If you have someone to help and don't mind being bed bound, and sex is all that important, than it might be OK, having it happen, or doing it on purpose.

However, if the person is living alone, and being bedbound would mean no income, no home, and even no food, it could not be fun either on purpose or if it just happens.

A relationship needs to be compatible in many ways. However, if a feedee and feeder are not compatible, it will surface anyway. In other words, there are many aspects to two people being a couple. But you don't need to formally discuss it.

For example, If one is a smoker, and the other one hates smoke, you don't need to formally discuss it beforehand. The non-smoker complains, the smoker says s/he will not give it up, and the relationship is over.

Or one person is a devout Christian and the other is an Athiest. Just being together will cause frustation enough to end it.

I think that stretchmarks should be only admired by adults. I definitely would not want children admiring mine.

I wish people would use a positive approach to their profiles. Instead of listing what you don't want, list what you do want. If you don't like something, there is no need to put a string of negative adjectives in front of it.

If you say you only want men, and a woman answers (or vice versa), then politely say you are not interested. If they persist, tell a moderator.

I doubt if insulting a group of people helps limits replies. And it makes the profile writer look bad, even to the people they are interested in.

I can see his point very clearly. He is fat all the time. So, it is easy for a feeder to forget about the feeding for a while. But it is impossible for the feedee forget about it.

I agree. Not knowing why is the bad thing. I'm married, and just here to chat. So, it's not like I am looking to meet anyone or make a commitment. I just enjoy conversation.

One woman I chatted with, I chatted with for 8 years. And then suddently she avoids me. She avoids me here, on Dimensions, and on AOL IM.

There may be a lot of good reasons why she no longer wants to chat. She is a foodee who gains, so perhaps she did not want to tell me she wants to lose weight. Or perhaps she decided she no longer wants to chat with a married man. Or maybe I said something and she took it the wrong way.

I really don't mind not chatting with her any more. But not knowing why really bugs me.

I really don't like hearing "all men are..." any more than I like to hear "all fat people are..."

As a male, as I have posted, females have done it to me. It's not a gender thing, it's a people thing.

I would not blame it on size.

Lots of people have lots of different preferences.

Don't take it personally. It happens all of the time.

Many times, it was people that I chatted with daily for months. They just disappear.

Perhaps they are fake, and can't take it any further.

Don't give up. Sooner or later, you'll find a nice person to make it all worthwhile.

You are a feeder, but want to gain weight. Are you sure you are not a feedee?

Most people do not tell too many people. Just their partners. And if their partners aren't into it, you may want to look for someone who is. Or put your desires on hold.