Girls heavier than guys

BigBallBellyGirl:
I've always been fatter than all the boys/men my age, as well as the fattest kid of any gender in school. In college, I was around 350 and dated a guy about my weight (but a foot taller). My fiance is tall and fit, and he loves that I outweigh him by nearly 400 pounds.

LittleEater:
how do you feel about it? that's quite a huge difference!


I'm really happy in my body, and I'm really happy with my fiance. Contrast is not really a big turn-on for me, but it's not a turn off either. I find him really hot, and he loves my size, so it just... works. And in daily life, we actually don't think about it that much, especially now that I'm not in gaining mode.
4 months

You know you're fat when...

1)Any car you get in creaks when you heave you weight into it
2) You're too heavy for a grocery store scooters
3) You have to trade cars AND get pedal extenders because you outgrew your sedan
4) You can't reach your own belly button
5) There are no brick and mortar stores that carry your size, and you have to order everything online
6) You need reinforced furniture
7) A whole cookie sheet is stable sitting on your belly
8) You have to sit at a bit of an angle at most tables because you otherwise wouldn't be able to reach your food with such a big gut
9) You go through body lotion like water because there's so much surface area to cover
10) You need the thermostat set on 66 because your obese body gets hot so easily
4 months

Girls heavier than guys

I've always been fatter than all the boys/men my age, as well as the fattest kid of any gender in school. In college, I was around 350 and dated a guy about my weight (but a foot taller). My fiance is tall and fit, and he loves that I outweigh him by nearly 400 pounds.
4 months

What was your "i can't believe i ate the whole thing" moment?

A 75 chicken finger Tailgate box from Raisin Cane's, 26 packets of Tailgate Sauce, 12 pieces of Texas Toast, and a gallon of sweet tea. All that salt made my face and hands super bloated though.
4 months

Training yourself to permanently overeat/binge eat

BigBallBellyGirl:
I know people like to dump on McDonald's, but there really is something about their burgers and sauce....

Morbidly A Beast:
Right? Ever since I made the swap I’ve chosen to embrace McDonald’s It’s soooo good and consistently good you def get what you pay for unlike some other places


Once upon a time, Wendy's was seen as having "higher quality" burgers, I think, but that's completely not the case anymore. I've also seen some Wendy's that really feel dated and do not look sanitary. You're right...McDonald's is pretty consistent across the board.
4 months

What is the sexiest outfit to outgrow?

BigBallBellyGirl:
I'm not sure if this is the sexiest, but I did outgrow the custom wedding dress I'm supposed to wear in a few months. I could barely squeeze my arms into it when I pulled it over my head, and it was slicing into my underarms, when I tried it on again 2 weeks ago. My friend and I didn't try too hard to pull it down, because it became quickly apparent it wasn't going to make it over my bust and belly. I finally had to admit to myself I needed to find an alternative before I'm in a real bind.

After exploring a few options that didn't pan out, I found someone (a seamstress/designer) about an hour from me who agreed to help out. I explained my situation and also was clear that I'm a very heavy woman. I also shared pictures of several styles I like. She was extremely courteous and didn't seem phased a bit, so we set an appointment for me to come to her home.

I'm not sure why I was surprised she is very young (early 20s) but she was courteous and kind. Her little studio was lovely too, and I got to see some of her model styles as well as some things she is working on. We looked through the styles I shared with her, she had fabric samples ready, and she took my measurements. I brought my own tape, because I had a feeling hers might not be large enough even if she is a professional, but she actually had one. With the weight I gained before I had to stop, my bust is 68.5", and the biggest part of my belly is 112" standing. As she measured my girth, she first asked me to hold the measuring tape in front of me while she walked around me, but she quickly realized I can't reach the front of my belly, so she adeptly moved the end around to my side. I appreciated how discreet she was, but obviously, I wonder what she was thinking! I did share with her a challenge I have Is that my sitting girth is much bigger than standing, depending on how my belly rests, so she took that measurement too.

I think she works pretty quickly, because she said she'd have a design for me in 2 weeks, and hopefully a first cut in 6 to 8 weeks. At that point, I'll come back for a fitting.

My Maid of Honor was with me, and we had an interesting discussion on the way home about how I seldom ever get a rude body comment from gen z. I'm a young millennial myself, and my parents are boomers. I think about how freely my mother, her friends and my aunts would comment on my big tummy even when I was a young child. I don't know if younger people are less fatphobic, but I do think we are moving away, in large part, from openly fat shaming. Just a side observation!

On a humorous note, the designer initially offered me a seat on a beautiful, ornate chaise lounge. It looked like an antique possibly, and I wasn't positive it could take my weight. I said, "That's a beautiful piece of furniture. At my size though, I'm careful where I sit." She offered me a very sturdy wooden chair instead. 🤣

Munchies:
I hope your wedding dress is everything you hoped for and more.


Thank you!! I'm very thankful to the dress designer for working with me on such short notice too. It was just not going to be possible to alter the original one!
4 months

Has your belly button become deeper and wider as you gain weight?

