Hi,

I'd recommend picking up a copy of Hanne Blank's *Big, Big Love*. Here's the description from her website:

Big Big Love: A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and Those Who Love Them

At last, a book that covers the how-tos and why-tos of sexuality from the point of view of big folks and those who love them! Big Big Love is a no-holds-barred, yet lighthearted, overview of sex for everybody from the chubby to the supersized. Detailed and realistic information on improving self-image, partner-finding, sexual positions and activities, resources for toys and clothing and much more. Big Big Love is essential reading for women, men and transfolk… gays, bisexuals and heterosexuals… and anyone else who’s ever been told that sex is only for the slender!

(Greenery Press, 2000)

She's not very positive about feeding, but the book is still a very useful resource, I think...