I don’t know about other women but for me it’s more about the person. If they are bigger then that’s fine. I just want them to be healthy if I’m in a relationship with them. Before I had a boyfriend and I was just having little flings I was down to hook up with bigger guys. Bigger meaning like how Jason Siegel is or Chris Pratt in parks and rec. not huge but just a little extra. It was cute to see how their tummy would spill over their waistband. It was even better if they were comfortable with me grabbing it or talking about it. If they ate a lot I got to play with it and they would talk about how tight their pants were. It was exciting. But I hung out with them cause they were cool. I liked the person. I liked their smell and voice. And obviously I just liked being around them and yes they knew how to get me off. But yeah it doesn’t mean I’m exclusively into big guys. I love my boyfriend and I love his body, he’s in amazing shape and I find it hot. I do not have any desire for him to gain. I don’t particularly think a lot of fluff would look good on him also I don’t think he would be happy that way. He knows about this and is happy to learn to talk dirty to me about it or he’s open to me teaching him how to do that. I’m very uncomfortable with it. But yeah it’s not on him. I just feel silly telling him to talk about ill fitting clothes or weight gain. But yeah for me it was with some people I enjoyed whatever place they were at and enjoyed any novelty that happened. As in if they got fatter it was fun to play with. I didn’t cause it and it was never intentional. But it was kinda fun. But yeah I think most people are just concerned about health. At least I am. I don’t want my partner to die early or have health problems lose mobility or lose their vitality and virility, strength is hot. I tended to go for strong big guys. But yeah my boyfriend is not that much taller than me. Not fond of that part. But he’s super strong. He’s hot in a conventional sense too. I love him for him though. So it mainly depends on if they like you. I never intended to go after bigger guys. It just kinda happened that way. The ones whose personalities I liked and where I liked their smell and voice and how they were with me were bigger guys. That’s it. The fetish this is a separate thing for me.

So this is in relation to what inspired my story “how Jack got fat”:
Sorry im not great with punctuation. I had a neighbor named Jack he’s not my neighbor anymore. But while he was I went through a breakup. I had told him that if he wanted to get girls in this area he needed to hit the gym more and get rid of all this (then I had patted his middle). He was much softer than he was when I first met him. And he had argued that the dad bod was in. I had said that he should deal with it now cause he was only 23 plus it would take so little effort to get back in shape. He said he was simply sick of working out after being an athlete for so long. And yeah so I honestly was very turned on catching glimpses of his softness. I started paying more attention to his habits once I patted his middle. I told him that some girls actually like big guys. I kinda went into a weird mode of explaining that I liked guys typically for their smell and their voice over body. And at one point after getting weirdly close with him we ended up cuddling a lot. And I noticed he had started eating more. He clothes seemed a bit tighter. I knew he had already eaten when I came over or when he came over. But still I hadn’t and if I ordered food I would ask if he wanted something because it made it cheaper when deals were going on. He always said yes. He would Venmo for the food. If I made food or tried out recipes he always ate some or ate the stuff I didn’t like. He kept commenting on how he had gained weight. He would randomly tug up his shirt and rub his stomach. I would pretend to not be interested. But I honestly couldn’t look away. And we eventually ended up making out when we got high together. And I of course couldn’t help but grab his middle. I think he started eating more to try to get my attention. It worked. I even noticed that his ass was overflowing his boxers a bit more. He still kept his broad shoulders and strong back and nice chest albeit a bit softer. But it was just he was more substantial and softer. There was more to hold onto and more that rolled over his waistband. We ended up sleeping together on a regular basis. He would get weird about his belly but still wouldn’t stop eating like shit. It was hot to feel him grow but yeah I still felt guilty. I’m pretty sure he just got carried away or maybe it was just getting comfortable. It drove me crazy when he would over do it. He would go change into sweatpants or those shorts guys always have. I loved feeling his fat beneath my fingers. He got mad at one point because he said he stopped trying to workout cause he already knew he was going to get laid so why should he try. He said he got complacent. I had told him that he shouldn’t have done that because it wasn’t a serious relationship. So it didn’t end well. But it was fun to see his clothes getting tighter. I still feel guilty. But just I don’t know now it kinda drives me crazy when someone talks about their clothes getting tighter. I just think of their belly rolling over their waistbands. Or I think about that time at the beach where I came up behind him and grabbed at his waist and how soft and doughy he was. I would have loved to see him gain more and enjoy it fully but sadly that didn’t happen. But I’m not the one who made him gain weight. He did that on his own. I feel bad though cause I didn’t realize how much he liked me. But still though that dude put weight on fast. It was fun to play with.