The opposite in my case! When I hit 450, my belly button was barely a slit, And now it's almost non-existent with a raised ring around a tiny hole. I do have a lot of visceral fat though and a very solid gut, which may have something to do with it.
4 months

Training yourself to permanently overeat/binge eat

Morbidly A Beast:
I had 4 Big Macs 40 nugs 2 large shakes and fries for lunch today and was probably the fullest I’ve been in a while, it was worth it because I felt like I swallowed cement in my tummy


I know people like to dump on McDonald's, but there really is something about their burgers and sauce....
4 months

Training yourself to permanently overeat/binge eat

J8o8h8n:
I was wondering if anyone had any advice for training your body to overeat to the point where you no longer have to actively think about it and your body just 'autopilots' to eating thousands of calories more than you need in a day.

I was also wondering if there's a point where it no longer gets uncomfortable stuffing yourself with that amount of food. Obviously you will probably be uncomfortable if you're always pushing your body to its limits, but is there a point where you'll be eating thousands of excess calories on the regular and it won't feel uncomfortable because you've expanded your capacity to the point where eating enough to constantly grow is your new normal?

For anyone who's done this, how long does it take for this habit to become the new normal?

BigBallBellyGirl:
I can tell you it absolutely is possible to hit a stage where you need 15,000 or 20,000 calories a day to even feel full. I can also say it comes with consequences you have to be ready for. That's not what you asked though, so I'll share my experience.

I've been fat my whole life and have only ever tried to lose weight once. I dropped from 370ish to about 190, and it was neither easy nor fun. I think I probably do have a slow metabolism as well, because my body didn't seem to want to maintain 190, even though at the time, I was physically active and pretty strict with my diet. When I acknowledged I was unhappy, I first started eating whatever I wanted. Having been accustomed previously to being a big eater, I fell back in the groove pretty quickly, and I didn't really find it hard to hit 4,000 or 5,000 calories a day. I'm also a stuffer, and initially, the average stuffing would be 10,000 calories in a sitting to begin with, and then kept increasing. I found, the bigger my stuffings, the more my regular daily appetite and capacity grew. During peak gaining periods, I've put on 10-12 pounds a week. That required monster stuffings, in addition to all day grazing. I'll also add, eating like that is very expensive. My fiance and I have good incomes, but we're not rich, and we've had weeks where I cut out other personal expenses because the grocery bill was between $800 and $1,200. We agreed on the expense though. I guess we considered it an investment in our lives just like anything else, because we were both enjoying what we were doing.

In any case, if I had any pointers, it would be increasingly large stuffings and staying constantly full, topping off anytime the fullness alleviates. If stuffings aren't your thing, eating something every hour, like a 500 calorie snack is effective too.

AskDrFeeder:
How often were the stuffings?


That's tough to answer, because frankly, my stomach was so stretched, what I would have considered a filling meal would have been considered a stuffing to most people (2 large pizzas and bread sticks). As far as the times I pushed myself to what I would consider an extreme during peak gaining mode, two to three times a week feels right.
4 months

Training yourself to permanently overeat/binge eat

J8o8h8n:
I was wondering if anyone had any advice for training your body to overeat to the point where you no longer have to actively think about it and your body just 'autopilots' to eating thousands of calories more than you need in a day.

I was also wondering if there's a point where it no longer gets uncomfortable stuffing yourself with that amount of food. Obviously you will probably be uncomfortable if you're always pushing your body to its limits, but is there a point where you'll be eating thousands of excess calories on the regular and it won't feel uncomfortable because you've expanded your capacity to the point where eating enough to constantly grow is your new normal?

For anyone who's done this, how long does it take for this habit to become the new normal?


I can tell you it absolutely is possible to hit a stage where you need 15,000 or 20,000 calories a day to even feel full. I can also say it comes with consequences you have to be ready for. That's not what you asked though, so I'll share my experience.

I've been fat my whole life and have only ever tried to lose weight once. I dropped from 370ish to about 190, and it was neither easy nor fun. I think I probably do have a slow metabolism as well, because my body didn't seem to want to maintain 190, even though at the time, I was physically active and pretty strict with my diet. When I acknowledged I was unhappy, I first started eating whatever I wanted. Having been accustomed previously to being a big eater, I fell back in the groove pretty quickly, and I didn't really find it hard to hit 4,000 or 5,000 calories a day. I'm also a stuffer, and initially, the average stuffing would be 10,000 calories in a sitting to begin with, and then kept increasing. I found, the bigger my stuffings, the more my regular daily appetite and capacity grew. During peak gaining periods, I've put on 10-12 pounds a week. That required monster stuffings, in addition to all day grazing. I'll also add, eating like that is very expensive. My fiance and I have good incomes, but we're not rich, and we've had weeks where I cut out other personal expenses because the grocery bill was between $800 and $1,200. We agreed on the expense though. I guess we considered it an investment in our lives just like anything else, because we were both enjoying what we were doing.

In any case, if I had any pointers, it would be increasingly large stuffings and staying constantly full, topping off anytime the fullness alleviates. If stuffings aren't your thing, eating something every hour, like a 500 calorie snack is effective too.
4 months