I just want to give a shout out to the lovely FF member...


LargeHuffer

We were talking about this in the chat room and thought it would be a great idea to put together a list for everyone on the site. We both went away and made a forum post on the topic, so I just wanted to say a big thank you to LargeHuffer for helping get it started!

Surviving the Heatwave – A Fat Person's Guide to Staying Cool ☀️

It's hot, it's sticky and some of us are melting... so let's help each other out!

It's especially hot here in the UK at the moment and let's be honest, heatwaves can be uncomfortable for everyone. As fat people though we often have a few extra challenges when the temperatures start climbing. Whether it's feeling sticky, overheating more quickly, struggling to sleep, or just generally feeling uncomfortable in our own skin, the heat can be a lot!!! Especially if you don't have AC!!!!

So I thought it would be useful to put together a community thread full of tips and tricks to help us all stay cool and comfortable. Feel free to add your own suggestions below as well. The best advice often comes from people who have already figured out what works for them... so please share your tried and tested tips for dealing with the heat!

Eat MORE Ice Cream 🍦
A silly suggestion because I am silly!!! But honestly who needs an excuse? Ice cream is delicious, and it really can help you feel a bit cooler when the heat hits!

Stay Hydrated 💧
This one sounds obvious but it's probably the most important. Keep a water bottle topped up throughout the day and if possible keep one in the fridge so you've always got cold water ready to go.

Ice Packs Are Your Friend ❄️
Ice packs can be brilliant for cooling down but make sure not to put them directly against your skin as they can cause ice burns. Wrap them in a tea towel or pillowcase and place them on pulse points like your wrists, neck, or ankles.

The Frozen Hot Water Bottle Trick 🛏️
Fill an old fashioned rubber hot water bottle with water and freeze it during the day. At night you can put it in your bed before you get in or keep it nearby to help cool you down while you're trying to sleep.

Keep a Cooling Spray Bottle Nearby 🌿
This one is one of my personal favorites...Fill a small spray or misting bottle with cold water and keep it in the fridge. Whenever you're feeling too warm give yourself a quick spritz. Some people also like adding a few drops of essential oils. I personally use mint which feels especially refreshing and cool.

Regular Cold Showers and Cool Baths 🚿
Sometimes there's no substitute for cooling your whole body down. You don't need the water to be freezing cold either. A cool shower can help lower your body temperature and make you feel much more comfortable for a while afterwards.

Portable Fans Can Be Worth Their Weight in Gold 🌀
If you can get hold of one, a desk fan or portable rechargeable fan can make a huge difference. A fan pointed at a bowl of ice can also create a surprisingly effective DIY cooling system. I have a fan that is handless that goes roudn my neck, sort of looks like headphones so I can use it hands free!

Wear Whatever Makes You Comfortable 👕
Whether that's something loose and floaty that covers more skin or shorts and a vest, wear what feels right for you. Light and breathable clothing tend to be more comfortable in hot weather and lighter colours absorb less heat than darker colours. Most importantly, don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't wear because of your size. Also chub rub shorts can be a life saver in this weather as it the heat can defiantly cause friction between the thighs.

Take it Easy🪑
If you need to run errands or get jobs done try to do them in the morning or later in the evening when temperatures are lower rather than during the hottest part of the day. Make sure you're taking regular breaks, sitting down when you need to and not pushing yourself too hard.

Skin Protection Is a Must 🧴
Seriously folks, don't skip the sunscreen! Even when it's cloudy the UV levels can still be high. Protect your skin and reapply throughout the day if you're spending time outside.

A Few More Tips for the House 🏠
* Close curtains and blinds during the hottest parts of the day.
* Open windows in the evening when the temperature starts to drop.



Those are some suggestions but we'd love to hear yours!

What are your favourite fat person heatwave survival tips? What little tricks have you discovered over the years that help you stay cool, comfortable, and sane when the weather decides to turn into the Mediterranean for a week?

Share them below and let's help each other out!

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c00kie
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I completely get this conflict you’re describing...

But I want to start with your last point about feeling like a novelty or that it diminishes who you are. The most important thing to remember is that only you get to define your worth and how you see yourself.
Other people might like, love, fetishize, hate, shame, or even flip between those extremes and how they see you, whether it’s in the fetish community or in everyday life. Their opinions don’t define you and you don’t need to rely on them for validation.It's a hard one to learn and even accept (it took me a while, and I prioritised seeking the validation of others for quite a long time in my younger days).

I can’t speak for all admirers because everyone is different, but there’s always been discussion around how fat people can’t “switch off their bodies”. And sometimes FA's who feel the need to hide or be “in the closet” about their attraction can unintentionally reinforce stigma. When people secretly like fat bodies but openly deny it or participate in fat shaming it can make things feel awful. It keeps the message going that fat bodies are only acceptable in secret. Then the burden of fat positivity falls on fat people...and that can be tough.

But as for wanting to be attractive and desirable all the time, not just seen as a feedee, gainer, or BBW (not for later) that is a completely normal want. Nobody wants to feel like a secret. I’ve personally felt only wanted for my fatness and not for me in the past, and I know how complicated it can feel.

Where does the fat kink identity and fat person everyday identity cross over for us all? I do think that’s a personal thing, and it’s okay for it to be complicated. But at the end of the day your feelings, your attractiveness, and your worth exist independently of anyone elses mindset or kink lens.

Honestly that is so sweet, and I really appreciate the kind words... I'm blushing!

In return, I would like to nominate Stuffytummywriter for being an absolutely lovely kind hearted person and such a talented author! Your stories are absolutely fabulous to read so thank you very much for sharing them with us! 🙂

Is everyone all prepped and ready for their Christmas dinners?

I have been really unprepared this year and still don't have everything in. Currently I have box of mince pies, the big chocolate tubs (celebrations, roses, quality street and heroes - its rude not to have one of each) some Mr Kipling Christmas cake bars and that's it!!!!

I am going to have to pop to the shops toinight and actually try and grab everything for the actual dinner, some nice cheese and crackers, and some savoury snacks. Although I am feeling a little stressed leaving it last minute has been a bad choice, which really has been unintentional, just been ill or busy these past few weeks!

Anyway I hope everyone is more organised than me and not stressing out too much over their festive feasts!!!!

It sounds like you’re in a really emotionally fulfilling relationship, and I think it’s awesome that you respect your partner’s boundaries when it comes to your feedism fantasies. Sex isn’t everything and there are plenty of successful relationships where sex is not a big focus or part of a relationship at all!

About the mutual gaining fantasy... Does it have to be made real? Maybe it could be explored through role play, fantasy, or even small ways your partner supports you indulging a bit with gaining or overeating sometimes? Little gestures could be enough to make this fantasy fulfilling without pushing anyone’s boundaries.

I’ve also been in situations with past partners where I tried things that weren’t really my cup of tea... but I was happy to compromise for their enjoyment, so maybe a chat about it is the best way forward. Just be honest and open and you can't really go wrong.

I’ll also say that for some people sex and kink are a really important part of a relationship, and without that physical desire and engagement they just won’t feel fulfilled. For those folks, it could potentially mean the end of a relationship like hiccupx says. But not everyone is the same and it really depends on how you feel and how your partner feels.

Hope this is somewhat helpful!

Hi folks were just doing an update so chat is temporarily down. Sorry for the inconvenience, and thanks for your patience.

c00kie
FF Team