Okay so my boyfriend said he has a higher body fat percentage than he would like. He said he wants to be at 15% body fat or below. Right now I guess he is at 20%. I’m so confused by this because first off he looks way more muscular and built. Second he’s not fat at all or even more whatever. Third is that he has clearly put on more muscle. It was fucking annoying to hear. He said that his concern over the percentage has to do with longevity and setting himself up for success in his later 30s and 40s and so on. He said the muscle now will make it so his body will have a tendency towards that. I understand that just I am really digging how he looks. I’m worried he will get all scrawny or something. Idk I’m also just dealing with a lot of stress right now in general because a lot of my work got very inconsistent so I’m on edge already. But yeah I mean I told him all of this. But yeah idk I’m so confused. I never think about that stuff cause I have a tendency to straight up forget to eat even if I’m hungry. To the point where I’ll have a meltdown and not realize it’s from forgetting to eat. I’ve been in shape and strong and healthy all my life. Most of it probably underweight not on purpose though. A lot of food just did not agree with me. Apparently I can’t handle things with corn syrup in them or dairy and just a lot of processed stuff messes with me. So I tend to only want to eat useful food. And I won’t eat the food if it doesn’t count as useful. Just I often would rather not eat than eat stuff that will make me sick. I honestly was not aware that he would get crappy food on the days that I’m not with him. I also am not as affected by food in terms of body composition. I either have more layers of muscle or I just have less on me. As in I lose the fat first and I guess would gain the fat last. It’s strange. It sounds like a good thing but it can be bad if I get sick or am unable to get the food I need. That’s why I’m so confused by his whole percentage thing. Idk sry this is so random.

First let me preface this with the fact that I am female and identify as such. I love my body how it is. I work out a lot. I feel better when I do. I am a 32E. I don’t wear bras because they tend to put a lot of pressure on the lymph nodes and just I end up panicking when I have to wear them. My point is that the way I avoid back pain and other issues is by doing specific exercises. If you work all the muscles that support you breasts it will help. Obviously it probably won’t shrink them but it will set up a foundation of support. I know people on here are interested in gaining. But you can still gain and work out just the chest and back. And if you do cardio it may take weight from your chest. It depends on how and where you gain. Also maybe it’s what you are eating that contributes to more weight to go to your chest. Also a lot of the food in America has stuff in it that causes weight gain in strange ways. So maybe look into that? I don’t know. Just I know that for me I can’t eat a lot of over processed stuff because it makes me sick and anxious. I also can’t handle dairy anymore. The dairy thing is rather recent. So it might be something in the food. Maybe you might be able to do some research and then you can still gain weight in a way closer to what you want. I just know that for some people certain foods cause certain gains and certain exercises cause certain changes in their body. Maybe you can ask an Instagram person? I know that my friends sister in law is a naturopathic doctor specializing in woman’s health and hormonal stuff. Maybe ask someone like that? But I guess they would have to also advise you to do healthy stuff in general due to the oath they took as a doctor. I don’t know I hope some of this helps.

It depends on your relationship with feederism. For me mine doesn’t typically extend into real life much. Yes i am excited by tales of weight gain. Yes I am excited by muffintops. Yes the opportunity to stuff someone if that was what they wanted or I don’t know it is so oddly specific for me of a headspace for it that feederism for me simply exists as masturbatory material. It’s split from my relationships and what I want from a partner. My boyfriend knows about it. He is perfectly willing to read stories to me or make some up to get me excited if I want or need that. But I do not want him to gain nor do I want to feed him. Also I would be a bit annoyed if he got fat. Like if he did it on purpose. I am very attracted to him in every way. He’s super fit and has abs and all that. Hes an amazing person and all the things I want. So for me I write about feederism. I write stories. I recount memories, fantasies, dreams, people, random annecdotes, I watch porn, i read it, I get off to it. I am more comfortable with that. I told him that one wrong word, or my mindset changing during him trying to tell me a story about it, would make me shut down. It would leave me embarrassed and feeling guilty for asking him to participate in something he isn’t into. And yeah he said that there is no reason to feel that way. He said he would be happy and turned on cause of my enjoyment. Anyway for me it exists as a separate part of my sexuality. And I am way more comfortable with that. I have been a feeder before and it made me wildly uncomfortable and it felt like someone had violated my privacy. So yeah it’s whatever works for you. I made this choice on my own because of my relationship with this fetish. Human sexuality is interesting like that.

My friends and I went out to eat and one guy at our table said he already shame ate an entire pizza that morning. And then he ended up eating another pizza, two orders of cheese bread, wings, and nachos. And he kept talking about how full he was. He got dessert too. He rubbed his belly while he was forcing it down. It was so hot to see him leaning back in the booth with his belly hanging out. He kept saying he went a bit overboard. I was very uncomfortable.

I dated a guy for a long time that gained and lost weight really easily. I remember him starting out squishy and I loved watching his belly hang over his jeans. It was so soft. I’d make food and everytime he would just keep eating as long as there was food in front of him. Then he’d try to lean forward and would grunt and groan and complain about being stuffed. And finally he’d be like well looks like if I want to move I need to unbutton these. Then he’d lean back and suck in to unbutton his jeans. He’d end up kinda sweaty. It was weirdly hot how out of shape he was for his size. Like he was just soft and really doughy. I remember asking if he was okay and he just said he’s just in horrible shape. He said oh yeah all I do is sit on my ass all day eat sleep and study and that’s why I’m like this. Then he shook his fat. We would normally hang out on Thursdays and every time he came over he looked bigger and would be slightly winded from my stairs. There weren’t that many stairs. He would get out of breath so easily now. His belly hung over his sweatpants. He also sunk into the couch so much. He actually got out of breath giving me a massage. I don’t know to me it was super hot seeing him constantly change weight. It meant that he was always so soft and doughy. I could use him as a pillow. So much to play with all the time. But yeah him constantly having to lean back to make room for his stuffed belly was hot. And eventually you could see the outline of just all of it through his shirt.

I published two new premium stories and it just still says pending on them. Anyone know why? I’m disappointed