Did we read the same thing? That isn't at all how I read the review at all. If anything, the reviewer levies against the movie the same criticisms you have for her review:



The reviewer's tone is one of absolute disdain for the movie's "fable" and for all of its premises, such as the idea that fat people are disgusting--that they are people *despite* being fat, rather than fat being just one part of their lives:


The reviewer came across as nothing but critical of the movie's reinforcement of the status quo perception of fat people as less than human--as whales.

Quite a scathing review of the movie. Things like this make me wonder if we'll ever see fat celebrated or even just accepted in our culture.

www.polygon.com/reviews/23351261/the-whale-review-brendan-fraser

EDIT: To clarify, the review is critical of the movie because the movie is fatphobic.

It's just like any hack; YMMV. But it seems to work for a lot of people. If you look it up, you'll find a lot of people making this claim for years.

The common explanation is that it's just easy to read, with every letter having a distinct, unconventional, but legible form; it even helps people with dyslexia. Conversely, some people argue that its benefits come from its strangeness, even illegibility; you pay attention to it more easily because it's unfamiliar.

Clips from this were randomly recommended to me on YouTube. Skip to about 4:15 for the relevant bit.

If you're thin,

Don't worry over that!

Just begin to laugh

And you'll grow fat!

I will say I find it a bit strange that there is a subject line at all, as if these were emails. Wouldn't most people be using these in a similar capacity to DMs/texts? The subject line is pertinent only for the opening few messages, from my experience; no one starts a new DM thread with someone once they've moved to a different subject.

A relationship where talking to each other is pointless is a relationship that needs work or won't work.

Your account says its existed for 6 years, so I'm sure you won't be surprised to learn that many, if not most, people here live in fairly fatphobic cultures. I can't speak for everyone, but I'm not "out of the closet" as it were about this kink. But just like any kink, it's not something that needs to be shared with the world-only with those with whom you want to be intimate and with whom you intend to put your trust.

I told my partner about this kink--both the aspect of liking larger bodies and the feederism part--and they were understanding and encouraging that I find someone with whom to share this kink since it wasn't something they could indulge.

I say that not to brag, but to explain why I think that at the very least you should be able to tell your girlfriend about your preferences if you seriously think she is someone you can see yourself sharing a life with. Indeed, I'd rather give her the benefit of the doubt because I don't know her for sure; it's very likely that your fear of disclosing these preferences to her is unfounded. Even if she has expressed dislike for larger bodies or shows a rigorous adherence to societal expectations of fitness, many of us merely parrot what we're expected to say in any given situation.

So I have to ask: is there a specific reason why you don't think she would understand? What are the consequences you fear for disclosing your preferences? Will you be happy if these tastes remain in fantasy? Or will you be miserable in any relationship where you aren't even allowed to talk about what you enjoy?

The rounder the better, for me. Hardly even matters what size; if we're talking strictly about belly fetishes, I'd even say that bellies on lighter people who haven't got as much padding can be more alluring to me because they retain their shape more and respond more dramatically to stuffing.

I think you aren't alone in not wanting to do the traditional thing of breaking your back over work until retirement. This is one of the talking points of the antiwork movement, which aims to change the culture of work so that it serves the needs and happiness of workers rather than merely generating revenue for corporations and capital owners.

Regardless of your stance on that movement, you have a good reason to want to enjoy your life while you have the ability to. Obviously this is difficult without sacrificing some time and effort toward work, but your motivations are sensible.

I might be speaking to simply assuage myself, of course; I am planning to go back to school for a creative writing MFA rather than continue my current job as a software engineer, because while I am reasonably good at the latter, it doesn't spark the joy of the former. I am willing to sacrifice financial gain for a career writing books or even just teaching about writing because it is my passion.

I think it is important to find a career that will enable you to live the life you want to live now, rather than 50 years from now. Maybe that means continuing on your current path and saving up money for an early retirement. Ultimately only you will know what will make you happy, and you will need to balance all of your desires against one another, but the goal is to be happy. A life lived in misery is no life at all.

Can't speak about OF (you asked about it in another post, which I've quoted above), but I can talk about why I show my face here even if I don't put any other pictures of me up.

I've moved out of my parents' house, which makes me less worried about potential awkward interactions with immediate family members. The likelihood they'd find my picture/involvement on this site seems slim to begin with.

I also have no social media presence to speak of outside of this site and maybe reddit, if you can count that. As a result, the only people I'd be worried about finding out about my involvement in this community are my friends, and frankly I don't care if they find out on their own that I'm into this.

For your case, though, remember that if it exists on the internet, it is there forever and you will never be able to guarantee where it goes or how it's used. If you're worried about intimate pictures of yourself being leaked and used without your permission to disadvantage you, don't put your pictures on the internet. You should also be careful of sending those kinds of pictures to people directly, regardless of your relationship with them.