XFat:
For me food is a coping mechanism, I eat a lot when I'm trying to avoid going off the deep end, it has definately contributed to my gains over the years. Im definately an emotional eater ahaha.
Eating your feelings can be good for you. Your feelings, in the form of ice cream, pasta, pizza and cheesecake, can be quite delicious.
Why take an antidepressant which has weight gain as a side effect? Skip the drugstore and head straight for the buffet.
No one wants to admit it, but eating is an effective therapy.
5 days
Once I get to know someone, I feel it's for play/fantasy. I think you are right. People need to put more thought before commenting or posting.
GrowingLoveHandles:
I really hope I don't sound prudish about this. Once I get to know someone, then this kind of talk can be great fun. A ton of fun. The playfulness of this kind of exchange can be exhilarating once I know someone.
But to just start out with this, it's creepy.
And I know, this is a fetish sure, so everyone needs to be able to enjoy themselves. But also, not hurt others.
Fatgirlbelly:
For me, it’s the other way around. The more I have a connection with someone if they push that narrative of “you need to be more than you are” too much it just puts me off. Especially when it’s all about how much better I must have been 50lbs more knowing for my health, I can’t go there again - that’s upsetting for me in particular.
But ultimately it’s about balance. Like, I don’t mind the language where it calls for it in play but it being the centre of everything, especially being compared to the old/better me. I can’t relax knowing I’ll never be “good enough”.
Just have a think people about how it might come across to the people you’re talking to in their particular situations.
6 days
I really hope I don't sound prudish about this. Once I get to know someone, then this kind of talk can be great fun. A ton of fun. The playfulness of this kind of exchange can be exhilarating once I know someone.
But to just start out with this, it's creepy.
And I know, this is a fetish sure, so everyone needs to be able to enjoy themselves. But also, not hurt others.
GrowingLoveHandles
I hope I've never made anyone feel this way. If so, I am sorry.
To say I did not intend to hurt anyone is no excuse.
…
And yeah, in fantasy, that's okay. But I'm a real human here. I am enough, no matter what anyone says.
Fatgirlbelly:
That’s partially why I’m posting this because I think the majority of the time people don’t intend to make you feel bad.
It does need some awareness tho because it happens all the time to me. It seems to be the only narrative, which also gets a bit boring honestly.
Maybe it’s because I’m a bit praise based aswell. I respond more to “look how fat you’ve gotten for me” than “get fatter for me”
But yeh you’ve said it right there. We’re humans behind all this
6 days
I hope I've never made anyone feel this way. If so, I am sorry.
To say I did not intend to hurt anyone is no excuse.
There is no excuse.
As a feedee, I can relate. I want my images to be enjoyed, and I love being appreciated. But some carry it too far.
And that's why I, also, have to retreat at times.
And yeah, in fantasy, that's okay. But I'm a real human here. I am enough, no matter what anyone says.
Fatgirlbelly:
Bit of a rant, because I’m exhausted with this.
Maybe it’s just me and my unique situation, but I can’t be the only fantasy feedee/fat girl who isn’t actively gaining to exist in this community? Someone who enjoys this space to be teased as they are now and not for a “potential”?
I’ve touched on this before but it’s all I’m getting at the moment, particularly on Feabie and it’s driving me nuts.
“I’d have been gutted if I’d seen you lose that weight”
“Great figure but a little too slim”
“You must have felt sexier when you were bigger”
“I wish you’d go back to that size again”
“You’d look so much better bigger”
The list goes on.
It’s the equivalent of a “normal” girl being told she’d be so much better if she was thinner and you’d be gutted if she put on any weight.
It’s so triggering for me, it’s saying “you’re not good enough” too fat for society, too thin for my kink. It’s absolutely exhausting.
Yes for those gaining it’s different. And for me in role play or something getting temporarily bigger where I would indulge in the fantasy - fine. But the incessant “you’re not enough, bigger, fatter = better and more worthy” and it’s chasing a never ending, unobtainable goal.
It’s the main reason I end up taking breaks from these spaces because it’s so exhausting never being enough.
Does anyone feel the same? Surely this isn’t exclusively to me and my situation?
6 days
ChellyCurves:
I write the stories from a particular idea that I haven’t seen covered before here on FF. I also LOVE to write romance and like to write a good romance with the fetish thrown in there to help move the relationship forward, like my current work. I dislike humiliation and slob-like behavior so I avoid that in my writing. I really love pregnancy so I tend to write more of that with weight gain happening in the story since I also love that. I tend to write as I go since it’s hard for me to plan an entire story out. Yay for ADHD. :x.
