It depends on what’s in the gainer shake and how well your body handles it. If you’ve made the shake fairly nutritionally balanced (or if it’s balanced out well by the rest of your diet) and it’s just adding calories, it’s excellent. If it’s just very heavy on sugar and/or fat and not much else, it might make you sick if you try to drink it too long-term, especially if you’ve got preexisting stomach problems. In that case it would be better for one to three week gaining cycles with periods of normal diet in between.
1 week
How do you manage food noise with getting things done in your life? I recently started a new medication that, in addition to being very helpful for the medical issue it was prescribed for, has also caused me to experience food noise for the first time in my life. I’ve been gaining without even trying, which has always been my biggest fantasy and it’s like a dream come true in a lot of ways. I finally enjoy eating and want to do it when it was always just a chore. I’m hungry all the time and can eat all I want, and I’m beyond excited to start an actual intentional gaining cycle once I have more free time, because I think I will really blow up faster than ever before.
Unfortunately, I also have a job and need to clean the house, run errands, etc. It is super fun when I don’t have anything going on, but it is so fucking distracting and annoying when I am trying to do something else. Eating only gets rid of it if it’s a whole big meal that takes a long time to cook and almost as long to eat. I don’t have time to just cook and eat all day, as hot as that would be, and many of the things I have to do aren’t multitasking friendly. I don’t have money to order takeout all the time, either. Is there anything cheap you buy and eat that is satisfying enough to deal with it for a while? Is there any way to put it off and focus on other things and just binge later? How do you live your life?
1 week
I have been actively gaining again lately and run into a problem I’ve never dealt with before. I have a friend who is over at my house frequently, and he always wants to have some of whatever I’m eating or drinking. Since I’ve picked out my food and drinks with the goal of gaining weight, that’s a lot of very calorically heavy stuff. On occasion he has even seen me having a gainer shake and asked if he can have one. My friend is asexual and to my knowledge he is not a feedee, he just likes heavy foods and doesn’t care much if he gains or loses weight.
What is my responsibility in this situation and how can I deal with it without telling my friend I have a fat fetish? Saying anything like “Uh, you can have one if you want, but just so you know this drink is like 1000 calories” in a conversation with someone who doesn’t count calories seems like it’s inappropriate and possibly fatphobic, and like it would invite unwanted questions about why I’M drinking it. It doesn’t bother me if he eats my food but I want to be sure I’m not accidentally “secretly fattening him up” or whatever since that’s unethical.
2 months
Viktoshka:
I want to ask people who were thin before and decided to gain weight. After you gained weight, do you regret doing it? If you don't, then share your experience of gaining weight. How did you do it?
I used to be dangerously underweight to the point I was almost institutionalized over it. I managed to gain to the higher end of the healthy BMI range and have never regretted it at all, although there are a few garments I miss fitting into! It’s also difficult for me to eat enough to maintain my weight sometimes.
The initial thing that allowed me to gain weight after years of trying and failing was a combo of the depo provera shot and appetite stimulants, then after I had gained about 20 pounds from that and had to quit the shot due to side effects, I gained another 30 or so pounds by forcing myself to eat more and drinking heavy cream. Sadly I did lose about 15 recently from not eating enough, but I’m working on gaining it back, hopefully with a little extra.
2 months
If you don’t have one already, get a device that will allow you to make espresso. You can get stovetop pots pretty cheap, or a machine if your budget is higher. In my experience, putting cream into normal coffee tends to result in a strong and unpleasant creamy flavor, but the stronger flavor of espresso masks the cream more effectively, and the small size of an espresso shot lets you get a full serving’s worth of caffeine out of a drink that is mostly cream by volume. I also add a couple tablespoons of brown sugar to mine and some cinnamon on top.
2 months
I love these little Lithuanian honey cookies, I think the brand is Amberye. I can eat a whole bag of them, and that’s over a thousand calories.
