membership has its privileges!

so right. there is attraction and preference, and then way beyond that is fetish and kink.

i think if you generally find that fit women are more attractive, that is just a preference.

i feel exactly the same, but in reverse! from my teens until i was 40 i was a gym addict. there probably wasn't a week that i didn't work out 3-5 times a week. my life changed when i moved to another city, met someone who really changed my lifestyle, and ultimately becoming the fat guy i am now.

the same as you, i really feel like i've lived (or am living, i guess) two different lives - it's kind of amazing, actually.

totally! when you think about it, gaining is really a type of transformation fetish.

i have known a lot of people (mostly men) who really do get off on bulking up with muscle. and there are a lot of stories here about a cis couple, where the woman gets fitter and stronger while the man grows fatter. this is also a contrast and role reversal fetish, too, i guess.

it's great that you are enjoying your transformation!

your profile says you are male.

i should add that there are lots of other ways to have sex and be intimate other than boring old vanilla penetration!

my partner (amazingem) has posted somewhere on the forums about the kinkier side of this.

there is oral, anal, and a whole host of other ways to derive sexual pleasure. i also spent years trying/learning how to achieve a hands-free orgasm, which is a "next level" kind of sexual adventure beyond what penetrative sex and deliver. i don't necessarily recommend it because it is hard to get to - i probably chased it for almost a decade before i "unlocked" the ability. but if people are interested, there are resources out there (i recommend the mindgasm app for newbies).

i met my current partner when i was maybe 325 lbs. it wasn't really planned, but i introduced her to feedism and it became part of our romantic life, and my weight climbed sort of gradually.

you are so right about fat distribution being a big part of the challenge here... i am pretty averagely endowed, but i already had a significant fupa when we met. by the time i was around 400 lbs, i was pretty much buried all the time.

now, even if you're buried, that doesn't mean you can't have penetrative intercourse. fat is soft, it moves! but eventually as i continued to gain it was just too difficult and uncomfortable to be in a position where it was practical or enjoyable.

i have been losing weight for the last year or so - still not quite down to 400 lbs again yet. but it's funny that my weight isn't coming off the same way it came on. my fupa unfortunately hasn't shrunk back to what it was the last time i was at this weight.

i've noticed a few very short stories popping up that are just teasers, pointing toward someone's patreon site.

this seems to me to be creating a competing sales model to ff's earning accounts, while using ff as the platform to advertise.

admins, what do you think?

i think the comments about the age of this site, changes and moderation are a little unfair. there are a number of active mods, and there have been a bunch of updates over the last couple of years.

are there still bugs and quirks, sure. i almost enjoy the occasional "chat leak" now.

munchies' note re: blocking reducing community engagement got me thinking about the "format" of a site, and how that influences how users interact. for instance, this site is primarily message, forum & chat driven. blocking in regards to personal messages and chat seems pretty straightforward, but in a forum situation it becomes more complex. especially when threads sometimes are active for years!

when i think of social media, i think of x, bluesky and feabie - posts are made, they can be shared, re-shared, and they are not dispersed and not cohesive. comments can be made on the share of the post, and never relate back to the source, etc. in that situation, blocking is much more important because you want to exclude someone's material from your "feed" which is curated by an algorithm. whereas in a forum you just don't open the thing and ignore the thread.

there is another forum that i frequent that has one active participant that i find really annoying. (i am sure others think they're great, not judging - just my taste.) whenever i see they are the last to respond to a thread, i just bypass it. i ignore it. i am not interested.

so i kind of understand the webmaster's stance - what would blocking do our forum? there was one troublesome user some time ago (initials: j.s.) who, i believe was banned from the site. so as long as these individuals are being dealt with, i would say i think it works, doesn't it?

if this is a question about other online feedism spaces, there was a thread on that recently:

fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

if it's an issue with blocking here, maybe post it in the feedback/suggestions forum.