OP, as others have said, you’ve got some options to explore, and you’re reflecting, and that’s good 👍
I’m gonna echo what others have said: no one wants to be settled for. Someone who is open to a romantic relationship without a sexual relationship will still want to be loved and cherished romantically, and not settled for.
Which leads to a question:
Do you know for yourself what it feels like when you experience romantic vs. sexual attraction? Like, when you said you’ve met women you’re interested in and have some compatibility with, do you feel *romantically* attracted to them?
I ask this partly as a clarifying question for my benefit, and partly as an exploratory question for (hopefully) your benefit.
X_Larsson:
@Munchies, I think your comparison of feedism vs homosexuality is a bit wrong, for two reasons.
Sweden isn’t the whole world though. FF has members from all over the world, and there’s plenty of places in the world where the situation is much less favorable for queer folks. Conscientiousness is needed, ya know?
But also, she was right. To my knowledge, there is not anywhere in the world where feedists are systematically oppressed or where they will be the victims of violence (for being feedists). Nor has there ever been. The same is not true for queer folks.
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Re: vanity. I wonder if there’s a cultural or language difference happening here? In the USA, “vanity” is typically seen as a character flaw. Is that what you’re trying to say? Does vain not have this moral connotation in Sweden?
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Total tangent.
Re: kink vs. fetish vs. paraphilia. Whoever corrected someone about feedism being a paraphilia and not a fetish, you annoyed me (I’m fully owning that lol) and you’re incorrect, so I’m gonna out-correct you
here’s my friendly soap box:
Definitions are generally descriptive (ie, how people use words), not prescriptive (ie, there are invariable and “correct” definitions). People in different contexts use words differently. Outside of academic or clinical settings, there’s no real difference between “fetish” and “paraphilia”, or between paraphilia and “kink”. (I rarely see “paraphilia” used). And lots of people use fetish and kink interchangeably too (though yes, some groups care to differentiate).