As far as I can tell: feederism (feeding for sexual gratification) is a paraphilia as it is something that is para (on the side of) your general love making.
Fat admiration and a sexual attraction to a large body type is not generally defined as a paraphilia, just as one would not define a preference for brown hair, low bmis, sportiness etc a paraphilia.
4 years
Most stuff seems pretty much covered, but it's the adaptation to finding places catering for someone of significant size. The UK is ill equipped with small parking spaces, doorways etc.
Romantic vacations are harder after a certain size as there is often a requirement to buy 2 economy seats etc.
Vehicle choices: a Prius won't work too well if you want to under home from a date.
Clothes shopping for/with her/him is not so easy either which results in a change in gift choices.
Regarding physical stuff outside of the bedroom, I've generally found no difference in energy levels. When I used to date slimmer people I've found a fairly similar spread in "lazyness".
I had a brief fling with a lady just short of 300lbs (5'4) and her favorite hobby was going for long walks in the park with the dogs, 2+hrs. She was still gaining and seemed happy about it but just liked to be out walking in the autumn air. Equally I know plenty of 120lbs couch potatoes.
It's mostly about the size consideration for furniture, transport and other things out of the house where you'll see a difference.
4 years
Edxl:Yikes, sounds like an environment where it would be difficult to ever be comfortable with extra weight
Indeed it is not.
4 years
Edxl:
I wonder if there was something between back then and now that really hurt her? Some guy who treated her badly, a coworker who really attacked her confidence, or the like?
Without revealing too much, she works for a a Forbes list family and slimmed whilst going from a very minor position to being in a very major position.
Whenever we all socialise together with the mentioned family there are occasional comments about her previous weight from the wife and the kids and how she slimmed down.
Her weight loss happene at the same time as the kids in said family started to go to fat camp.
Oligarchs have a lot of social pressure and the spill over to the staff in language alone is quite intense.
4 years
Just_Jess_81:
Is she on this site?
I struggle feeling confident and comfortable with my weight and the way my body looks as well. The person I am in a relationship with had me join this site specifically to help with that.
Interacting and building friendships with those who are similar in regards to weight is really helpful. It makes it seem less like there is something wrong with you, and more like there is something wrong with everyone else who isn't overweight and makes you feel bad or uncomfortable about it.
Sharing pictures helps on here too. It's super uncomfortable and hard to do when you don't feel good about how you look, but getting likes and comments from people supporting you and the way you look instead of putting it down is awesome. People have been cool about it in my experience, not creepy, and it has helped a lot.
If she's not on here, joining might help. Or if she is, maybe participating in things more. It might help with more than just confidence, she might decide if gaining is something she is truly into as well.
I had suggested it but she just occasionally browses without logging in. It she looks at Tumblr where there are a number of BP blogs.
The odd thing is is that from those that have known her longest, it appears about 5 years before I met her she weight in the low 200lbs range and kept a wider circle of friends and was more outgoing including in her attire.
I've suggested a social before but the kids didn't leave time for the outing.
4 years
NeverSayWhen:
My wife felt she was getting too fat and felt uncomfortable in her clothes and self conscious. She peaked at 220 lbs. She's been on a diet for the last few months and is down about 10 lbs.She is still breathtakingly beautiful and thankfully still loves to indulge my kink in the bedroom. We do little feedings and still have desserts, she is just eating smaller portions overall.
I think the best of both worlds is where your girl is at a weight that makes her happy and confident, but she also knows what you like in the bedroom and isn't afraid to bust it out to turn you on.
It sounds like you're nearly there! Be supportive and help her lose some pounds without losing the sexiness.
That is basically what we have fallen in to in the last 2 months.
Also finding good fitting clothing has helped a lot (the move from NYC to London really made is realise that larger European women have a hard time finding ways to accentuate their bodies).
The baby leaves little time for "her time" but he'll be weaning a little next month so hopefully she'll also be able to do more things that make her feel good. She used to go out dancing and do zumba classes even when she was actively gaining, and I think that did a lot for her.
Thanks to all for the advice
4 years
sarabear25:
I'm not really even in the *fat* zone, but I've put on weight since graduating college and I feel this even without a great weight difference. At home I feel sexy but in public I'm more self conscious of my face looking rounder, my stomach, and back fat bulges from my bra lol. I don't know yet if I would want to gain on purpose but I'm trying to focus on enjoying today and not worrying about the next step.
It's seems very similar. I often catch her playing with her now rather fat tummy and it's her go to place with her hands in the bedroom but there's a definite self consciousness outside of the house
4 years
Keep the insulin spikes to a minimum, do it slow and with longer carbs.
Stay off the heavy boozing as well as visceral fat comes on quickly with alcohol consumption.
Soft fat is great and like anything great it's worth waiting for.
4 years
Kiwitou:As long as you eat more calories than you burn it's possible. You should calculate how much calories your body needs per day as someone who is exercising often so you can guess how much calories you need to eat to still gain weight.
I think this link might help:
www.freedieting.com/calorie-calculatorYou just have to eat more than your maintenance daily calories intake.
Yes that!
Note though that being heavy is hard on the joints so you have to stay on top of your nutrition and have some weights days to improve your posture.
My ex played tennis well at about 245lbs but it required more effort than going the same at a lower weight. If you want it, work for it.
4 years
4 cancers have been linked to obesity more than smoking, and correlative not necessarily causal [this is not a multi varied analysis but rather just a general observance on larger health datasets. To play devil's advocate, obesity is correlative with poverty in the US and Europe which is also correlative to most cancers, but when studied being rich and obese does not have a recognisable effect on the likely hood of the same cancers occuring]
There are 10s of cancers linked to being underweight, the same to being an urban dweller etc.
This sort of journalism is ultimately trying to encourage healthy diet and moderate exercise through shock and scare headlines.
Personally I don't believe in the medium to long term this has a positive effect on society but it is attention grabbing.
If you want to be fat and live long and not be a hindrance to a public health care system, do it cautiously and keep up exercise and watch your salt and sugar intake and if you're susceptible: your cholesterol.
4 years
