach a toilet. I enjoy bottle feeding them weight gain shake and encouraging them to have 3rds or 4ths at meal time.

In my experience, the best way to go is keep them fed and happy. Let them dictate what they want. Never say no to anything, even funnel feeding.

With proper care, I have had an immobile feedee comfortable happy and eating for about 4 years on average before health problems catch up. Always let the feedee dictate what he wants. That’s the best way.

Would you consider nyc? You sound trainable