How to deal with the intensity of the kink

Morbidly A Beast:
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This is common with the conflicted types. They get so overwhelmed that they leave.

But they usually come back later. It is what it is.
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How to deal with the intensity of the kink

James556:
All my life I've had weightgain fantasies and I always thought I'd keep it as a fantasy, and still currently am, but the desire is beginning to get stronger to the point I've even made a few shakes during the last few weeks. But being really lean now I can just forget about it once the moment passes, as normally when the moment passes I no longer desire to gain, and that happens near enough every time, but I'm worried if I do decide to gain that it would become too intense and a constant turn on as you can't exactly leave the weightgain in the bedroom, it stays with you. Is this true about it being so intense, or is it just my worries, or would the novelty wear off or is this part of the kink?


Sounds like you've been repressing your fetishes a bit. Some people are happy to leave things in fantasy while others are not.

From what you've said, fantasy is not enough for you. If you enjoy being lean, there are adjacent kinks you can dabble in - padding, bloating, inflating. You can even stuff yourself from time to time without gaining.

But if the urg you feel can only be satisfied by gaining, I'd take the time to figure out what you actually want. Do you want to be a muscle chub? Just chubby? Fat? What's holding you back from realizing your dreams? Is it something you are willing to overcome?

Once you figure that out, your next steps will be clearer.
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Different kind of arousal?

Valgodd:
Does anybody else experience that getting aroused by feedism related stuff is like a totally different feeling, compared to being aroused by ”ordinary” sexual stuff? Its not only that its stronger, it also feels different in the body


I am not 100 percent sure I understand what you mean. Are you asking feedism makes us hornier than vanilla things? If so, I think that's nearly everyone here.
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It's enough

Romy:
God, I didn't think my food addiction was that big.
I have a lot of anxiety and I can't wait to eat delicious things.
My husband is inflexible about my diet, but I already cheated, I have my nurse and my niece.
Yesterday I asked my nurse to let me have a hamburger and then a chocolate cake. Today I asked my niece to bring me fried chicken with potatoes and 5 bars of chocolate.
The problem is that my husband doesn't know this and if he finds out my nurse could have problems.
The truth is I'm starving and I have a serious anxiety problem. My nurse didn't do things voluntarily, I basically ordered her to do them.
I broke my diet but it was necessary to calm down a little.


The struggle is real. I don't think anyone here will think less of you for being weak. But overcoming food addictions is more than just willpower.

I can't force you to be honest with your husband about your struggles, but we both know you need to be honest with him.

Do you have any additional support besides your husband? Are you familiar with the resources in your area?

I don't know what country you are in, but there are helplines, support groups, one-on-one help from experts, etc. I'd look into it.
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Gaining weight secondary benefit of "helping" a friend

Morbidly A Beast:
If he doesn’t like being big chances are he won’t think highly of you gaining weight, he might but that’s not something most people would think about.

Rather you should take what you’ve learned here and explain to him how it’s okay to be fat and it’s ok to be comfortable in your body


I suppose it depends on why the groom wants to lose weight. I'd agree with you if it's coming from a place of self-hate. But there are numerous reasons why someone might want to lose weight. Health, practicality, and aesthetics come to mind among other things.

It's also possible that the groom might have zero opinions on OP's size one way or another. I know it's very common in male-male friendships for the friend to either not notice or not care if the other gains weight.

There isn't any information about their relationship to make a value judgement on it one way or another
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New sensations

Jjcoolguy:
As I have put on about 30 pounds this year it wasn't until the last 5 or so pounds that I suddenly began to feel so many new sensations. Its not something that comes and goes after a big meal or wearing something tight and fitting. I now feel my belly resting on my belt, the new belly roll that is forming and how my moobs have a permanant hanging feeling. How my new gains roll and hang depending on my movements or body position. Having been under weight most of my life, just having something to pinch or grab was new, but now being able to "feel my body" almost like a constant presence is new. All of the new sensations are surprising and amazing at the same time. I feel as if my body sensitivity has sored. Even sex with my wife has gotten better despite my concerns that it would be a turn off for her.

Do these sensations ever fade? There isn't a moment of the day where I am not conciously aware of these new bodily sensations.

