IDontLikeSpidersAndSnakes:
I had never given FUPAs much thought, but when I met K's, wow. It was an appendage! It was soft and mushy and felt good in my hand and nice to lick and she liked me to do it often. I obliged as always, both my hands grabbing the rolls and layers of fat on her stomach as I bathed her.

Now I notice FUPAs on every model I look at and it's a super-hot and stimulating visual. There is so much to get to know about a superbig partner's body, they are all so unique and drive me nutz.

WideJuan76:
She used it her benefit because she knew that I knew that she was in control of how I released myself because I couldn't sexually release without her help. It was playfully sadistic. Lol

WideJuan76:
With the apron came new sensations but with it came a new problem; the fupa and the fat covering my private area made sex difficult because now we both were considered superobese but she made these cute little shirts that would say: "Can she find it ?" in which it was a little joke of our that as I got around four fifty she would joke about how she couldn't find my penis during sex. At first, I was mortified but eventually I got used to it because she said that I was the first male who had his own carry on fat chastity belt.

WideJuan76:
My stomach has always been a problem area for me since my days as a football player but when I got with my ex and she took my down the rabbit hole called Feederism; it has morphed tremendously and to go from one extreme to other is a quirky experience. I went from a ball belly to a hanging gut and the fat I gained was extra squishy due to all of th subcutaneous fat that I agreed that I would gain due to her wanting to be my feeder to the point I surpassed her. Not only did I develop a hanging fat apron; the fat in my hip, thighs and crotch area grew tremendously so once you lay back and can't see past your gut to then dig your member out; I knew then that I was in a territory of extreme obesity but I knew that one day if I kept this up that I might be one of the people on My 600 Pound Life and that turned her completely on but scared me because sexually I was completely dependent on her to get me off and she would use it to her advantage. She had a reward system that if I didn't eat what she gave me then I would not "get off" if she had anything to do with it. Lol.🐽🐽🐽🐽🐽🐽

Depression7:
I don’t even know what I’m hoping to get out of posting here. Let me start by saying I want NOTHING to do with a feeding lifestyle. If you are a couple who is into it and it’s not one person trying to convince another to partake, then honestly no judgement whatsoever. And bravo to the women who own that body positivity. However I am a woman who has been insecure about myself and my weight my entire life. I’ve always been just a little bit chubby. I’ve always had struggles with food. Always had anxiety and depression in some form as far as I can remember. And I have even suffered from eating disorders.

Well probably about 10 years ago (or maybe even more) I snooped on my husbands phone (also have trust issues) and I found this forum and other feeder and BBW fetish sites. And while a little disturbed I was okay with it at first because he wasn’t texting other women, he wasn’t cheating, and he wasn’t looking at women who I considered to be perfect body types that I would never achieve. Plus I had my own fantasies that he didn’t know about... it’s cool we all have our thing right? Nbd.

The only things that kind of bothered me was when I read articles like “how to convince my girlfriend to let me feed her” or “how to feed my wife against her will” because I wanted NO part in any of this fantasy. I did not and do not ever want my husband to look at me as a fat fetish. And even when he tells me that he likes my body when I gain weight, it makes me highly uncomfortable and I don’t like it!

Cut to 2 kids and 80 lbs later, I am about 230 lbs and MISERABLE. I never want to have sex or even change in front of my husband of 12 years, because I don’t like him looking at me like that. Keep in mind he has no idea that I know about his fetish. And I am totally cool with him looking at other women if that turns him on, but to me, I am insecure and I hate the way I look right now. Other BBW women are beautiful to me- when they are confident and own it. I get why he would be turned on by that. But to me, I feel ugly and fat and just so sad and defeated. And the fact that he LIKES it and is turned on by it makes me hate and resent him.

Recently I have found photos on his phone of myself where I look disgusting. And he crops me out. Crops out my face in photos where I have a double chin. Photos of me when I was 80 lbs thinner next to photos of me now.

And my anxiety and depression is really at an all time high as I’m the heaviest I have ever been in my life (not a coincidence- I overeat because I’m depressed/ I’m depressed because I overeat) and I just feel helpless like I can’t stop. And he tries to pretend like he wants to encourage me to be healthier but I know he doesn’t. It makes me want to starve myself honestly, and then when I try to, I end up binge eating because I just can’t stop.

I spent hours this morning crying after he left the house because of the way all this makes me feel. And I don’t know what to do or why I’m telling the group of people who have this very same fetish.

Maybe I’m hoping to get advice from someone like him... would you continue encouraging this lifestyle knowing it made your spouse miserable? Should I be honest and tell him I know everything?

Thanks for listening.

AskDrFeeder:
Letting Goer: You have a good appetite and simply allowing yourself to eat all you want is sufficient to gain.