Where did your fat go on your body?

SumoSized:
For me, like most guys it's going straight to my belly but in the last few months a bit more of it has been going to my ass and thighs. Which is unexpected, but it feels really nice


Booty gains ftw!

Gonna be caked up for 2025.
7 months

Impossibly obese fantasys

Bovinepawg:
I know this isn't universal, but I'm sure lots of people do it- the going-to-bed fantasy session. Lying in bed, can't quite fall asleep, and 'daydreaming.'

I'm generally very submissive, and my real life experiences/erotic writing/roleplay generally reflect that. I'll gleefully write up dream contracts and rules for my new role as a pampered little piglet.

Occasionally, though, the fantasy is entirely different- that the entire *world* serves my appetites and my needs. Literal entire nations devoting a crushingly burdensome tithe of food and resources to me; entire educational systems devoted to training generations of servants to spend their lives in devotion to me; the entire world's scientific and artistic and cultural output dedicated to worshipping and growing my ass.

The story Future/Perfect on my profile is basically a narrative of this- as 'over the top' as that story is, my brain-version is even more absurd.


Might not be as submissive as you think.

It's giving goddess play. I'm curious. Do you enjoy submission, or do you enjoy being lazy and having other people service you?
7 months

Destroying my mind

Munchies:
Oooookay ...

I see why she wants to "cure" you despite how misguided she's being.

Are y'all in marriage counseling?

31BCooter:
Nope we just moved across the country and still getting settled.


I'd put getting into marital counseling high on your list of priorities because this is a HOT mess. Neither one of you is handling this in a healthy way.

This doesn't make you bad people, but it is clear that you two cannot fix this on your own. You guys aren't communicating at all.
7 months

Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.

Munchies:
Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?

31BCooter:
She is an abnormal phycologist and I just want her to love her weight, be down to even do micro gains, and just sometimes overendulge.


Oooookay ...

I see why she wants to "cure" you despite how misguided she's being.

Are y'all in marriage counseling?
7 months

Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.

Munchies:
Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?

31BCooter:
Yes, she has helped me a lot (I went through a lot of trauma my whole life) but she thinks that it can be resolved with therapy and no longer be a desire.


Okay... that's not how that works. Does she have a background in sex therapy? Because the science behind fetishes makes it very clear that's not how that works.

I see that your profile says you are a feeder. How were you hoping to engage with you wife concerning this fetish?
7 months

Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
We both go to our own separate therapists but she is also a therapist. Every time I try to talk to her about it she reverts it to trauma I experienced as a child.


Are you saying she keeps trying to "cure" your fetish?
7 months

Destroying my mind

31BCooter:
Hello all, I am a married man and my wife knows about my kink. However she refuses to even try it and I have made it last for 4 years however I cannot help but realize I am growing more and more depressed due to the absence of my kink. It has been a main staple of my life since I was young and I am realizing I cannot be without it romantically. Basically I am looking for advice or pretty much anything.


Have you tried therapy?
7 months

Depression and antidepressants

Nofbar:
Now and then I see posts here about which antidepressants cause the most weight gain. That's great, but it ignores the primary purpose of antidepressants. Could I get a conversation going about combating depression? I don't want to be depressed. If an antidepressant causes me to gain a lot of weight, that's great, but I'd like to hear from people about what meds actually helped beat back depression.

Letters And Numbers:
Talk to your doctor. 1) even the people on the site who have a lot of knowledge about medicine don’t have access to your chart. 2) it’s just a very individual, trial and error thing. Even if you get advice, you need to see how meds work with your individual brain chemistry, which isn’t going to be like anyone else’s.

I’d also say that most modern antidepressants cause very negligible weight gain, if any.


I second this. People can have wildly different needs when it comes to mental health. Some people cannot take certain medications (or any medications) for a variety of reasons, like drug interactions, allergies, genetic makeup, etc.

Honestly, I hate the conversations on here discussing which medications make you fat [i[specifically[/i] because I know there are people on this very site who will happily abuse these medications. Some have straight up admitted to doing such.

In this specific situation, FF isn't a space to discuss these things. While I won't begrudge anyone for talking about their lived experiences, it does open things up to making medication recommendations. This is a very ill-advised route to take.

If we do have a conversation about antidepressants here, it would be far better to talk about system navigation and patient advocacy. But, once again, this isn't the space for this.
7 months

Fattening in secret

Ninjaturtle94:
There’s just a lot of wasted potential with her hands not being on this body haha


That's an interesting way to look at it. Very ... transactional.

Mind you, I'm coming at this as an extreme feeder. A good feedist relationship isn't too dissimilar to a partnership - or even a marriage. You two are a team that needs to have good communication, emotional maturity, balance, boundaries, and regular check ins. Failure to do this can destroy everything you set out to do.

I've kicked feedees to the curb for being terrible at this. It is mentally destructive to watch a feedee throw themselves into gaining weight and put it above everything else. Especially if you are in a relationship with them.
7 months

Fattening in secret

Ninjaturtle94:
I’m just really looking forward to gaining

Highway:
Almost everyone gains weight during the holidays. If it were me, I would just use that excuse and continue to gain. You never know your wife might like it, and this problem would be solved.

PolyPinoyPuppy:
This has already been suggested. Furthermore, OP has already said their wife has shown discomfort with the extra weight OP has.

This isn't solving the problem. This is ignoring the problem and hoping it goes away.

Highway:
I don’t remember reading that the OP said his wife had a problem with his weight or his appearance. The OP stated that his wife had a problem with the fetish. All I’m saying is that the holidays are a great excuse to gain some weight and who knows His wife might How the extra weight looks on him. It’s not like he’s a small guy. He already weighs over 300 pounds so I don’t think she has a Fatphobia, At least towards him anyway.


Then maybe you should read better. Listening to you is going to make him divorced.
7 months