Yep....I can relate to this with the anonymity! Although as I have gotten older and have had several times where I had gained many Lbs. and grown a big gut I found myself stuffing myself to the maximum and the urge to show my gain off in front of people who know me but are not extremely close.

For example a waitress that I know from a restaurant my wife and I frequent.....I went for lunch by myself already going through a drive thru and stuffing myself and then going in for a second lunch with my dress shirt buttons ready to burst and my gut hanging a good 6-8 inches out in front of me over my belt. I had easily gained 30+ Lbs. since she had seen me last. It was so exciting and erotic.....when she greeted me when I walked in she said "wow, I haven't seen you in a while" and I know what was going through her mind even though she said nothing about my huge gut and how I had gained.
Another instance was when I saw some friends of my ours who we hadn't seen for a couple of months and I definitely had on a shirt that now was quite form fitting especially in my big old belly and as I greeted the other woman I reached in for a hug and my big belly pushed into her rather aggressively .......she herself had recently gained a good amount of weight. Although she never said anything she couldn't take her eyes off of me all night especially when I stood up I saw her staring at my new big Fat Gut.

I have to say in both instances the women never looked disgusted by any means....they were actually very intrigued in there stares. I think that a lot of people really like seeing the difference weight gain has on someones figure and a lot more people definitely like it ......more than we would think......or at least are very intrigued by it.

Even my wife who never really likes weight gain on herself ....can't stop talking about someone else who has gained a noticeable amount of weight. Not in a derogatory way.....but here are a few things she has said to me about a few of her friends over the years ...."She has gotten really big, she has always had a tendency to get heavy" or "Her eating has finally caught up to her....her metabolism finally changed I guess, she will have a tough time not getting bigger now".
Another time she had a friend for a long time who we would see maybe 3 times a year who had always been much thinner than my wife and several inches taller. This friend would always comment to my wife how beautiful she thought she was....and in a slightly condescending way I assume or either just a standard opening statement she has.... just after my wife would have put on a good 10-15 Lbs. from the last time she saw her....this other woman would say "you look great have you lost some weight". It never failed...early on I overheard the conversation and my wife would usually say "No, I don't think so.....clearly knowing she had gained a good amount of weight". One time after not seeing her for a long time and my wife actually was much heavier probably an extra 20+ Lbs more than even the last time she saw her. This woman said Hi and then said you look beautiful, what is different about you? My wife said "well, I have gained 35 Lbs. and got Fat"!
I was in full erotic shock but at the same time felt kind of sad for my wife because this woman was a really good friend and I could always tell it was a slightly condescending way which she would talk to her knowing damn well my wife was Beautiful, sexy and even more sexy when she gained weight but this skinny woman would kind of always make my Beautiful wife feel fat and not as worthy even though my wife wouldn't tell me this I could kind of tell.

sorry for the long story.......years later after not seeing them for what seemed like forever we met up with this couple and to my surprise this woman always taller than my wife by 4 inches or so was now making my wife look thinner. She must have put on 80+ Lbs. in the past 2 years. I was in shock....I obviously thought the woman looked much better. On the car ride home my wife couldn't top talking about what we had just witnessed. Now as mentioned before my wife never talk's bad about other's gaining weight but this time she was slightly intentional in her delivery. She started by saying, "Wow, I can't believe how big Kim got.....I mean she is huge.....I felt skinny standing next to her, where as I always used to feel so Fat next to her." "It was kind of clear how she got so big.....I never saw her stop snacking from the time we got there....and when the cookies and desert tray came out she just sat down next to it at the table and kept grabbing more....I was scared to grab an extra one or she might slap my hand or get mad at me for taking her supply" . She then told me "she is way past the uncomfortable stage", I said what do you mean? She said "well I always hovered right around the uncomfortable stage and sometimes go slightly past.....ya know, when your clothes stop fitting comfortable and you then gain more weight and try to squeeze into the same clothes and they clearly don't fit, then you get bigger ones and eventually realize they are tight and don't fit anymore so your start wearing stretchy pants and bigger looser fitting shirts that go over your big butt and then all of a sudden you don't realize your starting to bulge out of your stretch pants and your looser top are very snug around the middle, upper arms and breasts but your kind of used to this band aid fix and say what the hell....You are know starting and going past the uncomfortable stage....knowing you don't want to get the next size up in stretchy pants or tops and search for a different brand that is clearly bigger but the same size.....so now you feel thinner all of a sudden.....and at this stage you make yourself feel better and continue eating like a pig because now it is impossible to stop or even slow down."
"So ya, Kim is way past the uncomfortable stage.....I bet she wears the same 2 or 3 outfits now ....when she used to have a new outfit on every time I saw her and her closet was full to the max.....she is more interested in what her next meal or snack is going to be then actually caring about what she is going to wear.....It will be the Black extra stretch XXXL stretchy pants along with a huge loose fitting top that is now very tight and constraining."

