MarshmallowMinotaur:If you gain and don't like it, you can lose it. Fortunately it's not like a tattoo... not permanent.
I think a lot if not most of us have been conflicted whether to gain or not. At one point it was only when I was aroused that I liked it. As time went by and continues to go by, I love it more and more. Yes, I think about losing but then I ask myself "why!?"
Especially when I see a store window reflection showing how big my belly is getting, how my belt slides down nd how snug my shirts are getting.
It's a process, not an overnight yes or no.
Absolutely. If I gain and don't like it then I can lose it. However, it'll be easier if I make the right choice from the start so I'm giving it a fair bit of thought before I start down either path.
I think that it comes down to me wanting to be bigger. It could be muscle or fat - both have their pros/cons but I just don't want to be thin/scrawny/etc.
An athletic muscle physique is a good look for pretty much anyone and universally acceptable, but it would be a difficult adjustment to work out (don't enjoy it) and watch what I eat (never had to do that before). I believe that I have the willpower to stick with it, but only if I feel that the payout is worth it.
A chubby physique is taboo, but appealing in a sensual way. Eating whatever I want and as much as I want (I would be fairly mindful of health) would be enjoyable on many levels. I'm somewhat of a foodie so the food itself is a motivator. I'm also turned on by the idea of overeating while knowing full-well that it's making me fatter.
Both have their merit, but getting fat has more risk (having to lose the weight if I don't like it, health, social, relationship, etc) but also possibly more reward. In some sense, going for muscle is the easier way out despite the effort required.
One concern is that, while being bigger in any way is a constant desire, being fatter has only been a desire when I was aroused. This has changed recently and I now feel more-or-less neutrally towards getting fat when I'm not aroused. Is that enough of a green light? Maybe I'm more confident so the idea of being fat in everyday life is more acceptable now. Maybe it's just the excitement of realizing that my metabolism is slowing and switch back and cause issues. The whole situation is sexually charged so it's difficult to think about it rationally.
A little context:
My inclination isn't to be massive, just big.
If I go for the athletic look, it'll be a slow process (ectomorph, etc) and I'll just keep at it with no specific goal. I wouldn't expect to really feel bigger for at least 2 years.
If I give in to gaining then I'd start with another 20 (up 25-30 from baseline) and see how I feel. I'd keep up walking/cardio for stamina and maybe a do a little bit of at-home workout so that it's not purely a skinny-fat look (I have very little muscle at present). If all is well, then I'd aim for 50 up from baseline. After that, I probably wouldn't want to gain intentionally but I could see myself ending up +60-70 in the long run.