Apologies for dragging this thread out of the ff cellar, but there are ideas here that deserve oxygen and more thought and comments
There's a lot of wisdom here, and I hope a cure for writing block. I have so many things started and so many ideas, I'm about to burst.
Any good tips for getting over the stumbling stone, writer's block?
Also, look back at what these writers discussed years ago. AI has changed us. But let's agree that words have power here, and what's ahead for weight gain romance/erotica/adventure/horror/thriller?
1 week
I also like the idea of the witch (or warlock or wizard) fattening themselves up, so they will have a nice big belly to enjoy their fattened meal.
3 weeks
“Why Not a Joyful Lent?”
Like me, many here are observing Christians, but we find the way the church and society approach Lent to be something anti-joy, anti-body, anti-fat, anti-eating, anti-weight gain.
But it doesn't need to be. As we prepare for Easter, this can still be a time of reflection and joy as well (in eating good delicious foods and pleasure in the consequent gaining)!
I hate that so many people view Lent as something in which you must deny yourself of something pleasurable to the body -- sex, food, smoking, drinking, drugging, etc.
But really, doesn't the Christian God call us to sacrifices which have more to do with our souls and hearts than our bodies.? I think the notion that we need deny our bodies pleasure is one reason so many turn from religion -- especially those religions which so focus upon the body rather than the soul!
It doesn't have to be that way, and really it isn't.
One approach to Lent is to make your sacrifices positive rather than negative -- promoting some soul-enhancing activity instead of denying some "sinful" activity! This could be as simple (or as complicated for some) as random acts of kindness, handing our $20 bills to the homeless, serving others in some reflective way, keeping a "blessing" journal of all your blessings, reflecting upon your personal gifts of grace, hugging your kids more, loving your loved ones more, mending fences with those who you have disagreed with.
How much more in the spirit of Christianity all those "sacrifices" would be than something as mindless and corporal as giving up chocolate or coffee!
I found the following poem/prayer to be most instructive on these notions. Let us fast against our hatred/prejudices, and let us feast upon our joys/loves/heart/soul! I don't know the author's name and have found it listed as "unknown".
"The Fast Life: True Lenten Discipline"
Fast from judging others;
Feast on Christ dwelling in them.
Fast from fear of illness;
Feast on the healing power of God.
Fast from words that pollute;
Feast on speech that purifies.
Fast from discontent;
Feast on gratitude.
Fast from anger;
Feast on patience.
Fast from pessimism;
Feast on hope.
Fast from negatives;
Feast on encouragement.
Fast from bitterness;
Feast on forgiveness.
Fast from self-concern;
Feast on compassion.
Fast from suspicion;
Feast on truth.
Fast from gossip;
Feast on purposeful silence.
Fast from problems that overwhelm;
Feast on prayer that sustains.
Fast from anxiety;
Feast on faith.
May all have a wonderful Lent! Give in to the joys of life! Don't give up your dark chocolate! Give up your dark moods/emotions/behaviors!
Have a great day, all, and keep living life to the fullest
3 months
Each year during Lent, I withdraw from all social media, including Feabie, Fantasy Feeder and DeviantArt. This year, Lent falls Feb.18 - April 2.
I will begin my social media fast early this year due to some complicated, neglected but necessary grieving. I am leaving here and going out into the world beginning Feb.1.
I am leaving behind the busy-ness of this place to take solace in something slower and more soulful. The idea is to make more room, more time and more energy available for new aspects of life rather than scrolling through social media.
I will read real books and hike through springtime hills. I will smell wildflowers and put my hands into soil to prepare the ground for tomatoes, peppers and eggplants.
I will continue to write weight gain and feedist erotica, and I would love to roleplay with anyone who wants to do so through old fashioned email.
If you wish to contact me, email me at
zonker25@gmail.com
3 months
Blueberry123:
Does anyone else have a particular name or adjective that you just love to be called when people comment on your weight? (Either in a teasing context or just generally)
For me it’s “plump.” I can’t explain why, but if someone says I’m plump it drives me WILD.
The language of fat, food, eating, weight gain and feedist is so rich. I’ve written about this elsewhere.
Almost anything anyone says about my belly just makes me so excited.
“You’re getting so big” does it every time.
I love teasing. Being called greedy, a pig, hoggish, etc. Love it all.
Chubby, plumpuous, potbellied, all are lovely things to hear.
3 months
There were some great ones on sound cloud but sadly they seem to have disappeared.
Anyone know where they’ve gone.
4 months
