chubbywisconsingirl:
I hope this is in the right section! My boyfriend is not an FA. This is A-OK with me. I don't think he really cares about my weight as long as I'm healthy, and we have a good relationship.
Unfortunately, despite both of us putting forth a hell of an effort, I haven't been able to reach orgasm with him, not even through phone sex. I can only do it when I'm completely alone. The thing is, I usually reach orgasm by myself while thinking about feeding/weight gain and related activities. It became such a habit during years of being single that now I'm worried it's the only way to climax, even though my boyfriend turns me on very easily. I would feel pretty uncomfortable revealing this fetish to him.
I suppose it could just be performance anxiety too, even though we are pretty open and comfortable with each other during sex (save for this deviancy of mine).
I'm curious if anyone else has had problems like this, where they can only get off by indulging in this fetish. The best idea I have is to start thinking solely about him and non-FA turn-ons while going solo, although that has proven a difficult (but possible) endeavor.
Being honest with him once it became comfortable or something might make things work out that way
though I'm not entirely sure.
I've had similar scenarios where I found out I was into belly play and belly-button play, but my lady is not. It gets kinda awkward when I want to do something like that with her and she pushes me away, but that's how life goes sometimes?