it seems to be pretty common that people wish their weight distributed differently. not just among feedists, but just in general.

a couple of years ago my partner and i attended a local meet-up with a bunch of other ff members. there was another couple there that was similar to us (thin gal, very fat guy). he was a bigger than me, but our weight was distributed quite differently. whereas i carry my weight mostly around my middle (belly, hips, fupa), his weight was more evenly distributed. he has a big gut, but also really big moobs, thick arms and legs.

he, like you, wished his fat was more belly-centric, whereas i was jealous of his moobs!

damn genetics!

well that lasted 12 hours!

a couple of years ago i spent several months making an effort to really explore hypnosis. my primary interest was achieving multiple, hands-free orgasms, but i also explored a bunch of feedism files to see if they had an effect. i also listened to a bunch of other erotic hypnosis material.

hypnosis in general: i found the material geared toward relaxation was very helpful. the app called "mindgasm" was perhaps the best in terms of training for building arousal (and eventually hfo - hands free orgasm).

i found that well-produced hypnosis material are very effective in terms of general eroticism. i find i am very tuned-into many of shibby's common triggers after listening to many of her time. as you listen to them, it becomes like training, the conditioning, so it becomes more effective.

as for feedism, i don't think the hypnosis really changed my habits in a meaningful way. it maybe attuned me to the eroticism of feeding a little more. but i can't say that it put 25 lbs on me that otherwise wouldn't have been there.

partly this may be due to the quality of the material. i don't know if there are any really high-calibre feeding hypnosis practitioners out there, like there are in other areas. it's a shame, there used to be a very skilled erotic hypnotist called isabella valentine who was herself a really beautiful bbw. i think she was a bit conflicted about embracing her size, although sometimes she did "play up" her curvy dominant persona. but it would have been great to see if she could have made a truly effective dom feeding experience. but i understand she had some personal issues and has dropped off the radar, abandoning her previous life in erotic hypnosis.

i would love to know if anyone has better examples or experiences than what i have.

it's only $12 for a month of unlimited messages. it's not like you're renting an apartment or buying a car that need work!

just saying... if people complain about the limitations, there's a very simple answer. i'm not complaining. i think what this site offers for free is fantastic - the best on the web!

membership has its privileges!

so right. there is attraction and preference, and then way beyond that is fetish and kink.

i think if you generally find that fit women are more attractive, that is just a preference.

i feel exactly the same, but in reverse! from my teens until i was 40 i was a gym addict. there probably wasn't a week that i didn't work out 3-5 times a week. my life changed when i moved to another city, met someone who really changed my lifestyle, and ultimately becoming the fat guy i am now.

the same as you, i really feel like i've lived (or am living, i guess) two different lives - it's kind of amazing, actually.

totally! when you think about it, gaining is really a type of transformation fetish.

i have known a lot of people (mostly men) who really do get off on bulking up with muscle. and there are a lot of stories here about a cis couple, where the woman gets fitter and stronger while the man grows fatter. this is also a contrast and role reversal fetish, too, i guess.

it's great that you are enjoying your transformation!

your profile says you are male.

i should add that there are lots of other ways to have sex and be intimate other than boring old vanilla penetration!

my partner (amazingem) has posted somewhere on the forums about the kinkier side of this.

there is oral, anal, and a whole host of other ways to derive sexual pleasure. i also spent years trying/learning how to achieve a hands-free orgasm, which is a "next level" kind of sexual adventure beyond what penetrative sex and deliver. i don't necessarily recommend it because it is hard to get to - i probably chased it for almost a decade before i "unlocked" the ability. but if people are interested, there are resources out there (i recommend the mindgasm app for newbies).