Ahh… sure you can say that. It’s like when I am saying a “softie” I’m trying to say as to describe someone who is humble and kind or even down to earth. Instead of someone who’s very uptight to a point where they come off as a rough person.

I’m essentially saying something similar to what you said earlier but saying it in my own way y’know?

That wasn’t what I was referring to. I was talking about more of a personality type way. As in that you have to be tough and boss-like in a world where people want to bring you down. Or perhaps being such a technical strictly person that always has some sort of edge to them.

Strange metaphor but yeah.

Woah, why did almost everything you said intrigued me a bit?

I think I have heard that it’s a long the lines of being a softie compared to someone who has a strong face and sturdy. If that’s one way to say it?

If this means critical thinking then yes. I’ve done plenty of that and try to acknowledge opinions from both sides to gain some awareness. The responsibility ain’t easy, but it’s for the better to carve out your own path for what you want to believe in.

Well I’m all for doing better for learning from my whoopsie daisies. However I also have heard that when it comes to hate comments some people would rather consider them as “critically truthful” comments. Not like that has anything to do with this conversation, but it’s an interesting thought.

Ahh I see. I always seem to get that confused when it comes the term of “Ebony”.

At this rate, maybe saying “confidence” wasn’t the right thing to say. Perhaps mental state or something along the lines of being slapped in the face for realizing that everything I thought that I believed in was a lie and delusion. Or something like that.

Either way you can’t keep beating the horse that’s already dead.

Oh by the way, did you mean “BBW Ebony” as in African American BBW? Or is it THE Ebony herself?

Happy to oblige. 👍

A skill issue? Really?

You know this comment of mine comes from a good place and not necessarily from self-pity. Even if it sounds like it.

The reason why I say that is because I know that I am not the only person who thinks like this, within and outside of the community. I want to speak because I also want some people feel heard, that kind that fears of getting “munched” by you.

And if I am being honest with you, I have absolutely NO SHAME in liking what I like, I mean I wouldn’t even have this username if I did. Of all the people I have dated (none of whom have ever been equal nor smaller than me) I really don’t care what people think about whenever I am seen with someone bigger than me on a date IRL. However in the online world, people are VERY critical, and as a content creator this is something that I have to be well aware of.

But I have been wrong before, I do acknowledge that. And going back to the topic, I DO hope that I am wrong about all of this especially if it’s about fearing that my fearful delusions would come true. Who knows, maybe it won’t be as bad as I thought… but I suppose we shall wait and see.

I’ve got nothing against weight loss. What I am against is people HAVE to do it in order to start living their best life, even though they could still do that without changing. Some people would look at me and think that I have made it and my life is awesome, but reality is not always the case whatsoever.

Plus I also don’t wish to be villainized by having a preference for liking overweight people. Even since the downward spiral of the prime of body/fat positivity, that took a massive hit on my confidence. Now if it’s something that people don’t want, fine by me. But there will be some people who will come after me for encouraging unhealthy lifestyles. - In the outside world’s general public opinion, not in my control unfortunately.