sheesh yhall give the poor guy a break. I dont know if you have all had a really easy time telling your significant other about your desires but I have an extreamly open relationship which seems to close up when ever I breech subject. I think that there are those people who just cant understand someone haveing a desire to see their partner gain weight.

I could be way off base here defending a total jerk but it does not sound like he is tieing her down and feeding her butter, that would not be very secretive. If she really cares about gaining weight she will diet or curb her portions. and as for having a back bone hows about posting with your SN. It doesent look like you are being very open either.

I do not want to defend someone who is maliciously hurting another but to me it looks like this community is very sensitive about subject intentionally violating another without his or her permission and is reacting negatively to a person whom does not necessarily deserve it.

And as to your post's original question. I find the yahoo groups to have some good before and after pictures.