Bedroom problems with non-fa boyfriend

I've also had this problem. Some of the things you've said are eerily similar ("could just be preformance anxiety" ). It eventually ended a four year relationship for me. Sex was never a top priority for me, but she was a pretty sexual person. So, with the world telling me how important sex is I've gone out and slept with a few women and have found that there are definitely things beyond this kink that get me off, but indulging in it is waaaay easier.

Don't let yourself go insane like I did for those four years. Listen to your body.
8 years