They don't see the human part of it most of the time.

I was 430 at one point myself but I made me that big.
I may get that big again someday so I don't judge people.

With me its a problem because I have times where I can't stop eating.

If you really wanted to get rid of it you would find a way
Just walk away from it and stop doing the things that make you like the fetish.
If you don't make the effort its not going to happen.
I kicked heroin and cocaine by rehab and staying away from the people that were dealing in it.
Essentially distanced myself from those drugs.
I did it because I didn't want to die.
If you want something bad enough like not having a fat fetish there is always a way but you are the one that has to do it.
No magic pill.

I agree Krystal

I left home at 17 and didn't gain any until I was 25 or so and shot up 60 lbs.
Went home at Thanksgiving and my Mom went ballistic.
After I got divorced and was living with an older guy I got into gaining.
The pounds kept piling up and my Mom still all these years later says mean stuff to me about my weight.
She is amazed I can actually get in my car and drive it.

One is a little bigger than the other thats about it.
I think that is pretty common.
They have gotten flabbier because they rest on my belly most of the time.

I eat too much and have compulsive eating disorder.
Two issues working against me I guess so I suppose I will always be fat.

Great tip Lizzy

Not sure about the feeder aspect of your situation but finding a partner would be like finding any partner I would think.
Being in the right place at the right time and finding the right person has a lot to do with it.
Essentially something that just happens on it own.
Of course you have to put yourself out there so you will be seen by others.
Some girls gravitate towards heavy guys and some don't.
I wouldn't worry too much really all my relationships have happened naturally .