The funniest thing is when she greeted my wife this particular time she didn't ask if my wife lost weight!

I was always the feeder or at least wanting my girlfriends or wife to gain weight.

I myself happened to gain weight along with my ex girlfriend many years ago when we moved in together and found that the mutual gaining was so erotic and something really special.

Currently with my wife we have both gained good amounts of weight several times and still find this to be the most intimate and sexy thing ever.

I guess everyone is different but weight gain is the stem of a lot of erotic things for me. Watching my wife gain weight is probably the sexiest thing in the world for me!

1/4 ton combined weight couples.....can even make the bed squeak and moan!

I imagine 1/2 ton of a couples weight will likely break a bed with aggressive activity.

It is pretty exciting to think about both people in the couple setting getting really Fat and heavy and bouncing bellies into each other.

Thank's for sharing that story....I always love these real life stories.

Have you thought maybe he is into feeding a bit with his reactions or do you think he is just being extra nice for the work?

Funny thing!

I never used to like any sweets, fast food, or anything to bad for you until I started to gain some weight.

After I started to gain weight and have a bigger appetite I started eating snacks, deserts and fast food. Then when I intentionally started to gain weight I found myself needing fattening deserts and craving fast food. My appetite grew out of control and I was able to consume so much fast food and fattening deserts without even feeling sick. I guess this is how people can become really Fat and keep gaining and gaining.

I can imagine but not fully understand being that I live in the U.S. Where size and more Fat people is much more common.

From a gaining weight perspective I can relate. There are times myself where I have gone through several months of intentionally gaining weight starting from trying to help my wife get fatter by sticking all the food in the house. Being very much into Fat and weight gain on my wife and other women all of a sudden I tried to really get a lot fatter because of the lack of weight gain I was having in my life with relation to my wife. I decided I liked getting bigger and I became very excited about stuffing myself constantly to see how much bigger my gut could get. It consumed me and was very exciting but I would have mixed feelings at times even though I was muscular and with 35 extra Lbs. Mostly on my big belly. There were times where I tried to show off how Fat I had become and liked the feeling but other times I would feel a little embarrassed by my changes....resulting in an insecure feeling. Also the things that made me aroused such as pigging out to see how big and bloated I could make my gut....not to mention excited about how much I could now eat was very arousing. Other times those exact things would make me feel a little out of control......belly was so big and full all the time it would get in the way of tying my shoes, sitting down, getting up almost everything was slightly more difficult and the fact that i couldn't eat less even when I tried was a bit scary and even embarrassing. So I guess the mixed emotions are always going to be there.

It helps to live in a place where so many people are big, iverweight and Fat......but I think these emotions that us FA/weight gain enthusiasts feel that get us so excited and aroused can also flip and make us feel out of control, insecure and possibly ashamed at times.

Hope this helps and makes some sense and you feel better.

I seem to see several people from Getmany that are into this fetish.....or for that matter are if Eiropean decent.....i am curious if there has ever been a pole figuring this out.

This is such a great post!

I think that there have always been a lot of Men out there that have always liked heavier women but more and more they are starting to show it. I think it has a lot to do with age and maturity.

Speaking for myself I have always dated and gone out with girls and then women who were heavier by societies standards. As I have become older I find myself being attracted to women who are much heavier even over 300 Lbs. Obviously it is more than just the shear weight. My wife is near her heaviest other than just after her pregnancies probably 40-50 Lbs. heavier then when I met her.....and when we first met she was curvy and a bit thick by societies standards. I currently view her as fairly skinny compared to some women I see that I find very attractive who probably weigh well over 100 Lbs. more. But when I compare her to some of her thinner friends she look's much Fatter to me......because she is fatter than them. I would actually love her being 50, 70 or even 100 Lbs. heavier.

So, if I was not married and on the open market, I would probably be attracted to and go for women much heavier than my wife currently. With that being said when I first started dating my wife I actually was wanting her to be around 170 Lbs on her 5' 3" frame which she is slightly over now.....which then I would have considered Fat (And liked very much). So....not only has the weight and size I desire in women gone up as I have become older.....but so has the way I would approach them and show them how I liked their more feminine larger figures. So I guess this is a good thing for all of you Beautiful heavier women.....as Men get older they will show you what they really like.....and I am thinking that there a are a lot more men that like heavier women as opposed to skinny women...... and the good thing is the will start to show it as they mature and get older.

From your post it was refreshing to hear that you can seriously tell that these men desire you for you and your beautiful body......and part of that because it is bigger and sexier. So to all you larger beautiful women show off all those luscious curves and even rolls.....because we love them and want to softly touch, caress and hold them.