At 5'4" and 185 pounds I can't imagine what it will feel like with another 30 or 40 pounds. I am just starting to get a belly and love touching it and staring at it in the mirror. I can't even imagine what it will feel like to have a big round gut or hanging belly. I haven't grown out of any clothes yet either, but I can finally see my moobs and belly slightly protrude even when empty. I still have my reservations as I have always loved sports and have always considered myself an athlete. I don't know how my friends or family will react to more gains, but It is something that I have always wanted for a long time.

Any tips for handling new gains? I would love some motivation and more places that I could find ideas or insperation from.


Your brain kinda just ... gets used to it after a while. I have big boobs. They jiggle when I do anything. I used to notice it all the time, but now I only notice it if I am doing any kind of vigorous movement.

If it's that much of an issue, compression garments like under armor cuts down on that.
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Fat at the gym

Cealleighmarie:
I have to say as a feedee, I work very hard to keep my heart healthy, I have a treadmill and weights and work out on top of my regular eating and gaining and enjoying the indulgence.

I have severe mobility problems, and I'm nowhere near an immobile weight. While the fantasy may be there, the reality of mobility problems isn't all that it's cracked up to be


Oh for sure. I don't think that everyone with an immobility fetish wants to be immobile for real. No one into vore is going around trying to actually swallow people.

But I am sure you've seen people long for immobility when what they really want is a captive sex object or to indulge their fetish without accepting their fetish.
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Fat at the gym

Munchies:
We stan the muscle chub crowd.

It's not that the strong fat crowd is a minority. It's that a lot of feedists equate exercise with weight loss and avoid it like the plague. Several of them get weirdly hostile about exercise so most of the strong fat crowd keeps it on the down low.

But that's been changing lately. I am looking forward to the kink diversity to become more public.

SumoSized:
It seems like so many people in this community have an immobility fetish even though most of them will never reach that level of fat. So they want to be as unhealthy as possible and actively reject things that could improve their quality of life.


I'm going to piss some people off when I say this, but most people who think they have an immobility fetish really don't. You see it mostly in small feedees and feeders with unrealistic expectations.

The feeders do not understand anything about anything because they have porn brain. They have no desire to meaningfully engage with an immoble feedee outside of how they look and their increased stomach capacity.

The small feedees are just impatient, hate how they look, and want to be doted on. They want to be fat and they want to be fat now on top of being ashamed of their desires. But if they were not in control of their gains - say having an evil feeder that makes them as fat as possible - then it's not their fault. But as soon as they start gaining any kind of weight, they freak out, lash at the feeder, and flee.
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My wife’s (unintentional?) journey from fit to bbw

Karenjenk:
people sharing pics goes with the territory.

I just assume that if my guy takes pics of me that he is going to share them.... bragging? maybe? pride? ... could be
but if you dont want your pick shared then dont let someone take it.
or dont take it yoruself.
This isnt a popular view for a girl to take but... in this world if you dont protect yourself... no one else will.


I mean, some people have exhibitionist kinks, so I get why some women are fine with people sharing their pictures.

Not judging at all.

But I think I speak for most women (hell, most people) when I say we expect the basic respect of our partners not sharing our spicy pics.

I send my partner plenty of non spicy pics on top of the ones he takes of me. He'll pick from one of those pictures, run it by me, and then shows his friends.

I never told him to do this. This is something he naturally does because he respects me as a person.

Of course, there's risk involved in sending spicy pics even if that person never betrays your trust. But if you cannot trust your partner not to show off your body at its most vulnerable, that's not a person you need in your life.
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Feederism outlets

Max Stout:
Ah; perhaps then you ought brush up some on your Poe; e.g.:

❝𝘕𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘵, 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘦, 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘯. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘪𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘦𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝘰𝘳 𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘣𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘱𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘱𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.❞

❝𝘔𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴—𝘱𝘰𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭—𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘣𝘺 𝘢 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘻𝘺—𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘤𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯—𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘩𝘶𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘤 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴, 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘷𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘳𝘶𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵—𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘦 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵—𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘶𝘮𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘢 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭 𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸—𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺-𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘳 𝘢𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦—𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘫𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴—𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴—𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥, 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴—𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘬𝘭𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘦-𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘧𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨—𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱-𝘭𝘢𝘥𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘯-𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘴—𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘤𝘬’𝘴 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘴, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩, 𝘪𝘯 𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘵𝘺-𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘥, 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘩𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘰.❞

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I get that, I do. But when I say "I love world building" I mean on an Tolkein level of world building.

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