i hope not, too.

archive dot org's wayback machine doesn't have the actual dimension site archived, but they do have some snapshots of bbw wiki. the story page is there, but a lot of the stories are missing, unfortunately.

here is my data:

Part 1: About You

1. Gender:
Woman / Man / Nonbinary / Self-describe / Prefer not to answer

man

2. Age:
18–24 / 25–34 / 35–44 / 45–54 / 55+ / Prefer not to answer

48

3. Community role — select all that apply:
Feedee / Feeder / Gainer / Encourager / Fat admirer / Other / Unsure

feedee, fat admirer, former feeder,

4. Current weight — optional:

about 460 lbs.

5. Your own goal weight — if applicable:

current goal is 500 lbs

6. Time participating in the community:

more than 10 years (close to 30)


Part 2: Your Preferences

1. How important is weight gain to your enjoyment of feedism?

4

2. How important is feeding someone or being fed?

4

3. How important is fullness, either your own or a partner’s?

4

4. Which aspect appeals to you most?
Eating / Feeding / Being fed / Weight gain / Fat bodies / Admiration / Combination / Other

all of the above

5. Do you prefer feedism as fantasy, real-life activity, or both?

both, but reality is more important than fantasy to me

6. How important is having a partner who shares this interest?

3

7. How important are signs of growth, such as clothing fitting differently?

3

8. What dynamic appeals to you? Select all that apply.

submissive, teasing (this has changed over time - i started out as dominant before gaining weight)


Part 3: Everyday Life and Acceptance

1. Overall, how does feedism affect your quality of life?

very positively


2. Feedism adds enjoyment or fulfillment to my life.

5

3. Feedism sometimes interferes with my responsibilities or personal goals.

4

4. How has feedism affected your relationships?

both

5. How comfortable would you feel discussing this interest with close friends?

2

6. How comfortable would you feel discussing this interest with family?

2

7. Who have you told? Select all that apply.

partner, close friends, healthcare professional, community memebrs

8. If you keep this interest private, why? Select all that apply.

no desire to share sexual interest with family or strangers outside of the community

9. Would you like feedism to be more publicly accepted?

yes

10. Compared with other consensual adult kinks, how accepted do you think feedism is?

somewhat less

11. Overall, how do you feel about your experiences in the community?

positive

Optional: In Your Own Words

* When did you first notice this interest, and has it changed over time?

first noticed my attraction to fat people while a kid, and was delighted to hear that people put on weight or became fat. as a young, athletic man i discovered the community in the very early online community (late 90s). in relationships i was dominant, thin and a feeder. it wasn't until i was 40 that i started to become the submissive feedee, quite unexpectedly. so i feel like i have lived two lifetimes in the community.

* What would greater public acceptance mean to you?

i think there is a lot of judgement based on perceptions of health. i think if society can accept that people who look fat aren't necessarily hell-bent on becoming thin, that would be a good thing. the hedonism of enjoying food or indulgence should not be automatically a negative thing. it feels like the body-positivity movement backed off a little with things like ozempic coming out, which tells us not everyone felt that it was ok, they were masking for something else.

* What would you like people outside the community to understand?

fat is a beautiful thing. touch it, squeeze it, feel it - it's so wonderful, soft, warm.... it's wonderful! to be hugged by a squishy, fat person is sublime.

thank you! as a reader i really appreciate this.

dimensions is still there, but it is not very active. i can't imagine what would make it worth paying for at this point.

i am old now, and i have been in a few long-term relationships where our kinks did not overlap completely. it really isn't that big of an issue.

if you are attracted to each other, care about each other, and really trust each other, i assume you each care about the other's sexual needs, yes? and you probably get off on seeing the other get off, right?

don't force a scenario on them that they're not ready for. try to find ways to incorporate your feeding interests into a setting that they will also enjoy. my experience is that once a non-feedist partner sees how hot feeding makes you, they will dive in because they want to see you get to that place, and take part in it. just be sensitive to their comfort level. they may get more comfortable if you go easy and slow. keep checking in with them.

if you're both subs, that's a different problem. both of you are going to have to find ways to be service-switches, perhaps, and learn what the other is needing/craving.

after 30 years on playing in kink space, the only thing i am sure of is that nothing is forever - if you're lucky, you never stop learning, experiencing new things, and hopefully developing new kinks and interests. so have fun with it!

wow... lots to unpack there.

if you think you're in a position where a potential partner might judge you because of your soft-core online porn presence, well, i don't think hiding your face or changing your decorations are going to be your most significant relationship challenge, tbh...

as for work, i kind of get it. if you are running for member of parliament or city council, or working for a teacher's union, or maybe hope to work your way up in a prestigious corporate law firm, maybe an onlyfans is not a great idea. maybe the best thing is just not to do it.

i'm not well versed on this subject, but i would guess that onlyfans people who don't show their face likely have limited appeal. it would be interesting to see some stats on that. in the weight-gain/feedist space, i can't think of a successful, long-running model/pro who was faceless.

if you're that worried about the potential impacts of this aspect of your personality/preference/fetish/whatever being know by others, it's best to leave it in the closet, i think. clearly for you, there is a significant stigma associated with it. i don't think the people doing onlyfans (or other sites) are reckless, they've just embraced this aspect of their sexuality/lives and are sharing it. they're adults and i assume they've weighed the pros and cons for themselves. and i think it will be refreshing to have someone run for mayor some day who had an onlyfans site back in their 20s!

the best made, most durable furniture i have owned in mennonite-made, solid wood items. i don't know if you have access to that kind of stuff in your area? that is where i got a couch, bed frame and a bench.

my partner and i are >650lbs combined, and it has performed well.

you are still very young, and these really are very strong feelings you are describing.

let me start with: there is no wrong way to feel. feelings are like air, they're there, and we all kind of have to deal with them. but i urge you not to act on those feelings in a way that would permanently damage yourself without seeking the advice of a professional first. the worst case is: you are castrated, but you still have the same fixation, regardless!

i highly recommend finding a therapist if you are deeply conflicted with your desires. talking these kinds of things thru with a trained, objective third-party can be very helpful. (i have been to therapy a couple of times in my life, i am a big proponent, and think everyone should be in therapy!

i suspect most people here on ff, and in the feedist community in general, share an interest in the fetish but don't actually actively pursue it in their real lives. it remains a fantasy for them. and often that's ok, too.

i don't discuss fetishes with people that i am not engaging in the fetish with, period.

most of my weight gain happened over 3 or 4 years, and it raised a lot of eyebrows with friends and family. i let them know about my lifestyle change (quitting the gym, enjoying the finer things in life like good food and drink), and that i was content with my body as it was.

if any of them ever suspected something else they never said anything.

a few people who knew me in the community (like exes who were my feedees when i was a thin feeder) clearly knew something was up! but i only kept in touch with 3 or 4 people who knew about feedism and knew me when i was in shape.

glad to see this thread is still going strong after several year! it won't be long before i'm graduating to the 50+ thread, lol!