I agree. Not knowing why is the bad thing. I'm married, and just here to chat. So, it's not like I am looking to meet anyone or make a commitment. I just enjoy conversation.

One woman I chatted with, I chatted with for 8 years. And then suddently she avoids me. She avoids me here, on Dimensions, and on AOL IM.

There may be a lot of good reasons why she no longer wants to chat. She is a foodee who gains, so perhaps she did not want to tell me she wants to lose weight. Or perhaps she decided she no longer wants to chat with a married man. Or maybe I said something and she took it the wrong way.

I really don't mind not chatting with her any more. But not knowing why really bugs me.

I really don't like hearing "all men are..." any more than I like to hear "all fat people are..."

As a male, as I have posted, females have done it to me. It's not a gender thing, it's a people thing.

I would not blame it on size.

Lots of people have lots of different preferences.

Don't take it personally. It happens all of the time.

Many times, it was people that I chatted with daily for months. They just disappear.

Perhaps they are fake, and can't take it any further.

Don't give up. Sooner or later, you'll find a nice person to make it all worthwhile.

You are a feeder, but want to gain weight. Are you sure you are not a feedee?

Most people do not tell too many people. Just their partners. And if their partners aren't into it, you may want to look for someone who is. Or put your desires on hold.

Just say something like "If I eat any more whipped cream, I'll get fat." and see his reaction. If no reaction, tag on, "You wouldn't want that would you." He may say no because he thinks you want to hear that. But the tone of no should be a clue.

Where you gain is totally genetic. Look at your relatives. If you are thin, but have a little bigger belly, you may gain there. If your butt is larger proportionately, you may gain there.

There is nothing that can change where you gain.

I had posted something similar, that we need definitions for new people, and I was told that they are on the site. Something like go to screen number 53 and click 15 times, and they are there.

They need to be easily seen on the home page.

We keep getting statements on new profiles like, "I am a feedee, but I want to lose weight," or "I am a fat appreciator but am interested in fit men only."

People ask someone who claims to be a feedee how much weight they plan to gain, and they get mad and leave the site. Or someone who is a large person chats with someone claiming to be a fat appreciator and gets insulted that they don't like large people.

Feeling sorry for yourself is counterproductive. There is someone for everyone, but some people have a lot less possible people. So, you have to play the numbers game. If the odds are 1 in a hundred that someone will want you, then you have to look in at least 100 places. Join every free dating service there is, go to every website that has personals, and place an ad. Place ads on Craig's List, and anywhere else you can find.

If you sit there, and just say "that won't work," or "I've already tried that," you'll never get anywhere

I guess even if you had drive-ins in your area, it's winter there now. Some theatres, at least in North America, have love seats scattered throughout. Any theatres with movable armrests?

I guess the dvd will be out soon. It is a shame that they don't take everyone into account when they design movie theatres.