The OP seems like a caring guy who is in Love with his wife but with a concerned question knowing himself and the way he views his wife and loves the weight she carries.

I feel for him as I do all FA's who are into weight gain on their Significant others and then there significant others decide to diet and lose weight.

There is a big Psychological thing attached to their SO losing. Speaking from experience I have gone through this with my wife several times losing anywhere from 20-50 Lbs. each of the three times. It may not sound like an extreme amount of weight but her figure changed considerably from an FA aesthetic level from being full and healthy looking to looking and feeling totally deflated. Not only on an aesthetic level did things look and feel different but our dining together was strange she didn't really even eat anymore and if she ordered a meal out she barely would finish or even consume half of it and never ordered dessert anymore. During her thinner weight loss times she always seemed stressed out and was always in a bad mood. Never seemed relaxed or care free anymore. She seemed almost never interested in affection let alone sex.

Obviously, this is one particular example with my situation but I almost feel even if my wife was a lot heavier than she was say 300+ Lbs. I would still have the same feelings if she went on a diet and started losing weight even a little though I love her more than anything because it is simply something totally ingrained in who we are as FA's and our direct intoxication and love with weight gain.

I hope everything works out well in your situation.

Having 2 or more regular cokes per day will not only allow you to almost never lose weight even with a substantial amount of exercise but will pile on the Lbs. fairly quickly if you don't exercise much.

That Gorgeous belly of yours makes people weak at the knees.....and people want to feed it to grow!

Yep.....this is very tricky. I have looked on a particular site something like body gallery and looked at women of similar height to my wife and their weights and it always seems that my wife weighs much less then she look's like she would.

She look's way curvier and fatter than a woman of same height but she seems to weigh 20-25 Lbs. less most of the time.

I know exactly what your saying only on the flip side.

So....I wonder if they liked the gain and tried to gain more or did they just get used to eating/along with metabolism changing and really started packing it on lacking food choice and portion control?

Did you think they shrunk from the dry cleaners at first?

I have accused the dry cleaners of that .........I am sure they get this complaint a lot.

"Mutual Gaining" is so sexy when you are with the one you love.

My wife is not necessarily into gaining weight on purpose but she does a pretty good job gaining weight at certain times just eating the way she does. Although she is not close to your weight she has several times been right at 200 Lbs. at 5' 3" and myself actually grew nice and Fat for a while around 250 Lbs. and the love making was the best. I am not sure if she liked us both being that big but she certainly seemed liked she loved it when we were having sex.

I can only imagine you and your significant other at 400 Lbs. each rocking the bed during a romantic session.
Even at our weights our bellies would definitely get in the way during these intimate moments and the bed was definitely feeling the extra strain.

I personally would love for my wife to get to 300 Lbs. and if she wanted me that big or bigger I would certainly give her what she wants.....plus it might be hard after enjoying all the great food and the increased appetite to slow down without gaining more.

Generally how many Pounds does it take to notice that you have gained weight? 5Lbs.,10Lbs.,20Lbs. or more


What is usually the first tell sign?

After you notice a gain of 10+ Lbs. do you suddenly notice how much more you have been eating and or more calorie laiden snacks etc.?



Obviously there are a lot of variables but just interested in knowing the starting point of a gain or a new gain!

Yep, everyone is different like previously stated! But I have heard many times that BBW women who like the contrast between a muscular thinner guy and their softer/Fatter selves.

Obviously this is just on a purely physical/aesthetic level and there is more than that which women will be attracted to in their spouse, lover or male companion.

Yep, I guess this all stems from a insecurity on a particular body part to the individual. But in my case I never really have had an insecurity with my pecs other than the simple fact my wife happened to point out at that time that I had grown some softer bigger pecs.

On the flip side my wife has the most gorgeous belly and tends to gain in her belly first and more their than anywhere else. When she was younger she always had a slightly softer bigger belly and I believe she is definitely more insecure even today about her fatter belly. Which I believe to be one of her sexiest features even though she has many. I gravitate to kissing or touching her belly which she has grown to like a bit more but doesn't really want me paying ton's of attention to it.