Furniture

the best made, most durable furniture i have owned in mennonite-made, solid wood items. i don't know if you have access to that kind of stuff in your area? that is where i got a couch, bed frame and a bench.

my partner and i are >650lbs combined, and it has performed well.
2 days

I feel extremely conflicted

Stillaska:
Often I feel extremely turned on from weight gain and often I wish I were castrated, so I would not have this fetish. Ive been fighting with these feelings for pretty much my whole life.


you are still very young, and these really are very strong feelings you are describing.

let me start with: there is no wrong way to feel. feelings are like air, they're there, and we all kind of have to deal with them. but i urge you not to act on those feelings in a way that would permanently damage yourself without seeking the advice of a professional first. the worst case is: you are castrated, but you still have the same fixation, regardless!

i highly recommend finding a therapist if you are deeply conflicted with your desires. talking these kinds of things thru with a trained, objective third-party can be very helpful. (i have been to therapy a couple of times in my life, i am a big proponent, and think everyone should be in therapy! smiley

i suspect most people here on ff, and in the feedist community in general, share an interest in the fetish but don't actually actively pursue it in their real lives. it remains a fantasy for them. and often that's ok, too.
6 days

Telling others

Secretsauce:
Who in your life knows about your fetish? Are people curious why you are gaining so quickly and often?


i don't discuss fetishes with people that i am not engaging in the fetish with, period.

most of my weight gain happened over 3 or 4 years, and it raised a lot of eyebrows with friends and family. i let them know about my lifestyle change (quitting the gym, enjoying the finer things in life like good food and drink), and that i was content with my body as it was.

if any of them ever suspected something else they never said anything.

a few people who knew me in the community (like exes who were my feedees when i was a thin feeder) clearly knew something was up! but i only kept in touch with 3 or 4 people who knew about feedism and knew me when i was in shape.
1 week

Where are all the 40+ folks hiding?

glad to see this thread is still going strong after several year! it won't be long before i'm graduating to the 50+ thread, lol!
2 weeks

Are we still using heavy cream to gain?

Kbfawksy13:
Heavy cream and its usefulness for gaining is more complex than people realise. It has a lot to do with how its used and consumed.

For starters, drinking it straight is not particularly effective. If it doesn't bind to anything in your guts, it basically just acts like a lubricant. The equivalent of drinking oil. The secret is binding it to something else so that it can have the time to be digested.

In our experience, substituting milk with heavy cream for making a box of instant pudding is actually pretty effective! The gelatin in the pudding mix binds really well and makes it more solid. Can be a little difficult to eat the whole thing unless you've trained some stomach capacity, but one box of pudding and a pint of good quality heavy cream is nearly 2k calories on its own.

Some other suggestions for binding it to something: milkshakes, smoothie powders, blended fruits, protein powder, oatmeal, basically anything thick or solid that appreciates milk.

If you're used to dairy products, this isn't a bad way to force some extra calories, but you gotta be wary of cholesterol. Heavy cream is pretty high in cholesterol, so over-relying on heavy cream, or having an already high cholesterol diet and adding it, can lead to heart problems.

YMMV


this is great information - thanks for sharing it! i think it will be really useful for people that are really interesting in gaining.

i get the feeling that chugging straight cream has been sort of fetishized, in a way. personally, when i have experimented with it, it turned my stomach. once something grosses you out, it's hard to even think about having it! i think mixing it into something tastier and more palatable is a fantastic idea.

getting fat should taste good, right? the journey is just as important as the destination. smiley
3 weeks

New here

Twinkywinky:
Hello everyone,

Im new to this site and am exploring other options outside of grommr. I’m 24 and have always liked big men. It’s super manly to me when a man eats big and likes to be big! Love contrast and am open to exploring this world more. I especially like a round hairy belly and men that are a bit taller than me.

Reach out if you’re interested! Would love to encourage any fat guy (gay or straight)


welcome! this is a pretty welcoming community. definitely check out the chat, hope to see you there!
3 weeks

Toronto meet ups

let's do it!

rhino bar on queen west - this sunday, aug. 2, at 5pm!
1 month

Feedist evolutionary psychology

Dispersal6872:
Evolutionary psychology is a theoretical framework that attempts to understand human psychology in the context of evolutionary adaptation. Just as evolutionary biology speculates on the environmental conditions which necessitated certain adaptations of the human body, evolutionary psychology speculates on the conditions that necessitated certain adaptations of the human psyche.

One of the major evolutionary forces is sexual selection. Sexual selection is a pattern of sexual preferences for certain traits between one gender of a species and another. These traits are typically signs of good health and highers chances of survival for the offspring of the mates.

Feederism is a sexual fetish oriented towards weight gain and overeating. These are both activities that would have been exceptionally rare in early hunter-gatherer societies. A mate that could enable such activities would need to be an exceptionally successful hunter and/or gatherer, to the point they could provide such a surplus of food for their partner that their partner could overeat and gain weight.

Such a mate would naturally be equipped to provide for offspring of their partner as well, and their offspring would be likely to inherit these abilities, giving them a better chance at survival. Thus, there is a sexually selective force towards being on the receiving end of the feederism relationship.

The provider end of the feederism relationship would naturally form as a sexual preference over time in response to the presence of individualsworld.he receiving end. But it would take an extremely long time for these sexually selective forces to codify into psychology behaviors that could be inherited genetically.

Because of this, those with the feederism fetish are likely descendants of a long and ancient line of extravagantly successful hunters gatherers. We are simply trying to recreate our ancient deeds in the modern world.


this is way beyond anything that i took in school, and outside of the topics i've read about since... however, i would suggest that the general fatphobic stance of society in general, and the niche nature of communities like this (or even general fat appreciation) would suggest that societal norms promoted through religion, media, etc. play a much, much larger role than this shift away from the hunger-gatherer mode of living.

if you look at the wave of obesity that has developed in the last 30 or 40 years (primarily in north america, but elsewhere as well), even that is more about economics and the commoditization of food. i would not be surprised if there is an economic relationship there, too (more wealth leading to better food, less wealth resulting in more processed food).
1 month

Any regrets

Feedeeinprogress:
I am a new Feedee and I was wondering if any of y’all had gained a significant amount of weight and regret it to the point of you losing it back. just curious.


early on i had a few moments of panic, questioning what i had let happen and resolving to lose weight...

it happened twice in a big way. first was when i'd gained almost 50 lbs, and then again as it got closer to 100 lbs.

but those feelings left didn't last very long. a visit to the gym and a plate of nachos later, and i realized i'd made the right lifestyle choice. smiley
1 month

Sort of personal

The Wicked Pear:
So I've got my bed height raised to the point where I sit up, pivot, and just stand up. Just wish it was just as easy for toilet height as well. Going out shopping for affordable ways to raise the toilet deck. But then I'm wondering if, with the easing of getting off the throne, should I be concerned that my pelvic tilt is too shallow for proper bowel movement?


in hospital i used a toilet seat riser, there are very similar-looking items for sale on amazon.

while i had no issues with the one i used, i would note that the ones on amazon quote a 300-lb maximum weight. not sure where to get something heavier-duty?
1 month
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