It depends if I am on one of my Intentionally gaining streaks!

During these times when I have gained a lot of weight and my XL ....T-shirts are absolutely snug after many washes from slight shrinkage but mostly huge Fat belly syndrome.....and they ride up a bit exposing my Huge "Muscle Chub Gut" I tend to not even stretch them allowing my belly to look huge.

I am amazed myself after stuffing a large meal and plenty of snacks how big and inflated my Gut gets and I try and show it off to me wife trying to get a comment...... Like, "Wow, you have gotten so huge and Fat".

I have different size fitting dress shirts and during these timesI would wear some of my tighter work dress shirts which are totally snug and after I eat I look like a big Fat guy that is going to pop several buttons off......I have purposely gone to visit a few close customers after a huge lunch followed by a couple of milk shakes just to try and get a reaction or have them mention something.
The Guy customers have never flinched or noticed anything but the women clients have done double takes and even "rubber necked" as they were in shock. One client who I have had for years and are very close.....when I gave her a hug good bye she actually placed her hand on my belly after the embrace and patted it a bit but said nothing....almost she couldn't resist in touching it but very non threatening.

But ironically enough when I am not gaining I try and look thinner and stretch my shirts.

Not sure if you are trying to get answers to how much faster you will gain and get bigger by not going to the gym nearly as much as you used to.

Obviously everyone is different......but here are a few things that I realized with gaining and working out with myself. By the way ....for the record ...... I used to work out 4-5 days per week fairly heavy weights most of the time and around 1 1/2 hours each workout.
During this time I didn't do much cardio but being that I was lifting heavy I usually burned way more calories than if I was on a treadmill or stair climber. Also, I should say I worked in Abs but not extremely aggressively.

During these lifting times I would gain a lot of weight....both muscle and some Fat. Even though I would do Abs and would be working out a lot and burning calories.....my appetite would grow huge......thus giving me a big muscle Chub look. My belly would really get bigger but my shoulders, chest, arms and everything would really swell up even more.

The several times that I intentionally gained weight was when my workouts were slowed down considerably and eventually I was only going 1-2 days max but the workouts were way less intense and eventually they were not really even a workout that I felt I should even bother going in for. So during these times of Intentionally fattening or gaining for several months I almost quit working out all together. My appetite grew from being a greedy glutton not from work outs. I still maintained descent muscular size because I have been lifting for many many many years....but I softened all over and My huge Gut become much more prominent. By forcing myself initially to eat more my appetite became out of control and I found myself binging on fast food which I never really liked before ....but all of a sudden I couldn't get enough of it and I surprised myself how fast I could stuff down 2-3 Big burgers and fries along with 2-3 cokes and still want a large milkshake afterwards. I became turned on by how much I could eat and how Fat I was getting.

In my case I have noticed as I have gotten older.....the weight I gain sticks around and it is a lot harder to lose.
So when I lift weights and workout and do cardio I don't ever really get slim anymore......I don't think I have been below 230-235 Lbs. for several years now....and If I really wanted to I could probably go past 260 Lbs. relatively quickly knowing what I know and how to jump start my appetite and gaining.

Another thing I have noticed that when I am gaining and eating like a pig....the softness takes a while to settle in.....almost like if I were to slow down on eating so much and lose a little weight...all of a sudden I notice way softer Fat accumulated around my love handles, back and Belly.

Also, from a psychological side when I eventually went back to the gym after several months layoff and close to around 30+ Lb. gained, 5 extra inches on my waistline & a noticeable big round Gut. I found myself slightly embarrassed and insecure at times. When none of the women trainers that I knew said much I found myself actually trying to evoke a comment out of them.....none of my gym shirts could contain the girth of my big ole Gut and I would play it up a bit and it actually rose up exposing my belly several times right in front of them working out. I am sure My fattening and belly was the topic of conversation on their lunch breaks like some caddy girls but never did they slyly mention anything to me. I struggled through my workouts....I felt weak, off balance and out of breath fairly quickly and it took several months for me to get into a rhythm and I would usually only go 1-2 days a week with a couple of times giving up and missing several weeks again. It is crazy how fast you can get out of shape but how long it actually takes to get back in shape. My belly woud get in the way with most a lot of the lifting especially when I tried to do crunches and ABs...it was like starting all over again except having a heavy big beach ball in front of me that totally got in the way.

Just my take on lifting and gaining, quit lifting, intentionally getting Fat....and going back to lifting with a huge beach ball gut getting in the way.

I can only imagine how women who have never really worked out in their lives start to get Fat and then get really fat and then try and go to the gym to lose weight. Not only from a new never gone to the gym before, but Psychological experience and then the physical aspect of not being able to move around being that big and Fat and having all their Fat body parts get in the way and not let them be able to do most of the movements.