The irony from this is that I find that the women who want to be thinner/healthier apparently like their man to be bigger than them. 😅

I can even say from my own dating experience from some people I have spoken towards.

The whole “pay to play” thing isn’t anything new in the kink community. I get the importance of the community part of it and in the grand scheme of things I do seek that special acceptance from someone who I could develop a relationship with in this space.

But at the same time I also come to understand that this is also a business. Just like other kink spaces out there. It’s especially true if it’s someone is someone’s side hustle to make an income, if they were a model/content creator.

As for my personal experience, yeah I’ve had my fair share of getting scammed and moments of letting some people down (and not to mention the criticism on the forums). But this particular site is one of the better ones that I’ve been apart of. Could I go other ones? More likely, but I always have trouble figuring out where to go. Especially where it feels safe to be myself within this current social climate of 2026.

Just thought that I would bump this up in case if anyone has anything new to say/add.

I’m planning and working on doing a presentation of some sort where I talk openly about my preference for liking larger women. And I’m seeking anything to gather any sort of insight or really anything that I could cover that would help me out, yes this includes Feedism. Thanks!

I have seen some of the Archive videos over on StufferDB if you can just search for her name. 👍

Hey just thought I would comment on this because this was very well said!

As someone who is open for having an attraction for someone who is extra curvy or straight up fat, I can definitely say that the more you are willing to admit and accept that part of yourself then the more that you will be able to embrace that part of yourselves respectfully. Of course it’s also important that we should also be attracted to the person for who they are as a human being besides the exterior level of attraction. I always say that “physical attraction may get you in a relationship, but emotional attraction will keep you in one”, it’s true because we’re not always going to look the same all the time as we go through life.

There is no doubt that we are in a really strange time period now with the rise of GLP-1s and the antagonism towards body positivity. And I fear that for some people like us might go into hiding because of avoiding being the centre of criticism. However I like how we’re also having open discussions like this to not only help those people accept their particular preferences again, but also seeing the grey area and balance between fantasy and reality.

Hey I have tried to look up on the link but it wouldn’t let me read it without singing up to Vox’s membership. But I did found something that is just as interesting.

glamour.com/story/the-body-positivity-movement-isnt-dead-even-if-it-feels-like-it-is

I have read about it myself and it definitely does resonate with me a lot, especially of the current events that are happening right now.

I wonder if this is how it all started with the vore fetish?

I wouldn’t necessarily say that I would get a “dopamine rush” per se, but I absolutely do LOVE it when someone has the time to write a message to me on a site like this! Either that they want to thank me for liking a picture or tell me something that they appreciate for sharing my insights, or just straight up saying “hello” to me.

Either way it’s great to be able to talk to people who make the time or just answer questions y’know?

As far as I know these are mostly towards more adult content and stuff that normally would get censored for 18+. Sure that might be a good thing right? Well the issue that a lot of people are having with this is because it’s requiring personal information like an ID to be shared, this means that it’s gonna be more vulnerable to people to hack into it and steal sensitive information.

Not too long ago this is exactly what happened with Discord for people who were verified (that required ID) and it resulted in a bunch of people’s information getting leaked.

While I understand the intent behind it, this is why people are so hesitant in sharing personal data online. No matter how much we sanitize the internet, the online world will always never be the safest place for a little kid who doesn’t know what they are doing.

Funny thing I don’t think it’s often talked about that even people like us who like bigger people get our fair share of hate as well. I’ve been called many things like: “Delusional/Disgusting” “Torta Pounder” “Liar” “Liberal” and things of why that I even find someone bigger than me attractive while saying such dehumanizing terms.

People who don’t understand something are going to hate it, it’s basically an easier response in a way. I know that it’s not very fun to be at the receiving end of the negativity from people. But for me personally I try my best to prioritize my own happiness over other people’s opinions. In fact, this should be about YOUR love life and should be about what YOU are attracted to. And if others tell you otherwise, then it’s on them and what they have been indoctrinated into believing.