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c00kie
FF Team

I completely get this conflict you’re describing...

But I want to start with your last point about feeling like a novelty or that it diminishes who you are. The most important thing to remember is that only you get to define your worth and how you see yourself.
Other people might like, love, fetishize, hate, shame, or even flip between those extremes and how they see you, whether it’s in the fetish community or in everyday life. Their opinions don’t define you and you don’t need to rely on them for validation.It's a hard one to learn and even accept (it took me a while, and I prioritised seeking the validation of others for quite a long time in my younger days).

I can’t speak for all admirers because everyone is different, but there’s always been discussion around how fat people can’t “switch off their bodies”. And sometimes FA's who feel the need to hide or be “in the closet” about their attraction can unintentionally reinforce stigma. When people secretly like fat bodies but openly deny it or participate in fat shaming it can make things feel awful. It keeps the message going that fat bodies are only acceptable in secret. Then the burden of fat positivity falls on fat people...and that can be tough.

But as for wanting to be attractive and desirable all the time, not just seen as a feedee, gainer, or BBW (not for later) that is a completely normal want. Nobody wants to feel like a secret. I’ve personally felt only wanted for my fatness and not for me in the past, and I know how complicated it can feel.

Where does the fat kink identity and fat person everyday identity cross over for us all? I do think that’s a personal thing, and it’s okay for it to be complicated. But at the end of the day your feelings, your attractiveness, and your worth exist independently of anyone elses mindset or kink lens.

Honestly that is so sweet, and I really appreciate the kind words... I'm blushing!

In return, I would like to nominate Stuffytummywriter for being an absolutely lovely kind hearted person and such a talented author! Your stories are absolutely fabulous to read so thank you very much for sharing them with us! 🙂

Is everyone all prepped and ready for their Christmas dinners?

I have been really unprepared this year and still don't have everything in. Currently I have box of mince pies, the big chocolate tubs (celebrations, roses, quality street and heroes - its rude not to have one of each) some Mr Kipling Christmas cake bars and that's it!!!!

I am going to have to pop to the shops toinight and actually try and grab everything for the actual dinner, some nice cheese and crackers, and some savoury snacks. Although I am feeling a little stressed leaving it last minute has been a bad choice, which really has been unintentional, just been ill or busy these past few weeks!

Anyway I hope everyone is more organised than me and not stressing out too much over their festive feasts!!!!

It sounds like you’re in a really emotionally fulfilling relationship, and I think it’s awesome that you respect your partner’s boundaries when it comes to your feedism fantasies. Sex isn’t everything and there are plenty of successful relationships where sex is not a big focus or part of a relationship at all!

About the mutual gaining fantasy... Does it have to be made real? Maybe it could be explored through role play, fantasy, or even small ways your partner supports you indulging a bit with gaining or overeating sometimes? Little gestures could be enough to make this fantasy fulfilling without pushing anyone’s boundaries.

I’ve also been in situations with past partners where I tried things that weren’t really my cup of tea... but I was happy to compromise for their enjoyment, so maybe a chat about it is the best way forward. Just be honest and open and you can't really go wrong.

I’ll also say that for some people sex and kink are a really important part of a relationship, and without that physical desire and engagement they just won’t feel fulfilled. For those folks, it could potentially mean the end of a relationship like hiccupx says. But not everyone is the same and it really depends on how you feel and how your partner feels.

Hope this is somewhat helpful!

Hi folks were just doing an update so chat is temporarily down. Sorry for the inconvenience, and thanks for your patience.

c00kie
FF Team

There aren’t as many of us from the UK around, which makes it harder to find people nearby to meet up with in person.

I’ve tried organising a few in person meetups like we used to, but haven’t had much luck as people say they are interested and then bail or ghost. I think it’s just how people are now, everyone seems more comfortable keeping things online, especially since we’re all glued to our phones haha.

The site has so many different uses and there are a lot of people here that are only interested in obtaining / viewing content from others or selling it, and the sense of community and options for dating and friendships sometimes feel like they don't exist. But opportunities are there...sometimes if feels like a needle in a haystack situation. I think you're doing the right thing reaching out to people you're interested in chatting with, and keeping it light hearted. Just keep at it and I hope you find someone lovely to chat with soon!

If I had to give one bit of advice, I’d say add a few pics as that will help people get a better feel of you.

Yes it's open to everyone on the site. We don't have as many males posting picture and video content but we do have a few authors.

There's no cost to sign up.

Commission varies, you get out of it what you put into it really. If you post good quality content regularly then you'd do better than someone who posts once a month for example. It is more if a side earning thing, we have had some earners get over $500 per month but the highest earners on average get around $250 - $300 per month, obviously this isn't guaranteed as its based on people upgrading to view your content. So if you have high appeal then you'd get more interest.

Let me know if you have any other questions.

Take care
c00kie

We have earnings account here on Fantasy Feeder. Earners can post premium videos, pictures and stories.

If that's something you are interested in then you can apply via the relevant page 'there’s one for web models and one for authors'. Go to the 'work with us' section on the right hand menu and apply.

Take care,
c00kie
FF Team