ok, do i need to define "trolling" in relation to this, the original question?

yes, i have lots of exes who gained weight after we broke up. is it something i should post about? no, it's not. it has nothing to do with me.

the only way it is related to me at this stage is thru some voyeuristic lens that *does not include their consent.*

can my partner post here about my weight gain? yes, all she wants. she has my consent.

is anyone having trouble understanding how this works? if it is not consensual, it is likely creepy.

trolling for stories about exes is just creepy in and of itself. there's no consent, and it just cries out for something bordering on revenge.

here's my advice: get over your ex. move on. do it silently, if you can. if you struggle with that, try just not waste a lot of time talking about people who are no longer in your life.

now, if your question is something unrelated to that, then rephrase your question.

dude, read the room... everyone who has responded told you: it's creepy!

rather than doubling, tripling and quadrupling down, either apologize or just move on - every response makes you seem more and more toxic.

yes - please. this is not the first weight-loss scheme. it won't be the last.

people who put on a forced smile and say "i like my body even thought i am fat" thru gritted teeth will use it to try to slim down.

people who really are into fat bodies and feedism will have no interest in it.

cool stories!
have you checked out the story section here on ff? i think some of your stuff would be a good fit for this site.

when i started gaining, i think my periods of big gains were related more to behaviour than a particular food.

my initial gains were fueled by alcohol - going out, drinking a bunch, eating a bunch... then coming home and having another dinner, etc. hangovers are a great motivator to eat more greasy, starchy food, too, i think!

the other habit that made me gain was repeated stuffings: pushing my limits by being fully stuffed, and eating beyond that. if you maintain that for a little while (days and weeks) i think you will find that your actual stomach (the internal organ itself) gets stretched, which leads to two changes: first, you can eat more in one sitting (increased capacity), and second, you will find you get hungrier faster between meals.

my biggest gaining year was in 2020. i lived alone for most of the year, i was not a feedee, i had no feeder... but during the pandemic i was at home most of the time, working from home. and i found i was eating all of the time. all day long, sometimes just out of habit or boredom! that constant grazing and reduction in physical activity really caused me to balloon.

as far as what was i eating - everything! a lot of healthy food, too. i literally doubled my weight in just a few years, and i never drank cream straight, lol. the thing that really caused me to gain (without even wanting to) was that i developed a real love of food, i started to love eating for the first time. so that is a big thing - if you really like what you're eating, if you can't stop thinking about it, you're apt to eat more.

emily's definitely the cute one! (and i'm not just saying that hoping that she will read this and i will score points!)

munchies' advice is right on. you two obviously have a solid, strong relationship, being together that long. just keep the conversation going on what you are feeling, and what you are both finding attractive, and see where it goes.

my partner was into fat guys, we met thru wooplus. after we got to know each other well enough, i shared my interest in feedism with her. i made sure she knew it wasn't that important, there was no pressure for her. it took a bit, but she started to see the aspects of it that she thought were interesting, and we went from there. i don't think she'd describe herself as a feeder or feedist, but we've worked it into our lives and play over the 4 years we've been together.

best of luck!

have a great canada day - and remember, #elbowsup

this is a really interesting topic, i think!

technology is huge - i was a fat admirer (or chubby chaser) before i'd discovered the internet, but i don't know if i even had that terminology to apply to it... it wasn't until i got online that i discovered, holy cow, there are other people interested in this kind of thing! and back then (late 1990s) it was still a very closeted thing. so the interent and communication via social media did a *lot* to connect me to "my people," but it also ramped up the size acceptance movement. now all kinds of people of size are flaunting what they got on tiktok!

i don't think deliveries are a huge factor. i think the change in the content of food has made a much larger impact. not just delivery, but the proliferations of pre-packaged, prepared foods. even when i think back to college, the cafeteria made real food. now those places are just performing an elaborate re-heating exercise in many cases. so i think this change in the actual material of what we're eating has had a very large impact, and why obesity has been on the rise (amongst non-feedists as well!).

geekymngirl's note about information & data is really interesting. a couple of years ago i got an app to track my calories to see how much i was eating, and how it related to my weight. it was a really interesting experience, because it was allowing me to turn my habits into data - something that wasn't really possible before with such precision, before the existence of online databases with all of this info, and a way to conveniently track it. i was surprised to find i was eating over 6,000 calories a day even without stuffing myself at that time!

the tech we need in the near future is one of those hover-belt things that baron harkonnen from the dune books uses, to increase our mobility and allow us to grow even larger.