Cady55:
First, I’ll admit by saying I’m a horrible person. (Let’s look past that) I have been cheating on my husband with a guy I work with for about 6 months now. I finally got a conscience and decided to break it off. Come to find out, this guy is a closet feeder. Told me if I stopped hooking up with him he would go to my husband. Now, he doesn’t just want sex, he wants to make me fatter too. Now the problem is, I find it kinda hot. 🙈
Munchies:
Nah, not looking past that. Sort your shit out and come clean to your husband. Don't be shocked if he leaves your ass.
I don't understand why talking through your issues with him or divorcing him wasn't an option in your head before you got to this point.
I've been in happy, open relationships before. It was fine if I wanted to enjoy someone else because we established that boundary beforehand. All was well. Never cheated because I'm an adult and act like it.
RenaissanceGuy:
Munchies, while I enjoy your bluntness and think your overall message is generally right, your approach is as childish as the OP's approach to their situation.
Yes, people should communicate with one another, yes people should be forthright about their situations. The thing is, not everyone is you. Not every perception or set of contexts is yours. Leave your toxic behavior in a League of Legends forum.
As to the OP, you should talk with your husband, and work through it, whether together or separately.
It's more that we get posts like these all the time. How real they are is debatable, but every time it plays into a very clear cheating/humiliation fetish.
First she cheats, then he blackmails her into staying. Eventually she works up the courage to break it off.
This is all good and well.
But then she finds out that she can indulge her fetishes with him, she wants him back.
This is where she loses me. She wants to keep whatever benefits she has with her husband while also enjoying her fetishes. And this is after she's worked up the courage to cut it off.
I could understand if she hadn't reached that point yet. I could understand if she was staying with him due to the black mail but took solice in the fact that they have similar kinks.
This isn't what's happening here. I'm not being toxic. I'm simply fed up.
