Stockylove:
Hello everyone, honestly, I posted this here because I didn't know where else to write this topic, but I think "general discussions" is still appropriate.

Anyway, I needed to share this bitterness and disappointment I feel about men. I've always been attracted to men "in theory," but... I don't know, there are a lot of things I don't like about them, in terms of their mentality and behavior, and ultimately, I even find women better than men in many ways. I think, and perhaps I hope, that you can change my mind about my perspective (which may be partly biased or even wrong, I hope so). I also want to say that I am absolutely not a misandrist, and I hope not to offend any other men who read my post; that's not my intention.

But yes, when I think about the type of man I like, or the qualities I would like in a man, I imagine a mature, empathetic man who listens to others, and I see that all these qualities are more prevalent in women than in men. And there are many more things like that, and points that I find problematic with men and that I find women better at. But it would take too long to list them all. But I find that, on a human level, women have far more qualities that could make me fall in love than men. Unfortunately, I'm a gay man, and I hope I'll meet a man like that someday. I've generally been disappointed by the mentality of men in my life. I know it's linked to social norms, gendered upbringing, and the toxic masculinity we've been taught. But I find it sad; I have the impression that the kind of man who could appeal to me is very, very rare.

Animus:
Is a hot dog a sandwich?

Edddde:
Facebook is banning people especially if you use the instant messaging

I Am Uo:
What did you say to get banned, I'm guessing something that violated their tos

JN_TumLover56:
Ha! That’s what I was gonna say. Or at best what specifically kind of messages we are talking about.

Skinnynomore89:
I’m stuck around 175 no matter what I do. I’d love to get this belly bigger, what can I do?

Delta9:
When did you start noticing you were plateaued, and what have you been doing currently?
Once your body decides on a set point, it really does try to stay there. Just need to find a way to disturb the metabolic equilibrium enough to move the set point up. I mean the obvious answer is just eat more, but you could try crash dieting for a few days with very low calorie intake. Then resume eating in a surplus. That can sometimes disrupt things enough to make your body want to hold onto the extra.

JN_TumLover56:
So I don’t really know how to start off with this but I have to get something a little bit off my chest. It may come off a little bit rant-like so apologies in advance.

Not too long ago I came across and read this article from Maclean’s Magazine, it’s a bit of a read so do bare in mind.

macleans.ca/longforms/the-end-of-fat/

It talked a little bit about GLP-1s and how they have changed/changing the world. The article didn’t villainize GLP-1s but also didn’t romanticize them either, I guess you could say that it was a more “nuanced” take to say the least? Either way from what it was talking about how that one day they might end up becoming more normalized and more accessible in the foreseeable future, which really makes me think that could we actually now be facing the beginning of the end of an era of fat as we know it?

Now there were discussions about this on this site beforehand and for the most part we shouldn’t be pressing the panic button on whether or not that bigger people will still exist and that a feedist community like ours will remind us that it’s a clear choice people made for this preference and kink. And I agree people should do what is best for themselves and their body either be weight gain or loss.

Okay sounds decent alright yes? But the problem is that the moment I step away from this community I’m in the world of glorified weight loss in regard to health, beauty and being acceptable to society because you took care of yourself. Then when people are doing something else to find their happiness (let’s say via body positivity) they get slammed labels like “delusional” or “brainwashed” or any negative-toned buzzword. Then they also see someone like me - a guy who is open for being attracted towards bigger women would be treated like we’re part of the problem, an outlier and not the norm. Only to find myself back to a site like this to “feel safe” as if it’s some sort of coping mechanism.

But… you know what, yeah of course we’re not normal. We are outliers. Men and women who simp on people’s unhealthy indulgences, lifestyles and (for some of us) even pay for it! But at the same time is that truthfully the worst thing about someone like me? Sure there are horror stories and a lot of bad faith actors, but I also like to think that there are others who are not that stupid when it comes to having this preference.

Now I am someone who really does like bigger women, it will be that way for pretty much the rest of my days. Lately I’ve started to become a bit more accepting of GLP-1s a bit more even if I may still have a slight fit towards them. However I’ve also mentioned before in other posts that I worry that one day having a preference like this will eventually become unacceptable. Sure to many cultures it can be a bit taboo, but to one day be something that’s completely outlawed? Yeah I wouldn’t want that to be the reality that I have to live with. I’ve seen people making crude statements and comments wanting people like me gone - all because we are “normalizing what shouldn’t be” the norm in society.

TL;DR… It ain’t always easy to be attracted to bigger women, especially now that we’re in the GLP-1 era. Sorry for my little rant!

Gushloader:
Hello,
are you choosing younger or older partners? Or the age doesn't matter for you? Why your preferences are like that? What kind of attraction the age difference can generate for you?

Hiccupx:
I would say that in general people are less responsive than they were, not just here but on most sites. They seem less inclined to make connections, and many BBW dating sites and smaller sites have died as a consequence. People are more used to content and connections being delivered to them, rather than reaching out to get it.

Aregive:
i keep stuffing myself and hardly getting bigger ugh

Fatboi899:
For the first time ever I just mindlessly ate a entire large pizza all to myself I was shocked at how much I could eat!