2 months
Finickyfeedee:
I recently got a remote control wearable vibrator and would like to use it to try to condition myself to eat more. Has anyone got experience with this? What’s the best way to do it - every time you eat (within the bounds of appropriate settings, of course), or only when eating a specific fattening food to try to form a strong connection? Or is it more effective to do it only when stuffed to your limit?
Munchies:
It depends on what you're trying to achieve. Keep in mind, you are tying sexual pleasure to an act to achieve a desired outcome.
If you tie sexual pleasure to a specific food or beverage, then you'll get horny whenever you encounter it. If you tie the act of eating (in an appropriate context) to sexual pleasure, then you'll tie your specific flavor of feedism to sexual pleasure.
There is a flip side to this. If you enhance your desire to eat with sexual pleasure, you tie your sexual pleasure to your desire to eat. This can form addictive behaviors. I highly discourage doing this solo because it is very easy to go off the deep-end.
I've done this with a number of feedees, and it's always a good time. But when I do, I have to monitor their behaviors closely and intervene if they start going off the deep end. Also, if you decided to stop or cut back for one reason or another, it's exceptionally hard to stop.
Finickyfeedee:
What I’m hoping to achieve is for eating to actually be pleasurable in some way instead of just a tedious means to an end so that I actually want to do it.
Having historically struggled badly in the other direction, I’m not too worried about risks - even in a worst case scenario, being unable to stop would be infinitely better than my usual problem of having long periods every month or two where I can barely eat at all due to lack of appetite and food just seeming disgusting. It makes gaining hard which is annoying but it also makes just functioning pretty hard when it’s particularly bad. I’ve tried just about everything to get out of that cycle but nothing has worked, I’m hoping this will.
Munchies:
Well, you know yourself better than I, love. I wish you the best.
Sounds like you have a sensory issue, tho. Are you on the spectrum?
Yes, but even for people on the spectrum it’s worse than average - it’s to the point it qualifies as SED (selective eating disorder). I’ve almost starved to death from it before although it hasn’t been THAT bad for many years now. So when I say everything, I do mean everything! For a while I was on the big guns appetite stimulants that are prescribed to cancer patients which helped but not enough because even though they made me hungry, they still didn’t make the food taste good. I’ve had some success with weed but I can’t just be high all the time, it isn’t practical or affordable.
11 months
Finickyfeedee:
I recently got a remote control wearable vibrator and would like to use it to try to condition myself to eat more. Has anyone got experience with this? What’s the best way to do it - every time you eat (within the bounds of appropriate settings, of course), or only when eating a specific fattening food to try to form a strong connection? Or is it more effective to do it only when stuffed to your limit?
Munchies:
It depends on what you're trying to achieve. Keep in mind, you are tying sexual pleasure to an act to achieve a desired outcome.
If you tie sexual pleasure to a specific food or beverage, then you'll get horny whenever you encounter it. If you tie the act of eating (in an appropriate context) to sexual pleasure, then you'll tie your specific flavor of feedism to sexual pleasure.
There is a flip side to this. If you enhance your desire to eat with sexual pleasure, you tie your sexual pleasure to your desire to eat. This can form addictive behaviors. I highly discourage doing this solo because it is very easy to go off the deep-end.
I've done this with a number of feedees, and it's always a good time. But when I do, I have to monitor their behaviors closely and intervene if they start going off the deep end. Also, if you decided to stop or cut back for one reason or another, it's exceptionally hard to stop.
What I’m hoping to achieve is for eating to actually be pleasurable in some way instead of just a tedious means to an end so that I actually want to do it.
Having historically struggled badly in the other direction, I’m not too worried about risks - even in a worst case scenario, being unable to stop would be infinitely better than my usual problem of having long periods every month or two where I can barely eat at all due to lack of appetite and food just seeming disgusting. It makes gaining hard which is annoying but it also makes just functioning pretty hard when it’s particularly bad. I’ve tried just about everything to get out of that cycle but nothing has worked, I’m hoping this will.
11 months
“Big Boy” by SZA
11 months
