Hi!! I have a bit of a complicated relationship with gender so I do fall under the trans umbrella technically. I saw this discussion and I think it’s potentially a good idea here— lots of opportunities for important conversations.



Seconded. Consent is incredibly important in all sexual (and others!) situations.
I should also bring up that consent can be revoked at any time! So, while, if someone said yes to something initially, they could say “no” later on, and the proper thing to do is to stop. If they continue, that counts as rape, since the act is no longer desired.

A lot of people unfortunately struggle with setting boundaries or saying no, myself included. I still struggle with it to this day. If you’re one of those people— it’s not your fault. There are just some nasty folks in this world who should know better, but alas…
The advice I can only give to that is self advocacy. Work on yourself, understand your emotions, your strengths and weaknesses. I’m a naturally shy, soft spoken person irl. I practically quadruple check everything I say (which is mentally exhausting) because I’m afraid of being “rude”, (I also have autism— likely alters my experiences as well). Improvement may be slow, but having confidence can go a long way. Easier said than done, but I’d be willing to go into a more in-depth discussion on this (based around my own personal experience).

Speaking of boundaries…

Having them in your bio (not just here but on different sites) can (sometimes) help. Of course the real creeps will look right past them, but I think they’re still important to have. Can work in a way that you quote a line in your bio to them, say “hey, my bio/page explicitly says not to do what you’re doing right now, stop it”. And just draw a line.

Then you can move on to informing others about potential creeps as well. Safety in numbers! You only know what you know, we’re not mindreaders here. So if someone is dangerous, don’t keep it to yourself. Keep records of someone’s weird behaviour. Don’t forget it (and you do not need to forgive it either, even if the person has claimed to change, that is up to you).

I’m not the greatest at giving tips, sorry. Most of this has just been from other people I’ve been around. Being so shy even on the internet, meant I managed to avoid a lot of the creeps, even when I was younger. But I am going to follow this discussion anyways, and contribute in the ways that I can.

ay, I don’t mind either way! i mean i am a sucker for happy trails though lol
as long as someone is happy with what they have, it’s chill. hair doesn’t make someone more or less attractive to me (maybe i’m lying…i do have a slight preference for hair..i will go feral for a happy trail…reacting to me lying i guess)

if it impacts anything, i personally don’t shave. mostly because I don’t really care and don’t see a need to. if someone has an issue with it that’s their problem, not mine. that and some spots itch like hell when the hair is growing back! and the fact that i’m a bit lazy. “it takes five minutes” some people say but i could use those five minutes for things more important to me.

wow my first post on here (in a while) is me talking about my darkest fantasy…lol
feel weird writing this because it’s my first time talking about this sort of thing in a public space. but the thread says “dark fantasy”. and if you’re here, reading this, you’re probably a little weird (like me) so i got nothing to be ashamed about here.

purely a fantasy this, because several parts of this are physically impossible. reallllly leans into the “fantasy” aspect.

first of all, i’d like to be some sort of alien or monster dude. i’ve always had a complicated relationship with my identity. i guess i’m fine being a human but it would be nice if i could shapeshift. that’s a thought i’ve always had so it’s not just constrained to the fantasy.
anyways, I’d //really// like to be some sort of alien and get real attached to some sort of human that comes along. maybe i see him as my mate, maybe it’s something else or just plain impossible to put into human terms. he doesn’t really want this but what can he do? i hold the power here.
also side note, i got a thing for “faceless” (or masked) characters, so he’d probably be hiding his face (at least lower half) in some way. don’t ask how the whole thing works. i dunno.
so you got this guy, maybe some sort of soldier, who i initially scared the daylights out of during our first meeting. but it’s not super dark aside from the fact the attraction is mostly one sided (in my favour).
it doesn’t take long for it to occur to him that i have a strange fixation with keeping him well fed. and emphasis on well, although i try to push his limits almost every time, see how far he’ll let me go. he doesn’t really gain anything. not yet. but eventually something happens, maybe i get discovered and have to go on the run, perhaps he gets hurt in the crossfire — i of course, take him with me. how could I leave the individual i love so much behind? the injury isn’t life threatening, he’ll heal with proper rest. but my past experiences have changed my perspective on things. he’ll be allowed very little freedom, if only to stop him from getting hurt again. and then comes the food. he needs to eat well if he’s going to be strong, doesn’t he? so i make him eat when he would’ve normally been comfortably full. push him to the limits he’d never have reached on his own. i find the changes in his body fascinating. and endearing. with the lack of movement he’s been dealing with, he does start to put on weight. he’s never been fat before. a small part of him likes it but most of him still has somewhat negative feelings about it, but at the very least, knows I won’t let any harm come to him. i’m his sole protector. at a certain point maybe even his caretaker. i keep him on a short leash because letting him out of my sight for too long worries me.

there’s also a different fantasy of “breaking/taming” a normally stubborn/scary/hard dude, and i allow him to act that way to others, but not to me. but i imagine the former gets harder when you’re putting on so much weight. i know exactly how to push his buttons, what makes him whimper. i treat him something like a pet at a certain point. is it…petplay? idk man im just here to ramble. slowly he gets more docile, becomes bit of a sensitive soul at some point. i did it! i domesticated a dude!

both scenarios ideally would include stuffing. to the point of pain maybe.
yeahhh none of mine are happening in real life but they’re fun to entertain. and i can draw and write stories, so that’s nice.